My Dad Thinks That Violent Video games Can Influence Me Negatively, And Unfortunately, He's The Dominant Parent

Long story short, due to the subject that was explained in the title, I am incapable of playing video games (at least when I'm in his line of vision). This, of course almost made me want to kill myself, because I had built a life upon these "violent video games." Examples: Destiny, Overwatch, COD BO III, Warframe, Battlefront, Titanfall 2, WoW, LoL, and probably at least 40 more. The thing that makes this strange is that he was fine with this for 6 whole years, then out of the blue, "No more violent video games." (Yes I realized what i just typed looks/sounds incredibly stupid) He says that because of this, I won't be able to make friends (I primarily make friends off of these games and have made at least 1k, about 980 of those friends I don't know anymore though), won't be able to get a job (wtf it's just a game), and will become extremely violent in the future if I keep playing (*facepalm*).

I have poured at least a year worth of total time into these games, and I really do not want to just give up on them. Also, he knows that millions of kids have tested on this subject and almost none have been linked to violence, and he is simply trusting his "common sense" here. And this is where I get to the questions that I want to ask people.

Notes: 1. I am 11 2. Sorry for making this such a long rant

1. Is this stupid?

2. Should I be capable of playing violent video games like millions of other kids do?

3. Is there any definite (or at least highly likely to prevail) way to convince my dad otherwise?

Hajackto is a troll or idiot, there are no studies that support that it does what your dad and jack says.

Honestly your dad is just an idiot who has a very weak grasp on reality. Sounds like you just have weak social skills which has very little to do with video games but entirely to do with yourself. Video games as a hobby is more practical and useful than watching sports as a hobby and I'm sure he does that..

If you can't get a job as a gamer, it's because you lack self control and qualifications for getting said jobs, the only risk is that it takes over your life and thus don't have time to work for a job, however that's for everything including spending time pestering your son about how bad video games are.

The world doesn't care what he thinks is common sense, facts are objective no matter what he says. Life is pretty much a constant state of survival and entertainment, you work/survive to enjoy yourself longer until you eventually die. It's a really basic premise.

What to tell him? That's your job, I'm not there to hold your dick and listen to the things he says as he says them. Press on the fact that the reality is that it doesn't do what he says and he's just living out past stereotypes created by extremist clickbaity media from the early 2000's who were scared of something they didn't understand since gaming has slowly been gaining prominence and is pretty mainstream at this point.

It probably can and does. It makes you into mentally delayed shut ins with mock ADD/antisocial traits who can't and won't relate to people. It's damaging to your health and your brain.

He's your parent and he is responsible for making these kinds of decisions in your life until you are of age to do so yourself. Retailers can't sell violent video games to underage consumers so your dad restricting you from playing them is no different, they have ratings on them for a reason, so parents can make decisions for what their children play. The fact that you say that this almost made you kill yourself kinda shows that your dad has made the right decision. You are simply going to have to abide by his rules until you are old enough to make your own decisions, that's really all that there is to it.

Depending on a child's ability to separate reality from the virtual, it can definitely influence particular aspects of their development. Kids learn by repeating things they see on TV, movies or in games. I was the same way, except I wasn't violent per se, because I was influenced by the right material (heroes like Batman and such, "standing up for the innocent").

A 7 year-old playing Rockstar's Manhunt would likely create an exceptionally violent child if there wasn't a parent around to give context to the content they were ingesting.

Games have ratings for a reason, just like movies. It's the parent's responsibility to control what their children see and play, and I give your dad kudos for being a proper parent and taking interest in your life. Not all kids are as lucky as you to have a parent that cares about them.

You need to grow up a bit. You are 11 years old. You should be having the time of your life. You have no responsibilities and have total freedom. Revel in this freedom because in 7-10 years, you are going to regret wanting to grow up so quickly.

Wait a second. You're only 11? Sorry but you need to be 13 or older to create an account here.

Well.... it seems like you dont need to play violent video games, you just played a violent forum and shot yourself in the foot.

You're 11? Sorry bud, you should listen to your dad, he is the boss. Them's the rules.

With that said, have you talked to him civil-like about it? Tried a compromise?

Also I think you violated the terms of use here by opening an account at age 11.

Make his life a living hell as a result. He'll get tired of beating you eventually and concede. Just make sure to take every little thing to the maximum extreme while reminding him how violent video games releases your anger and he can make it all stop and go away if he just gives back those privileges.

Is your dad a Christian ? **** Christians.

First of all, internet friends are not the same as actual friends. Yes, you can chat with them, but everyone needs a life and friendship away from the keyboard. I'm sorry, but those 980 people are not friends, they are at best, acquaintances that you may play a game with, possibly chat with. But friends are people you can count on, that you can vent to, that you can go out to the movies with or share a meal with.

Second, what else do you do besides play video games? Certainly if the thought that you couldn't play violent video games had inspired even a passing thought of suicide indicates that maybe you should be doing things away from your computer.

Don't get me wrong -- I'm not saying that everything your dad said is correct. But if you are 11 and so much of your world revolves around video games, maybe you need to listen to your dad. Video games are not inherently bad for you. But if you are playing so much that you are actually missing out on creating REAL friendships, then you really are playing too much.

I'm going to shut this down. The TC is in violation of the terms of use