Why am i always scared to play a match online???

Im scared to play online even when im fairly good at the game... I Enjoy playing multiplayer games because i win most of them time. But for some odd reason its hard for me wanting to play a match online. Am i just low in confidence when it comes to multiplayer games? Let me know if you have ever felt like this and your reasons to why?

I had this problem when I played WoW, and I've noticed that it extends to other online pvp as well. It's not so much that I'm scared to play, as much as the community pretty much scarred me for life. The thought of getting involved in any pvp community just makes me go cold, because I'm not a violent person and I hate the fact that you can work your ass off and still be called trash by people who are worse than you because you're not "the" best.Greyfeld

I was playing Forza 3 online, I was coming first, and this guy bumped my rear in a corner and he spun out of control, then he started trash calling me and blaming me for the crash, then told everyone to vote me out. Which surprisingly i did get voted out. This made me feel not wanting to play forza 3 online anymore, or maybe ill just play with no collisions so i dont get blame for something that i didnt anything wrong and then get voted out.

The only time i have apprehensions about playing online games because of the possible fear of losing is with strategy games that has been out for awhile. Think Sid Meir's Civilization Revolution and Tom Clancy's End War. I did bit the bullet with SMCR a couple months back and actually got ranked 6th place in the world in Free-for-All. But it took a lot of getting myass kickedand some people taking the time out to teach me the latest tactics. Which iswhy i putgoing online for such a long time becauseto get good at games like that when its been out for awhile means there are already advanced tactics. Thats a game i wished i could have played when it first came out but didn't.It was so bad with Tom Clancy's End war i didn't eventry to play online and i just sold it.

The only time i have apprehensions about playing online games because of the possible fear of losing is with strategy games that has been out for awhile. Think Sid Meir's Civilization Revolution and Tom Clancy's End War. I did bit the bullet with SMCR a couple months back and actually got ranked 6th place in the world in Free-for-All. But it took a lot of getting myass kickedand some people taking the time out to teach me the latest tactics. Which iswhy i putgoing online for such a long time becauseto get good at games like that when its been out for awhile means there are already advanced tactics. Thats a game i wished i could have played when it first came out but didn't.It was so bad with Tom Clancy's End war i didn't eventry to play online and i just sold it.

Trinitarian

When i play with friends, i dont mind losing to them.

[QUOTE="Greyfeld"]I had this problem when I played WoW, and I've noticed that it extends to other online pvp as well. It's not so much that I'm scared to play, as much as the community pretty much scarred me for life. The thought of getting involved in any pvp community just makes me go cold, because I'm not a violent person and I hate the fact that you can work your ass off and still be called trash by people who are worse than you because you're not "the" best.2uneek4u

I don't know how familiar you are with WoW pvp, but when I used to play, I was big on Arena PvP, which can be played in teams of 2, 3 or 5. I played mostly 2v2, because it was hard as hell getting a group of decent players together on my server.

The thing is, I'm not a player that comes up with strategies on my own... I'm not as creative as I'd like to be, so my skill comes form research, practice and repitition. It took a few months before my partner and I started really improving, and we got to the point where we broke 1900 (your team got points for winning, and lost points for losing, and you started at 1500 for a new team... the best teams were in the 2300-2400 range), and if my partner hadn't disappeared, we would have quickly gotten into the 2000 range. The thing is though, despite having a decent score, the pvp community is full of trash talkers and douchebags who believe that certain cIasses get an automatic free pass to 2000 rankings, and if you don't get that score, then you must suck horribly. Despite the fact that most of these same players couldn't break 1700 with a gun to their head, and an IWIN button taped to each finger.

Nevermind that we were the highest ranking team on the horde side of our server, the fact that we were running druid/warlock as a 2v2 team and weren't 2400 meant that we sucked. I just got tired of the bullcrap, and feeling like all my hard work meant zilch. And unfortunately, this is the kind of attitude I equate with pvp now, so it's hard for me to get into it, despite the fact that i actually love pvp.

Now, I don't know much about online play with the PC and other systems, but with the DS I don't go on near as often because I know that hackers and cheaters lurk on Mario Kart DS, wiaiting to ply their cheating ways on legit players.

I use to get this with DOW. I got over it after to some time. Its a funny feeling and i know what your refering to tho i have defeated it now.

I only played a MMORPG in the past (not being real time as Wow) and tried Runescape before that, but quited it so soon after a random guy came at me talking sh** and i did nothing! i was like wtf? what's up with him, then continued and in the next town there were more like him, so i decided to quit. My other experience like i was saying was Fallen Sword and there i had some great moments and made good friends, but i quited it too, as it wasn't a skill mmorpg there was no problem at all here, and less ppl talking trash.

just turn your headphones off.

I only avoid playing rts games online. Not because I'm not good at rts games (although I'm not that good at them eighter) but because of the constant bs that flows through your way through chat. Everyone is so easly blames anyone else for their own faults, it's like people are gathered there to satisfy their self-esteems instead of having fun.

Other than that I have no problems.

Now, I don't know much about online play with the PC and other systems, but with the DS I don't go on near as often because I know that hackers and cheaters lurk on Mario Kart DS, wiaiting to ply their cheating ways on legit players.

Calvin079

i was worried/scared of playing MW2 online at first, mainly because i never played the first one and at that point i hadn't played any games online competitively except for gta 4, which is just messing around and having fun usually. especially after the first match i played where i had no kills and a bunch of deaths. but that "fear" eventually made me better because i would try harder. now i got like a 1.5 kill/death ratio and do pretty well usually.

I felt that way alot when I first started playing online. For me, it was a confidence thing also. Only because I knew in the back of my mind there is always someone to criticize your actions and some people take games more seriously than others and are gonna really let you have it if they think you caused thier team to lose a match, or didn't do this or that the way they think you should have. i've ran into alot of those, especially playing Left4Dead, and have learned to ignore those a-holes. Alot of times I've noticed in that game they will say, "Why didn't you help me! Those Zombies were all over me and YOU didn't help you #%*#@, didn't youSEE them???!!! Then I calmly reply, " Well, I would have helped you but I couldn't because of all the Zombies that were on me, didn't you see them?" To hell with people anymore. I don't care what they think of me.

Wow!!

You guys are really sensitive!

I'm far from very good at any online game but I don't let people's opinion of me stop me from playing a game I enjoy. In fact a lot of on-line behaviour, especially silly or stupid, actually amuses me. If you have good self-esteem and you know you didn't do anything wrong, who cares what some retard says? Don't let the stupidity of some online wankers, who probably wouldn't say much if you were sharing a basket-ball court say, discourage you from all the fun these games give you. Insults only have as much effect on you as you let them, and as another poster on this thread said, if it gets too much, turn off your headset. You have as much right to be there as any MLG Pro.

Game on!! :D

Wow!!

You guys are really sensitive!

I'm far from very good at any online game but I don't let people's opinion of me stop me from playing a game I enjoy. In fact a lot of on-line behaviour, especially silly or stupid, actually amuses me. If you have good self-esteem and you know you didn't do anything wrong, who cares what some retard says? Don't let the stupidity of some online wankers, who probably wouldn't say much if you were sharing a basket-ball court say, discourage you from all the fun these games give you. Insults only have as much effect on you as you let them, and as another poster on this thread said, if it gets too much, turn off your headset. You have as much right to be there as any MLG Pro.

Game on!! :D

Krystyan68

First and foremost, not every community is represented by a headset. In the case of WoW, the majority of the community interacted through the Blizzard forums. And if you want to have legitimate discussion about pvp tactics, you can't just not go to the forums. And let's not forget that on XBL and PSN, people can email you after your match to harrass you, which isn't unheard of in the slightest.

Secondly, I'm glad that you feel that you can just shrug it off, but you don't speak for everybody, and many people don't like putting up with douchebags and verbally abusive people in general.

Id neva played online mp before i had a ps3 and so it made me resistant to trying it as i didnt know what i was doing. I had no friends that had a ps3 either and so i pretty much had to jump in on my own if i was going to do it. I always thought i was alright at games but didnt kno how i would compare to others and feared getting kicked out of games or trash talked if i wasnt any good.

Seeing all the things that i was missing out on (everyone always seemed to be raving about their experiences online) made me want to be a part of that and so i picked a game i thought i was better at n gave it a go. neva looked back. online mp is one of my fav things to do n there are always new people joining so ur neva the only one.

[QUOTE="Krystyan68"]

Wow!!

You guys are really sensitive!

I'm far from very good at any online game but I don't let people's opinion of me stop me from playing a game I enjoy. In fact a lot of on-line behaviour, especially silly or stupid, actually amuses me. If you have good self-esteem and you know you didn't do anything wrong, who cares what some retard says? Don't let the stupidity of some online wankers, who probably wouldn't say much if you were sharing a basket-ball court say, discourage you from all the fun these games give you. Insults only have as much effect on you as you let them, and as another poster on this thread said, if it gets too much, turn off your headset. You have as much right to be there as any MLG Pro.

Game on!! :D

Greyfeld

First and foremost, not every community is represented by a headset. In the case of WoW, the majority of the community interacted through the Blizzard forums. And if you want to have legitimate discussion about pvp tactics, you can't just not go to the forums. And let's not forget that on XBL and PSN, people can email you after your match to harrass you, which isn't unheard of in the slightest.

Secondly, I'm glad that you feel that you can just shrug it off, but you don't speak for everybody, and many people don't like putting up with douchebags and verbally abusive people in general.

Fair enough.

What I'm probably trying to say is if you go online to game, develop a thick skin to insults/verbal abuse, It's part & parcel of the experience. I've received post-game messages as well usually to the tune of " u suck noob!!" or something equally eloquent. If you let people offend you in this way you give someone else control over your emotional state, personally, I wont let them. Usually there are avenues to pursue if you feel someone is particularly bad. But I wont be driven away by insecure morons from a pastime that I really enjoy.

What I'm probably trying to say is if you go online to game, develop a thick skin to insults/verbal abuse, It's part & parcel of the experience.Krystyan68

Im scared to play online even when im fairly good at the game... I Enjoy playing multiplayer games because i win most of them time. But for some odd reason its hard for me wanting to play a match online. Am i just low in confidence when it comes to multiplayer games? Let me know if you have ever felt like this and your reasons to why?

2uneek4u

I have the exact same thing. I'm actually quite nervous whenever I even enter a lobby. It's just that I know I'll hate losing. Not that I'm one of those losers who starts throwing things, screaming, and crying, but it just annoys me.

If I do go online, it usually won't last long (let's say more than an hour). If I keep losing, I won't think it's much fun and quit. If I keep doing good, occasionally winning, I will want to quit before my lucky streak wears off. If I keep winning by a lot, I'll think it's boring and quit. I guess online gaming just isn't for me, even though, or perhaps because, I'm quite competitive.

It may be worth noting that, with local multiplayer, I'll preferably do co-op.

Sorry, I don't think thats ever happened to me :?

[QUOTE="Krystyan68"]

Wow!!

You guys are really sensitive!

I'm far from very good at any online game but I don't let people's opinion of me stop me from playing a game I enjoy. In fact a lot of on-line behaviour, especially silly or stupid, actually amuses me. If you have good self-esteem and you know you didn't do anything wrong, who cares what some retard says? Don't let the stupidity of some online wankers, who probably wouldn't say much if you were sharing a basket-ball court say, discourage you from all the fun these games give you. Insults only have as much effect on you as you let them, and as another poster on this thread said, if it gets too much, turn off your headset. You have as much right to be there as any MLG Pro.

Game on!! :D

Greyfeld

First and foremost, not every community is represented by a headset. In the case of WoW, the majority of the community interacted through the Blizzard forums. And if you want to have legitimate discussion about pvp tactics, you can't just not go to the forums. And let's not forget that on XBL and PSN, people can email you after your match to harrass you, which isn't unheard of in the slightest.

Secondly, I'm glad that you feel that you can just shrug it off, but you don't speak for everybody, and many people don't like putting up with douchebags and verbally abusive people in general.

[QUOTE="Greyfeld"]

[QUOTE="Krystyan68"]

Wow!!

You guys are really sensitive!

I'm far from very good at any online game but I don't let people's opinion of me stop me from playing a game I enjoy. In fact a lot of on-line behaviour, especially silly or stupid, actually amuses me. If you have good self-esteem and you know you didn't do anything wrong, who cares what some retard says? Don't let the stupidity of some online wankers, who probably wouldn't say much if you were sharing a basket-ball court say, discourage you from all the fun these games give you. Insults only have as much effect on you as you let them, and as another poster on this thread said, if it gets too much, turn off your headset. You have as much right to be there as any MLG Pro.

Game on!! :D

jo-joGun

First and foremost, not every community is represented by a headset. In the case of WoW, the majority of the community interacted through the Blizzard forums. And if you want to have legitimate discussion about pvp tactics, you can't just not go to the forums. And let's not forget that on XBL and PSN, people can email you after your match to harrass you, which isn't unheard of in the slightest.

Secondly, I'm glad that you feel that you can just shrug it off, but you don't speak for everybody, and many people don't like putting up with douchebags and verbally abusive people in general.

*Shrugs* whatever you wanna say. My girlfriend doesn't seem to mind. And I know damn well she doesn't lose sleep over the fact that I no longer throw mice and controllers across the room because some douchebag got under my skin.

As another person stated earlier, if putting up with those type of people is "part of the experience," then that's an experience I can do without.