A coworker I know was pregnant. She was only 6 weeks along, but I just heard that she had a miscarriage and lost the baby. I'd like to send her a sympathy card, but I don't know if I should. I don't want to butt into her personal affairs. She didn't actually tell me she was pregnant, but few things at work are secret. Anyone have any advice?
Goodness yes that is a very personal and painful thing indeed! I wouldn't send flowers or any condolences in my opinion. If you aren't close enough to her for her to have told you she was even pregnant then chances are you will make her feel very awkward. I would just be sensitive to the situation and be subtle about kind words or actions you guide her way.
If you guys are friends then I suggest that you try to talk to her and ask her if she's OK, you don't really have to mention the pregnancy unless she brings it up... About the card, I really don't know if that's such a great idea...
My mom had a miscarriage before having me, and they only planned on having one kid. So I really lucked out that the other kid died. :) Anyway, don't send a card. Do it in person if you know her well enough, and if you don't, then forget it ever happened and go on with your life.
"sorry to hear about the loss..."thats what i would say, but what a while to make it seem like you got it from the rif raf, she won't feel like her privacy has been violated
[QUOTE="Dark__Link"]My mom had a miscarriage before having me, and they only planned on having one kid. So I really lucked out that the other kid died. :) Anyway, don't send a card. Do it in person if you know her well enough, and if you don't, then forget it ever happened and go on with your life. Same with me...and then I found out that my dad wanted my mom to have an abortion with me.
[QUOTE="andyxm"][QUOTE="Dark__Link"]My mom had a miscarriage before having me, and they only planned on having one kid. So I really lucked out that the other kid died. :) Anyway, don't send a card. Do it in person if you know her well enough, and if you don't, then forget it ever happened and go on with your life. Same with me...and then I found out that my dad wanted my mom to have an abortion with me. Ooo burn!
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