Ok this is a long story but I'll break it short for ya'll. I used to hang with a group of people, and I mean it is a big group of people that are part of a youth & student organization. So in 2009 something happened. I got into a fight during one of the event hosted by the group. Let's skip what happened because it is a long story. So some of the members blackmailed me, and got me into a court case. Due to blackmailing I got sentenced to do community service. And ever since then, I am no longer part of the group. It is like they are scared of me or trying to avoid me. They act different when I meet them, but before the event that occurred they used talk to me, laugh with me and have fun with me. I know that you guys don't know me, but I tell you from the bottom of my heart that I am truly a nice guy, and I am innocent too. So my question is... Am I a social outcast? Did I exile myself from them, or are they avoiding me? Or am I just being over dramatic?
Then I guess I'll just have to blow the whole organization! Time to start a massacre /sarcasm Well, not sure how to elaborate the story. The fight that happened was that I kicked a guy on his back while he was struggling against my brother, and that wasn't a hard kick at all. He didn't even notice it, so that was a wimp kick. But then these "witnesses" blackmailing me by telling the judges that I kicked, hit, verbal abusing and broke his nose which was highly irrelevant. And this happened in Norway if that is relevant at all. So now the people I used to be friends with don't talk me, make any contacts etc. Like I said, I feel as if they are avoiding me, or am I avoiding them?
What are you innocent of? I thought you said you got into a fight. Anyway, you should probably meet other people and take a martial arts class. That way, you'll learn some some self-discipline.
Well this sucks. You know I heard from a girl that is possibly the only person from the group that isn't avoiding me is because I used to date her back then. Anyway, she overheard from one of the witness during a party event that he said negative stuff about me. So rumors are going around to other people now, and it really sucks. I can't be for sure what he said about me though, but I will ask her one day.
[QUOTE="Welis"][QUOTE="Javieralijandro"]I say beat their ass. Put them in a van, and show em a good time.Javieralijandro
I don't hit girls... But I would gladly hit the oth... Why? You sexist? No... It's not me. Actually I am a pacifist. Only reason I "Kicked" that guy was in defense of my brother. But I've learned my faulty action, and reinstated myself as peace.
How did their blackballing you get you community service?
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Well, they said a lot of lies that made the judges believe that I was a violent person. The picture of the victim shows he had marks and scratches, but all that was by himself because he was drunk. From what I've heard from the others was that he tripped a lot outside. The only damage that was made by me was that sissy kick on his back. And my brother was holding him back because he was aggressive after being thrown out from the party.
[QUOTE="Welis"][QUOTE="Javieralijandro"][QUOTE="Welis"] I don't hit girls... But I would gladly hit the oth... Why? You sexist? No... It's not me. Actually I am a pacifist. Only reason I "Kicked" that guy was in defense of my brother. But I've learned my faulty action, and reinstated myself as peace.Why did you jump in? You should have just let them settle it.
[QUOTE="chilly-chill"][QUOTE="Welis"][QUOTE="Javieralijandro"] Why? You sexist? No... It's not me. Actually I am a pacifist. Only reason I "Kicked" that guy was in defense of my brother. But I've learned my faulty action, and reinstated myself as peace.Why did you jump in? You should have just let them settle it. I agree. Let one of them kill the other, that'll teach em.
[QUOTE="chilly-chill"][QUOTE="Welis"][QUOTE="Javieralijandro"] Why? You sexist? No... It's not me. Actually I am a pacifist. Only reason I "Kicked" that guy was in defense of my brother. But I've learned my faulty action, and reinstated myself as peace.Why did you jump in? You should have just let them settle it. I wanted to support my brother, so I intervened with that silly kick...
[QUOTE="Welis"][QUOTE="chilly-chill"][QUOTE="Welis"] No... It's not me. Actually I am a pacifist. Only reason I "Kicked" that guy was in defense of my brother. But I've learned my faulty action, and reinstated myself as peace.Why did you jump in? You should have just let them settle it. I wanted to support my brother, so I intervened with that silly kick... Even if it was a wuss kick, you don't jump in unless someone else does. Lesson learned, even if it was blown way out of proportion by witnesses.
IF they're not fond of you anymore just leave it alone. Dont pursue it, just walk away when you know you're not wanted. Fix yourself & maybe one day they'll want to hang around you again. The last thing you want to do is try to get close to people who dont want to be close to you right now. Maybe they need space.
People stop hanging around & start hanging again in the future. This happens all the time. You break up & maybe in the future you make up. Then maybe it happens again. I've been on & off with alot of people over the course of a life time
I knew one friend in my life who destroyed his friendships with his freinds then would try to be their freinds again, which only irritated them & further pushed them away. You dont want that. Just let it be, & dont take it personal because if you start taking it personal, or have any hostile thoughts you'll never keep anybody in your life.
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