Am i an a-hole?

Well recently i dumped my girlfriend because she started cutting herself and really going downhill and what not. but she was begging me to get back with her and that she'd stop doing it all but lo and behold she started doing it again so i had to dump her again.

so i ask you this

am i an a hole?

Yes.

You're bailing on her when she needs you, and only intensifying the problem. If you had half a brain, you would try to treat the cause, not the effect. (sorry if that came off sounding harsh, but I just think what you did is kind of selfish.)

i know a girl who does the exact same thing and i know for a fact it was to guilt her ex-boyfriend to come back and to get some attention. you did the right thing. anyway, make sure her parents know about her activities.

Yes.

You're bailing on her when she needs you, and only intensifying the problem. If you had half a brain, you would try to treat the cause, not the effect. (sorry if that came off sounding harsh, but I just think what you did is kind of selfish.)

eo12601

Yes. You ditched her, when she was going through rough times.

yeah but shes got nothing to be sad about shes got a great family and friends and people who care about here

but she just keeps doing it, she says its her "hobby" i mean wtf.

yeah but shes got nothing to be sad about shes got a great family and friends and people who care about here

but she just keeps doing it, she says its her "hobby" i mean wtf.

Jakesgotbeef

If she cuts herself, then she has a serious problem. She could have depression, or something.

i know a girl who does the exact same thing and i know for a fact it was to guilt her ex-boyfriend to come back and to get some attention. you did the right thing. anyway, make sure her parents know about her activities.

LoG-Sacrament

[QUOTE="LoG-Sacrament"]

i know a girl who does the exact same thing and i know for a fact it was to guilt her ex-boyfriend to come back and to get some attention. you did the right thing. anyway, make sure her parents know about her activities.

dooly420

LOL. So you would get back with her? Most guys would turn tail and run if they heard those words. Kudos to you for having the balls to own up to responsibility (even though it was a lie).

Only way to make her stop is to show her that all she needs is you. i think your not expressing enough love and she feels like she shouldn't live because there is no love in her life.

guide her, be with her, and show her that cutting herself will make her lose the one thing that loves her. YOU.

[QUOTE="dooly420"][QUOTE="LoG-Sacrament"]

i know a girl who does the exact same thing and i know for a fact it was to guilt her ex-boyfriend to come back and to get some attention. you did the right thing. anyway, make sure her parents know about her activities.

eo12601

LOL. So you would get back with her? Most guys would turn tail and run if they heard those words. Kudos to you for having the balls to own up to responsibility (even though it was a lie).

i guess since you gave her a second chance and she continued you had every right to dump her.Blitz_Nemesis

nono, there is a lot of love and hate relationships and we all know it. there will be a rough road in all relationships, all different kinds. but this can be fixed and fixed permanently.

just need faith, and express yourself as the one and only. 3am she wants you to come pick her up because she's going to cut herself? get your ass up and get her, go get some ice cream from a 24/7 store and just think of good times. blocking those bad thoughts that make her want to cut herself will be the cure of her problem.

my .02

lol. id have been out of there the second she told me...

- i cut myself

- GIIIIRRRLRL!LLL!! YOU CRAZY!

- *sobs* you must stay!

- awwww im sorry brb *out the window*

lol, and id get her a 6 piece knife set for Christmas. "it can cut through a drinks can, then slice a tomato clean in half!!"

btw i did tell the parents and let all the people who care about her know, and they said they already knew and theyve tried to get her help she already had 2 shrinks and a drugs councillor but she doesnt even take drugs :/

i just think shes and attention seeker

I'm detecting a-holes in this thread's vicinity!

Yes.

You're bailing on her when she needs you, and only intensifying the problem. If you had half a brain, you would try to treat the cause, not the effect. (sorry if that came off sounding harsh, but I just think what you did is kind of selfish.)

eo12601

[QUOTE="eo12601"]

Yes.

You're bailing on her when she needs you, and only intensifying the problem. If you had half a brain, you would try to treat the cause, not the effect. (sorry if that came off sounding harsh, but I just think what you did is kind of selfish.)

quiglythegreat

Maybe. If she's just an attention seeker, then yes, you did the right thing. But if her problems are real, well, it's not like it was the best time to leave her.

I know it would be hard to take care of her, one day you would feel like very, very tired, and lose it. But you should try, even if for a bit.

[QUOTE="quiglythegreat"][QUOTE="eo12601"]

Yes.

You're bailing on her when she needs you, and only intensifying the problem. If you had half a brain, you would try to treat the cause, not the effect. (sorry if that came off sounding harsh, but I just think what you did is kind of selfish.)

xaos

2nd.

[QUOTE="xaos"][QUOTE="quiglythegreat"][QUOTE="eo12601"]

Yes.

You're bailing on her when she needs you, and only intensifying the problem. If you had half a brain, you would try to treat the cause, not the effect. (sorry if that came off sounding harsh, but I just think what you did is kind of selfish.)

joao_22990

2nd.

You can at least try, no?
If you can't...or let's say: if you don't want to...then yes...you're an A-holemastersword007

I can't believe how many "Yes's" I see.

Dude, you did the right thing. The only person that can help this girl, in the end, is her, not him. Its not his responsibility to be her baby sitter. The inexperience of people on this threat. People, you have to start becoming alittle more selfish, and alittle less soft.

You get to a point in your life where you just get fed up with this type of drama. Its unnecessary. The girl isn't going to kill herself, she's an attention seeker, and anyone who goes through those types of length to get your attention is just not worth it. If you see someone has "those types of problems" you have to get away from it. Its going to destroy you. People need to stop thinking they're a Knight in Shining Armor and realize you can't help people like that.

He told her parents, thats all he should do, and thats it. Thats as much as you do.

My ex girlfriend was a cutter,and honestly man, theres a lot of other baggage that comes with it. I thought I could help her, and I was so emotionally drained, that I just couldn't do it anymore and actually started to have panic attacks. And you'd be surprised how absolutely ungrateful people can be. And when you date someone whose crazy, you start becoming crazy also. You start taking on their bad attributes.

You did the right thing man. Your not an a-hole, your a human being who did the right thing for yourself, and in the long run, did the right thing for that girl.

I can't believe how many "Yes's" I see.

Dude, you did the right thing. The only person that can help this girl, in the end, is her, not him. Its not his responsibility to be her baby sitter. The inexperience of people on this threat. People, you have to start becoming alittle more selfish, and alittle less soft.

You get to a point in your life where you just get fed up with this type of drama. Its unnecessary. The girl isn't going to kill herself, she's an attention seeker, and anyone who goes through those types of length to get your attention is just not worth it. If you see someone has "those types of problems" you have to get away from it. Its going to destroy you. People need to stop thinking they're a Knight in Shining Armor and realize you can't help people like that.

He told her parents, thats all he should do, and thats it. Thats as much as you do.

My ex girlfriend was a cutter,and honestly man, theres a lot of other baggage that comes with it. I thought I could help her, and I was so emotionally drained, that I just couldn't do it anymore and actually started to have panic attacks. And you'd be surprised how absolutely ungrateful people can be. And when you date someone whose crazy, you start becoming crazy also. You start taking on their bad attributes.

You did the right thing man. Your not an a-hole, your a human being who did the right thing for yourself, and in the long run, did the right thing for yourself.

InterpolWilco