Am I over-reacting?

This is going to be a paragraph or so...

So here we go. So I just recently started dating this girl. Now one of my real good friends, my room mate in college, is acting real weird. Maybe I'm just being paranoid, but I definately know that he used to like her. He was interested in another girl though, and since I liked her too, and she liked me, we started talking, and eventually we started dating. The other day he told her something was wrong, he didn't tell her what, he just told her something was wrong, and today he told her that the problem was that when he hangs out with us we seem to ignore him. And he won't talk to me about this stuff, he hasn't even hinted to me that there is a problem, he only talks about it to her. Well... I'm thinking to myself, that this is a bit selfish of him. Because quite honestly we don't get to see each other that much, and when we do, we like to spend the time focused on each other. The problem is that the girl he is interested in, has told him that she doesn't feel the same way. I'm afraid that maybe he is going to revert back to having feelings for the girl that I am dating. I have no idea how to handle this situation... me and my girlfriend have talked about it. And she thinks that I should talk to my room mate about the problem, but he hasn't even mentioned to me that there is a problem, and I think to myself whenever Iam the third wheel I expect to be ignored to some extent... I mean it's just natural. And I can understand not wanting to be the third wheel, it's just the fact that he made it seem like he was a victim or something, to my girlfriend, like he wants sympathy from her or something.

So, if anyone would read this... please give me some advice, anything is helpful, What do you guys think?

And sorry for the very long paragraph.

no plain and simple but you should still talk to him

If I were you, I'd follow your girlfriend's advice and confront your room mate. I mean, he's telling her this stuff, so he shouldn't find it all that surprising that she'd tell you about it afterwards.

That, or murder your room mate. It's your call.

If he's your good friend, as you say, then you should be able to casually ask him what the deal is. If he refuses to talk about it with you, then drop him for a while.

He does sound kind of whiney, though. In the future, try to avoid situations where its just the three of you if he doesn't like being the third wheel.

If he's your good friend, as you say, then you should be able to casually ask him what the deal is. If he refuses to talk about it with you, then drop him for a while.

He does sound kind of whiney, though. In the future, try to avoid situations where its just the three of you if he doesn't like being the third wheel.

CheddarLimbo

Yeah... dropping him isn't really a possiblity seeing as how we are room mates..., but I guess I'll just have to talk to him about it... I thought it was kind of whiney too, like un naturally whiney.

2 words : "three-way" :P.nooblet69

[QUOTE="CheddarLimbo"]

If he's your good friend, as you say, then you should be able to casually ask him what the deal is. If he refuses to talk about it with you, then drop him for a while.

He does sound kind of whiney, though. In the future, try to avoid situations where its just the three of you if he doesn't like being the third wheel.

Franklinstein

Yeah... dropping him isn't really a possiblity seeing as how we are room mates..., but I guess I'll just have to talk to him about it... I thought it was kind of whiney too, like un naturally whiney.

Sorry, I misunderstood. The way you phrased it made it sound like you were roommates in the past tense.

Man Law dictates that he get over himself. He's being a little unrealistic. He's basically saying "Hey! Pay more attention to me instead of your new boyfriend/girlfriend!" You could try hooking him up with someone, maybe? Or going out ingroups of more than just the three of you...

Do you think he could have ulterior motives? Like maybe he's trying to split you guys up so he can go after her himself?

he may have an eye for the forbidden froot (really now gs say it ain't so)

watch out

The time for internet gibber-jabber is over. Time for confrontation :evil:

Take ACTION!!! And confront your roommate with this problem!!!!

he's trying to take her by being "EMOTIONAL" the only way is to fight whiney with........

you guessed it beer and a sleeping pill in his drink he'll sleep forever and then claim he was suicidal because his heart was just brokenby the one he loved

j/k

Maybe the thing that is wrong is he likes you not her :oops:Whicker89

lol :lol:

but umm yeah well he's obviously up to something.. and Id be a bit annoyed if one of my friends was o start saying something is wrong to my girlfriend sugesting that we arent right for each other(well my hypo-thetical gf :cry:)

You're under-reacting. Kick the dude's ass.