[QUOTE="Robinho1873"][QUOTE="tiggers69699699"][QUOTE="Robinho1873"][QUOTE="tiggers69699699"][QUOTE="Robinho1873"][QUOTE="tiggers69699699"] ok so all my life ive basically had no friends. i dont get out much cept for bday parties of my good sisters friends which is actually damn fun! getting pissed and catching up. but everyday and every weekend i sit at home, read, play games, watch movies, dl music, talk to people on msn. the only actual friends i have in my area are at my tafe(school) and there is 2 of them. one is in eng and the other in anc hist. i dont go out with any of them but my friend from eng i do eat lunch together and we hang out during breaks. my other friends are on myspace/msn and are on the other sides of the planet. im very shy and not very sociable.....
am i the only one who has no "life"?
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Get involved in some kind of club or something like that. Whatever your interests there will be some kind of club or association for it. You just have to b pro active and find something that suits you be it sports or games or whatever.
when it comes to sports well lets just say im not the fittest. im not weighty or anything (75kg dunno what that is in the american system) but im not really the best and if i played soccer and got tackled id probably thump the people XD. and im also very shy so clubs arent much for me O_O
Confidence isn't something your born with, you are able how to learn to be confident. Since you like to read then why not read up on some confidence techniques which will eventually lead to you becoming more sociable. Is there no after school activities at your school that you could ask your pals from school to go to? At least then you'd have a friend there and he could help you meet other people. Where are you from btw?
well i may google some techniques :P
nope nothing at school that ive seen on the notice board.... i do try to get to some local gigs but it kinda sucks cause no one i know actually likes my music types (emo, pop punk etc and metal all types of metal) and when i do go there i am sitting in the corner playing psp or ds though i do talk to the bands lol. im from sydney australia.
It's not as good as having friends you can be with in person, but the ones you have on MSN and MySpace at least show theirs some sort of social butterfly in you. Good luck getting over the shyness.-Twilight-
well i will say when im drunk im a social butterfly but i dont drink much nor will i as i dont intend on becoming a drunk.... maybe if i walked through school naked id get over my shyness :D
Definetly try and find some techniques. I've never really had a problem with lack of confidence in my 17 years alive and I'm pleased I don't in my line of work, so i'm having a bit of trouble relating so sorry if my advice is bad. But honestly, people aren't monsters that won't talk to you if you just start with a simple hi. So try and branch out and just ask people what their upto and see where you go from there. What's the worst that could happen? they don't like you and then you've gained nothing but haven't lost anything either.
well yeah but i really cant see myself walking upto a random guy or girl in a club and saying hi than ending up being buddies for life O_O lol. half the time im having trouble talking to people on msn. i mean we talk loads one day than nothing interesting happens for a month and when we try talk its : hi, hows things.... end convo. i mean i do have my bestie for 6 years who lives in the uk and we talk nearly everyday and its good but i tell him everything and we usually repeat stuff loads lol.
i also have big trouble approaching girls i mean what do i have to offer? i mean: hardly any friends, no job, not very social and im also not very trusting.... yeah i can see them flocking to me. though i have been told many a time im attractive :P
If you are attractive then half the battle is won already, you wont have to try as hard. Honestly, walk upto a girl at a club or whatever and offer to buy them a drink and then slook genuinely interested in what the have to say afterwards. Ask alot of questions and try and answer ones that she asks in an interesting way. If you can then start dating her, her friends will become your friends and then you can start putting yourself out there abit. Getting a girlfiend is a great way to build confidence.
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