Any advice on asking a girl I like to prom?

I know it's three months away, but if I want to accomplish this I need to get started on it now.

There's a girl that I like that I've been friends with since childhood. Last October, I planned on asking her to homecoming but a friend of mine beat me to it and asked her first. Homecoming night was thus very depressing and lonely for me (since I stayed home and watched Slumdog Millionaire, which only reminds me of her even more) and since then, I've made it a goal not to be a hopeless downer (like Peter in Forgetting Sarah Marshall) and ask her to prom when time rolls around.

The thing is, I'm really shy and although I talk to her a lot and am friends with her, asking her something like that would be something I would totally freeze at. See, I'm trying to accomplish a few things before I do that. I want to hang out with her more often and make her comfortable enough to not be so surprised when I pop the question (since right now she only sees me as a friend). I was thinking about just texting her and asking her, but my friends at school that I've talked to have strongly advised me against that idea (mostly by saying "No, you're gonna grow a pair and ask her in person like a real man," and things like that.

So, OT, do you have any advice for me? I really want her to be my prom date, and look back on it as something I truly accomplished. Please help me with my predicament.

You should ask her in person...and probably sooner rather than later. Most of the good picks get taken early!

You should ask her in person...and probably sooner rather than later. Most of the good picks get taken early!

Sky-

But how exactly should I word it? I want to sound like a nice guy, which is how she thinks of me...

[QUOTE="Sky-"]

You should ask her in person...and probably sooner rather than later. Most of the good picks get taken early!

But how exactly should I word it? I want to sound like a nice guy, which is how she thinks of me...

"Hey I was wondering if you wanted to go to prom with me?" idk. Doesn't seem that hard.

Texting it would be a BAD idea and asking too early can make you look desperate and be bad. You have about a month or two to grow a pair.

Since your shy here's what you do.

Txt her "do you have a date to prom"

obviously the answer is probably "no"

then txt her "wanna meet up?", or "can you meet me?" not really sure which one is better

if she's pretty open for meeting up than she's going to say yes... if she dodges the answer you better work on a better game plan.

Slyly ask her if she's going and if so who with (hopefully she says no one), then when she asks you (which she will) you say,"I'm about to text her and ask her right now" and then she'll get the text and be like "OMG yay smooch smooch". That's how i did it. You gotta be creative, i think chicks dig that stuff.

oh please , why people are starting to grow weaker , ask her , if she says yes , then yes , if no then no , asking is not how you do it , but when you do it.take this advice.gubrushadow

nah, i've heard plenty of ladies gush over the 'romantic' or 'creative' way some guy asked them out to prom or on a date in general, trust me, just asking is important, but being good about it helps a great deal. Trust THIS advice.

[QUOTE="gubrushadow"]oh please , why people are starting to grow weaker , ask her , if she says yes , then yes , if no then no , asking is not how you do it , but when you do it.take this advice.Tiki_Hemp

nah, i've heard plenty of ladies gush over the 'romantic' or 'creative' way some guy asked them out to prom or on a date in general, trust me, just asking is important, but being good about it helps a great deal. Trust THIS advice.

Depends if you live in Vegas or not and I'm going to leave it at that.

Your friends are absolutley right. Grow a pair and ask her.cpo335

Your sig wins.

But yeah, you should just go for it.

don't ask her through a text message, you gotta do it face to face. when you are hanging out with her some time, a time when you guys are having a lot of fun and everything is going right, ask her then.

do what i did

Me-Hey wanna go to prom
her-sure

success

The hardest part is working up the courage to talk to her initially. Cliche as it sounds, you can really help yourself out if you do a little rehearsing of the first few things you'll say. Then you just ignore the butterflies, strike up a conversation, and ask. It's a good idea to make sure you know the person a little before you ask, and that there is at least a little evidence that she would be open to your invitation. And if she says no, don't dwell on it, and don't pursue it further. If she changes her mind, rest assured, you'll know, but you don't wait on someone when it comes to dating.