anyone get bored of girlfreind/wife life

maybe funny question but atm i have not many freinds whereas i always had lots of freinds and was popular etc.

So the normal situation at this age is to settle down with a partner BUT i always feel its not what i want as in id rather be hangin gout with mates etc, having the committed relationship makes me feel somewhat trapped so i chose to be single and free...but now with all my freedom i dont have much to do anyway ironically, yet i cant commit as i still feel its stealing the life i want yet i cant really get that life anyway if u understand? which is being young and crashing parties, gaming all night with bros, going out playing football etc...that life seems to be gone sadly and id prefer that life than the boring live with partner life...so atm im just chillin alone.

This is a video game forum. A lot of people here (myself included) are living the single life with little or no chance of finding someone.

Just curious, how old are you?

Kind of sucks getting older and being single; your friends start dating seriously and/or get married.

Not easy being a 30+ single guy.

No, I love it. We're very different but we're similar in that we're both homebodies. I always hated going out, but I did just to not be alone at times. Now we can stay in and keep each other company.

im late 20s yeh i agree bojangles, getting froced into that life but would rather be the 19 year old crashing at mates gaming or partying etc

Stranger why u say litle chance finding someone, im attractive, well endowed and work out a lot and have much female interest its just i dont really care...like my bjs though hehe problem is i got no job and unlikely to get one and pretty much live in my mums basement so apart from my looks got nothing going for me and no money, defo not a long term catch though i can snag some short fun now and then if i ever have money to go out etc

At least I can always count on OT to cheer me up. :(

@jamzzee: Yall have to compromise mate.

what do u mean?

i guess but if i dont care for relationships or sex and cant live with young folk partying then my only option is live alone and game online, join some grps etc...hit up strip bars and older type clubs for party now and then.

I'm going through a similar phase. I've been in a relationship for over a year now, but I sometimes feel that going back to single life would bring back some freedom and excitement. I don't know if it's the "grass is greener" feeling. I think if I was single again, I might miss my girlfriend.

ok but as said thats not the point. recently ive met some a class women, looks, careers etc, but u know what i didnt take them up...all i see when i think of sitting in a house with a women is the death of me...i was always about my mates and having a good time...but those days seem gone, i mean just being laid back and going to bars and clubs and into parties etc, or sitting up all night gaming with mates etc...or doing random crazy things they all seem gone...getting a good girl would be good if that was my goal..but id stil rather be young and going out etc...seems that life is over regardless of girl/no girl anyway so i got 40-50 boring years ahead of me, furkin great...only way to get a night out now is to get drunk and hit strip clubs...cant hang in clubs with teens etc

I honestly don't know single life.

Been with my GF since i was 21, our friends and family have become one group and she is the brains of this relationship.

We have had fights and had momments which i wished i never met her, but she is something i love so much that will give up my free time for.

We have things in commom, like going shoping for each other/me for her clothes, she for my games/.

Honestly, you need to find someone that you don't want to have sex right on the spot, but take your time.

She drove me on 14 dates before we did it. The 1st 4 where my attempts.

@one_plum: " I think if I was single again, I might miss my girlfriend."

No you won't.

It's really a double edged sword. At least for me. I've been single for 3 years now, but coming to a point in my life where it kind of sucks being alone. It's not that I can't talk to girls, I am just picky when it comes to a partner.

I must have a strong connection with a woman. It's hard nowadays. Out of my 6 girlfriends in my life, maybe two of them I had a very strong connection. I've dated woman who I probably shouldn't have which was mostly based on attraction and those don't end well, especially when you don't have the time to truly get to know that person but jump into a relationship(my college years lol pretty much).

It's nice being single also. No commitments, no hassles, just you. Do whatever you want, and when you want! It does get old after awhile, but some people prefer to be alone in there life and are content with that. Just depends on the person you are.

i guess its not just about relationships but as combined with my no freinds thread moreso a post college mid/late 20s loss of life. Really when younger single or not it doesnt matter as always options to go out and stuff/parties/freinds...Now its like this life is dead...all uni folk mostly moved on and many have careers/babies etc....you see the younger ones all hitting up the clubs and partying but then what about people like me...noone to go out with, getting old, and to add to things no job=no money. and having hard time getting any work.

The situation is forcing me to be on lookout for a gf as im just alone but its not me that wants a gf its the situation im in if you get me. As id prefer to be in a good social life period but that seems gone so choice is now sit at home alone or sit at home with a gf etc lol....if i was 20 id have flat and maybe lots of freinds etc....

@jamzzee: You need to get yourself a career, your own money, your own place, your own balls, etc. Youre in your late 20s now and your life will continue to get more boring unless you acquire those things. No one respects a slack ass this late in the game. Even if youre not looking for a committed relationship, you wont pull any women unless you get your shit together.

not even bothered about pulling women though i have the looks anyway and the tools hehe..BUT the problem is just getting work and i have no money or funds to get loans to restudy. Also its hard to get back out there especially with a large unemployment gap which has occured, im toiling atm. Looks bleak.

also even getting a career, my own place etc again wouldnt bring me what i enjoy/want...just being younger and hanging out with mates etc...i could get career and nice house etc and sit in it alone or busy working all the time...wow thats great haha...

think ill get back into my music thats fun, guitar or dance i dont know, again hard to make money though but can meet people and have a laugh if make some money

I had a girlfriend once back in middle school but then I was beginning to notice that I favor the other side of the fence more.

Since then I have no luck to this day but I'm fine being single.

I'm fine with just spreading my seed around haha. From an evolutionary standpoint, it's what I am supposed to do. Long term relationships constrain me too much, I wouldn't subject a woman to my arrogant ass 24/7. Space......space.

Only ever had 1 gf
Honestly getting tired of single life
It can be rather exhausting and hollow
But as I am going to the States in July, the whole gf thing will have to wait a little longer

What you need is wisdom, my friend. If another human, who is supposed to be as one with you, makes you feel imprisoned then you wont be much free without that human either. That life you idealize is a life of dissatisfaction. I suggest you to read ''The conquest of happiness'' by Bertrand Russell.

@indzman said:

@chaoscougar1 said:

Only ever had 1 gf

Honestly getting tired of single life

It can be rather exhausting and hollow

But as I am going to the States in July, the whole gf thing will have to wait a little longer

lol
To which part?

Women are not really the issue here. The problem with you mid to late 20's is that real life really starts to kick your ass if your not careful. Its the age where your need for independence kicks into overdrive, its the age whereby people around you expect that you should have found some sort of career. Its the age where people around you stop seeing a kid with a beard and start seeing a man. The leniencies you receive from people when your 21-25 fade away. You no longer **** up because your "a young guy". You just...**** up.

You can either deal with the above in a relationship or you can stay single and deal with it.

Just to add my perspective. I was single through choice for years and years. Just kept things casual. Kept things casual at uni then BAM. I met my girlfriend on a night out. We were in a bar and my best friend was screwing her best friend. Spent an entire summer with her. I never even asked her out and we have been together for 6 years. I have a crazy night out 2-3 months and occasionally when im steaming drunk I wonder if the grass is greener on the other side. Then I remember that its just a moment of lustful appreciation of the female form and that Iv been there and done that all before. My girlfriend however will be the mother to my children. my deathbed companion all that jazz.

Just remember your under no obligations in this life. You create your destiny. If you choose to be single, then be the best single guy you can be. If your going to commit to a woman you care about....do it properly, respect her.

Yes.. my g/f plays video games too much... I thought it was suppose to be the other way around?!

@always_explicit: well said, man.

I dont' get it ? So are you married, or just girlfriend ? And if you want to do these things, then why you tied down ? Why isn't your significant other like you ? Maybe she wants to do the same, and you can do it together. She can party, you can party, pretty easy ? Unless something is stopping you all from doing so ?

It sounds like you have some growing up left to do, TS. You aren't ready to share your life with someone. I don't mean that as a judgement, just a statement of fact. Now, if you're in your late 30s and you still just want to hang out with your mates, then you might have a problem...

You can be in a relationship and still have your own individual life. I've been married for nearly 10 years and I still golf 2+ times a week, go out drinking when I want (which isn't often), play video games when I want, etc. It helps when you don't have, or want, kids and have a partner/spouse that has their own life to live.

Find a chick that lets you have both. Tell your girlfriend/wife that she gets to hang out with her friends once or twice a week, and you do too.

If you want to spend all your time having fun with friends, why be in a relationship? You can't have it all, but I guarantee it's possible to balance it out.

If you are fine with the possibility of being alone the rest of your life that is fine. Whatever makes you happy.

I'll have been with my significant other for seven years on Friday and we are getting married at the end of June.

I can say with confidence that I've only come to love her more over the years and don't foresee myself getting "bored" with the "life".

@foxhound_fox: That was nice to read.

I think often single guys make the assumption that people in committed long term relationships frequently have to make sacrifices for their partner when in reality you have grown together as a couple and therefore the sacrifices are infrequent and also dont feel like sacrifices.

I remember enjoying being single but I dont think I would enjoy it now, nor am I particularly envious of it when its so much easier to achieve.

Been married for 12 years and have a 8 month old daughter. While days tend to be predictable and some would say boring, it's always a welcome change after coming home from a chaotic day at work.

@foxhound_fox: Congratulations, BTW.

i'm 30 and i too find little to no joy in spending time with girls, not even sex appeals to me anymore. i didn't even cum last time i tried it with someone.
a few days age when i visited my childhood town after a few years and stopped by to have a look at the neighborhood i'd grown in, i just had this immense overwhelming feeling that i my childhood was the only thing i ever wanted anymore and since i knew there was no way i'd get it back i was ready to die in that moment without any hesitation. things are a bit different for me though, i have been clinically depressed for years and just when i had started to find my self again and learn to accept things the way they were i was crushed again with the devastating news of my mom being diagnosed with cancer which literally threw me back into the dark.

As you mature and get older you'll find that life isn't what you remember it to be. Becomes more desperation for past glories than fun.

Pretty much this. And that irresponsible life!

Truth here.

If you're in your late 20's, still working part time jobs for <$10/hr, living with parents or in a shit hole apartment, then you have yourself to blame.

By this time all the great girls that have the ambition and drive to be successful are long gone, having met partners that share their ideals.

Meanwhile you're left with the scraps, and it will be much more difficult to get out of "loser" status.

Get a boyfriend, a lot less hassle. I have a boyfriend for 16 years now, he's quite the homebody while I'm a party animal. I'm not pushing him to go out with me and he's not pushing me to stay home. We're both quite relaxed an not jealous, it's working perfectly fine for us. I go to house parties once or twice a week and the rest of the week we spend together. <3

The married life was great, and I miss it to some degree, but I hated the arguments. I found that it is better to learn how to be alone and what I want before I get married again. It is a struggle but before you find someone you need to find yourself first.

Essentially when you commit to someone else you will be giving up with some of the things you like doing.

Want to just go out for a nice bike ride on a whim as a single guy sure np. Living with girlfriend/wife. Hey I'm going out for a bike ride. Her.. "Why ? Don't you want to do something with me ? OH so I have to stay home and do everything now ?"

Hey its a nice day I'll go checkout the mall maybe look at some t-shirts. Walk in & out in an hour spend maybe 50 bucks. With girlfriend/wife. Ok.. I've got what what I want lets go. Her... "No I just wanna goto one more store theres something I need." 40 min later. Ok we done yet ? Her "Oh wait just one more store over there I saw something I wanted." Look I'm tired I don't wanna waste my saturday in the mall. Her, "OMG why are you being such a grouch can't I do anything with you !?" Leaves mall after 4 hours and 200 dollars later.

Enjoy it while you can.

Watch your married buddies will start to envy your freedom. Stay single, save money, do what you like until you feel its time and find the right person. Don't rush into it. All these fucking idiots who marry the same person they dated from highschool will break up. You need to sample the dishes see whats out there. If you don't later on in life your wife will want to and leave you. I've seen it happen.

Indeed my good man, indeed (especially that last part).

When I was single, I

If I go out for a bike ride (or go somewhere), the wife knows it's recreational and will not raise a fuss about it. She might tell me to bring my house keys just in case she and the kids go somewhere.

While it's true the wife gets my paycheck, she also has her own which she uses for her shopping. Mine pays the bills and goes into savings.

When we go to the mall, the wife does her thing and I do mine. We meet at the food court at a specified time.

We still eat out. We still go to parties, watch a movie, travel. Hell, we even rent a motel room from time to time so we can rock the house in private....damn nosey kids.

I will never have a wife (or a girlfriend) and honestly I don't want one.

In a couple of years I will become a 70 year-old virgin whose never had sex and has never been in an intimate relationship with a woman.

well still got the goods. Went out last night first time for ages and females flock to me again, got a cutie lots of kissing, some trouser action etc...lol who needs a gf/wife..i just go to the club and get what i need when i need haha...now i need a job and money so i can do this more often