Just wondering. I've put up a topic several months ago asking is we're all right with being alone and the poll surprisingly had a lot of people who preffered being alone. Though I have some social anxieties, however not severe, I still get pretty anxious at the beginning of school years and meeting new people. I'm totally fine once I know people but I just have a problem approaching people I don't know because in my mind I'm telling myself they're looking at me strangely. Pretty light problem but happens fairly oftenly in some way. Anyone have any social anxieties?
I used to have it pretty bad, but now I'm much more social. Still not much of a talker though which makes things hard sometimes.I prefer to be alone too.
Yep, I got it from light to severe depending on the situation.
quadraleap
I'm really terrible in working with groups. I just can't look at people in the eye becuase I'm afraid my light green eyes would look strange to them (yeah I think eye color has a minor thing to do with it). Sometimes I wonder how I'd be looked at if I had dark brown, innocent-looking eyes. I just don't get it.
Yes, I have it. I used to have panic attacks when I had to go to a public place but medication has helped that part of it. I would still rather stay home all the time though.
Yeah, I not really that used in meeting new people with exception on meeting them online. I have a slight tendency for my voice to becaome a bit shaky and my palms usually sweat.... Of course, it's different to the people close to me
A little... The biggest problem for me though is that I'm really bad at holding a conversation..
Examples: Someone tells a joke that I didn't find fun, I do this fake laugh for 3 seconds then I just stay silent... Someone cheers on me like: Good job, Nice done. I just don't know what to respond to that.. I'm a gaming geek and when I'm not around with people who love games I just don't know what to talk about.. Pretty much sucks but that's how it is! :(
Pretty normal. I like being alone to a point. After seeing people a bit I just want a day or two to myself, but then I'll want to go out and see others again. When I talk to new people, it's fine, it's just I can't keep small conversations going. I usually meet new people through hanging out with my friends so it goes fine.
A little... The biggest problem for me though is that I'm really bad at holding a conversation..
Examples: Someone tells a joke that I didn't find fun, I do this fake laugh for 3 seconds then I just stay silent... Someone cheers on me like: Good job, Nice done. I just don't know what to respond to that.. I'm a gaming geek and when I'm not around with people who love games I just don't know what to talk about.. Pretty much sucks but that's how it is! :(
Selrath
how hard can it be ?
"weak joke", just put up a smile, and ask him/herwhat they have been doing last weekend
Yeah I have it pretty bad. I panic quite often at school. On multiple occassions I have had panic attacks in class and had no choice but to sit there and hold my arms down to keep the shaking not as notticable. Thankfully I am such a stubborn and strong-willed person I face it head on and am gradually breaking down the barrier the anxiety creates. It is oddly intertwined with my personality type (INTJ's tend to be in their own world and don't like putting themselves out there. We put down people and pick out flaws in others to easily dismiss them so we don't have to deal with them). I am doing what I can to be less critical and analytical of people and put myself out there for the wolves to ravage me if they feel like it.
I am one who can't sit and live in fear and I am not one to run away from a fight.
A little... The biggest problem for me though is that I'm really bad at holding a conversation..
Examples: Someone tells a joke that I didn't find fun, I do this fake laugh for 3 seconds then I just stay silent... Someone cheers on me like: Good job, Nice done. I just don't know what to respond to that.. I'm a gaming geek and when I'm not around with people who love games I just don't know what to talk about.. Pretty much sucks but that's how it is! :(
whoody12
how hard can it be ?
"weak joke", just put up a smile, and ask him/herwhat they have been doing last weekend
It's pretty hard actually.. The weekend topic will be over in less than a minute and then it's just this awkward silence...
I'm fine around people I know but like most people I get a bit nervous when I'm meeting new people but alcohol helps with that, I talk to everyone when Ive had a few beers.
A little... The biggest problem for me though is that I'm really bad at holding a conversation..
Examples: Someone tells a joke that I didn't find fun, I do this fake laugh for 3 seconds then I just stay silent... Someone cheers on me like: Good job, Nice done. I just don't know what to respond to that.. I'm a gaming geek and when I'm not around with people who love games I just don't know what to talk about.. Pretty much sucks but that's how it is! :(
Selrath
how hard can it be ?
"weak joke", just put up a smile, and ask him/herwhat they have been doing last weekend
It's pretty hard actually.. The weekend topic will be over in less than a minute and then it's just this awkward silence...
not really, if they say they have been to a party, just ask if had been nice
I'm fine around people I know but like most people I get a bit nervous when I'm meeting new people but alcohol helps with that, I talk to everyone when Ive had a few beers.Spartan_385
[QUOTE="camreeno360"] Anyone have any social anxieties? double_decker
About the same as you have, I'm good with people I know, but I'm not the best around new people
Holy moly 90k posts!! Everytime I see you (which is not very often), your post count increases by the 10ks lol. Anyways, I dont think i have social anxiety...i don't feel comfortable hanging around people i dont know though. I wouldn't approach a stranger either.
It is a very normal thing... it happens to everyone
I usually in situations just end up doing stuff in my head like "right say something in the next ten seconds" as odd as it may sound it does work cause at least im speaking even if its a load of crap. And alse be sure to project your voice alot. cause it always sucks when you say something and they appear to just ignore you.. its harder to ignore if its being shouted at them :P
When I moved to Texas and went to a new school it took me 5 months just to make a friend at school. So yes I have bad social anxiety.
Wilfred_Owen
Are you sure it isn't just because it's Texas?
Naw. But really I used to have it worse than I do now. I forced myself to join the speech team in high school and then in college I started diong dance competitions, nothing quite like getting up in front of a couple thousand people and being judged to force you to start dealing with things quickly.
It's normal as long as it doesn't go too far. If that's the case then something isn't going right
playing video games all the time could screw up the chances of being socially healthy, I believe
_Ben99_
Not nessesarily. I think the time I had Xbox live (a couple of years ago before my account expired) I feel I got a great deal of conversation practice through that. Because you're constantly talking to people, and if you say something weird no one's gonna care. It's just a game other the internet. I also think my summer school class brought me up a bit. The class was just way more lively than a usual class, since it's summer I guess and everyone's in that good mood. When I got up to give speeches, there wasn't as much of an eerie feeling in the air.
It definately depends on the person, and I think each of us has some things that we are just anxious about for seemingly no reason. I had a kid in my class who would comment on a lot of stuff and joke a lot, but when he gave speeches, he turned all red and mumbled to the teacher if he could skip it and get a zero. He was seriously paranoid and it looked like for nothing.
[QUOTE="inyourface_12"]social anxiety is a bs disease created by people because they are too big a wuss to go up to someone and introduce themselfZakdek
This coming from the one who has no job. Seriously though, you guys know there's MEDICATION for this right?????
sure"medication" fancy word for sugar pills lol. and dude its not even legal for someone who is 15 to work where i live
im sorry u guys but uguys will go nowhere in life if u keep doing wat ur doing... seriously stop playing ur videogames and leave ur house....i go to a school where its harder to make friends because therealot ofblack peoplenot that i have a problem wit it but when ur the only white kid around people start to notice..u guys might think that if u say something out loud people willlook at u different but they will actually like u more if u stand out...i guess for me its easier because ima great athlete
I moved to my current home about a year and a half ago. I've yet to make a friend. The thing is, I'm not sure if I have social anxiety, or if it's the fact that no one around here ever says or does anything interesting. I think the longest I've actually spoken with someone here is about three minutes before we ran out of things to say and I went back to whatever it was I was doing first.
Im about as good as anyone else, good with people I know and a lil uneasy with new people, but Im more comfortable once I get to know them
I HAD A REAL BAD problem when I smoked weed, just because paranoia kicked in and most of the people I hung out would smoke up. Thank god I cut it cold turkey, Im a lot better without it, but I did give in one time with my roommate, it reminded me why I left in the first place
[QUOTE="inyourface_12"]social anxiety is a bs disease created by people because they are too big a wuss to go up to someone and introduce themselfGhostRiderMike
yea man ur right 90% of people here need to dosomething about their problem instead of blaming it on that social anxiety crap
I agree. I conform to what "social anxiety" suggests but I don't think its a real Problem. just something to make people who are afraid to speak feel better :P
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