anyone have this social issue?

I have no problem making new friends, aquantences, partners, etc. I can easily dazzle and entertain people, ever sense I was a child ive understood how to control another persons emotions and mind and make them like me, and I can be really funny at times. I remember being a in middle school and easily being able to persuade and manipulate most men I would meet in there 30s, but I have such issues making long term relationships. Honestly outside of family I have never had one. Somehow no matter how hard I try not to I subconsciously find a way to destroy them before I get too close to the people. With guys usually I will escalate to some form of physical violence towards them for no reason when we become good friends, and with women at some point I will stop being charming and just turn into a jerk and start psycologically abusing them till they leave me. Every time I do it I always regret it afterwards, but its something I feel I have no control over. Ive literally made and lost hundreds friends like this.

That sounds like trust issues

Nothing serious, but I did the mild physical violence thing with a few guys when I was much younger, but that went away in my teens and I've never had an issue with something like that since. How old are you?

Sounds like anti-social disorder. But I could be wrong.

Well, if you ever had a true friend, they would stick with you. I don't expect every friend I make to stick with me in the long-run. I've come to accept that some people just come and go in life and not to sweat over it. As long as you have at least a few close friends whom you've known for who knows how long, then maybe they're the ones you should care mostly about. As for having a girlfriend, sometimes things like that just happen. That's what the whole dating scene is all about. You're supposed to get to know each other and sometimes one of you guys will learn that maybe the relationship will not work out. Overall, if you see yourself as a jerk at times, I think you should work on making yourself a better social person and try not to get snappy with other people. That would be a big help for you. But keep in mind, even for some of the nicest people out there who makes lots of friends, stuff like this happens to them too. People move on, it's just a part of life.

I have no problem making new friends, aquantences, partners, etc. I can easily dazzle and entertain people, ever sense I was a child ive understood how to control another persons emotions and mind and make them like me, and I can be really funny at times. I remember being a in middle school and easily being able to persuade and manipulate most men I would meet in there 30s, but I have such issues making long term relationships. Honestly outside of family I have never had one. Somehow no matter how hard I try not to I subconsciously find a way to destroy them before I get too close to the people. With guys usually I will escalate to some form of physical violence towards them for no reason when we become good friends, and with women at some point I will stop being charming and just turn into a jerk and start psycologically abusing them till they leave me. Every time I do it I always regret it afterwards, but its something I feel I have no control over. Ive literally made and lost hundreds friends like this.

Pariahdox

Probably better to talk to a doctor about it then OT.

I can relate to you, I see myself going through the same thing most of the time. It's easy for me to make friends and I have this "aura" (people say) that I'm easy to like and get along with. But when they get too close or we spend enough time together I don't feel violent tendencies like you do but I do feel like I need to withdraw and run away.

I'm unsure if this is because of trust issues (which I think I also have) or some odd psychological disorder.

But I do feel you. Hahahaha

Make sure your AGP card is seated properly, sometimes dust and vibration can cause it to not work properly and cause psychological issues involves destroying people's lives.FragStains

I can relate to you, I see myself going through the same thing most of the time. It's easy for me to make friends and I have this "aura" (people say) that I'm easy to like and get along with. But when they get too close or we spend enough time together I don't feel violent tendencies like you do but I do feel like I need to withdraw and run away.

I'm unsure if this is because of trust issues (which I think I also have) or some odd psychological disorder.

But I do feel you. Hahahaha

Rocul

[QUOTE="FragStains"]Make sure your AGP card is seated properly, sometimes dust and vibration can cause it to not work properly and cause psychological issues involves destroying people's lives.comp_atkins

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I can relate to you, I see myself going through the same thing most of the time. It's easy for me to make friends and I have this "aura" (people say) that I'm easy to like and get along with. But when they get too close or we spend enough time together I don't feel violent tendencies like you do but I do feel like I need to withdraw and run away.

I'm unsure if this is because of trust issues (which I think I also have) or some odd psychological disorder.

But I do feel you. Hahahaha

bruinfan617

Interesting, that sounds just about right. Have you tried anything to get over it yet?

I have no problem making new friends, aquantences, partners, etc. I can easily dazzle and entertain people, ever sense I was a child ive understood how to control another persons emotions and mind and make them like me, and I can be really funny at times. I remember being a in middle school and easily being able to persuade and manipulate most men I would meet in there 30s, but I have such issues making long term relationships.

Pariahdox

Stop trying to control/manipulate other people people?

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[QUOTE="Rocul"]

I can relate to you, I see myself going through the same thing most of the time. It's easy for me to make friends and I have this "aura" (people say) that I'm easy to like and get along with. But when they get too close or we spend enough time together I don't feel violent tendencies like you do but I do feel like I need to withdraw and run away.

I'm unsure if this is because of trust issues (which I think I also have) or some odd psychological disorder.

But I do feel you. Hahahaha

Rocul

Interesting, that sounds just about right. Have you tried anything to get over it yet?

Go seek out help, it will help you in the long run.

Seek some help from a professional?

I have no problem making new friends, aquantences, partners, etc. I can easily dazzle and entertain people, ever sense I was a child ive understood how to control another persons emotions and mind and make them like me, and I can be really funny at times. I remember being a in middle school and easily being able to persuade and manipulate most men I would meet in there 30s, but I have such issues making long term relationships. Honestly outside of family I have never had one. Somehow no matter how hard I try not to I subconsciously find a way to destroy them before I get too close to the people. With guys usually I will escalate to some form of physical violence towards them for no reason when we become good friends, and with women at some point I will stop being charming and just turn into a jerk and start psycologically abusing them till they leave me. Every time I do it I always regret it afterwards, but its something I feel I have no control over. Ive literally made and lost hundreds friends like this.

Pariahdox

:lol:

I'm not quite sure what to respond other than you sound like a real grade A jerk. (no offense please). , A narcissist?

Time to get help perhaps?

No I'm not like that at all.

U make friends easy, well theres a small good thing.

u got a big issue. :| not even funny

Hundreds? Dam... I have never heard of anyone being like that.

You sound like a sociopath.juden41

Talk to mental health prrofessional, and look up dissocial personality disorder. I don't know you, but if you find yourself angry and blaming others then it might be some signs. And the fact that you would rather manipulate people then try and be a good friend shows a strong tendency towards this. A therapist that practices Cognitive Behavioral Therapy would be something to consider.

What emotions are running through your head when you are so destructive? Are you aware of how you're feeling and what emotions cause you to act in such a manner?

[QUOTE="juden41"]You sound like a sociopath.Pariahdox

Ummm...yah. You are a sociopath. You make exceptions for handicapped people because they aren't a challenge; instead, you pity them because they are unworthy.

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[QUOTE="juden41"]You sound like a sociopath.SUD123456

Ummm...yah. You are a sociopath. You make exceptions for handicapped people because they aren't a challenge; instead, you pity them because they are unworthy.

Make sure your AGP card is seated properly, sometimes dust and vibration can cause it to not work properly and cause psychological issues involves destroying people's lives.FragStains

just chill man

I don't buy your story for a second, to be completely honest. It sounds fake to me. How can you claim to be so manipulative yet you can't maintain it?

Well, if you ever had a true friend, they would stick with you.Nerd_Man

I don't buy your story for a second, to be completely honest. It sounds fake to me. How can you claim to be so manipulative yet you can't maintain it?

SgtKevali

[QUOTE="juden41"]You sound like a sociopath.Pariahdox

[QUOTE="juden41"]You sound like a sociopath.Pariahdox

What about borderline disorder?

From Wikipedia:

A pervasive pattern of instability ofinterpersonal relationships,self-imageandaffects, as well as markedimpulsivity, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.Note:Do not include suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5
2. A pattern of unstable and intenseinterpersonal relationshipscharacterized by alternating between extremes ofidealization and devaluation.
3. Identitydisturbance: markedly and persistently unstableself-imageorsense of self.
4. Impulsivityin at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g.,promiscuous sex,eating disorders,binge eating,substance abuse,reckless driving).Note:Do not include suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5
5. Recurrentsuicidal behavior, gestures, threats orself-injuring behaviorsuch as cutting, interfering with the healing of scars (excoriation) or picking at oneself.
6. Affectiveinstability due to a marked reactivity ofmood(e.g., intense episodicdysphoria, irritability oranxietyusually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings ofemptiness
8. Inappropriateangeror difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).
9. Transient,stress-relatedparanoidideation,delusionsor severedissociativesymptom

In any case I strongly suggest that you see a schoolcounselor or psychologist. They will be glad to help you.

Thats pretty messed up