Are you successful at communicating your desires to others?

Oftentimes, people feel guilty or awkward when confronted with telling others what they want, particularly those in relationships (both professional and personal). There are times when something, "comes out wrong" (usually because someone feels ambivalent about a particular situation or person). I am one of these people.

For example, at this moment, I want the women of OT to play with my hair and feed me marshmallows; how do I go about getting what I want? I feel weird just putting it out there.

I can see this isn't going to be a serious thread. Goodbye.

I can see this isn't going to be a serious thread. Goodbye.

warownslife

I assure you, the previous user was being 100% genuine.

I assure you that both xaos and I are completely serious.

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I can see this isn't going to be a serious thread. Goodbye.

Oleg_Huzwog

I assure you, the previous user was being 100% genuine.

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I can see this isn't going to be a serious thread. Goodbye.

Oleg_Huzwog

I assure you, the previous user was being 100% genuine.

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I can see this isn't going to be a serious thread. Goodbye.

xaos

I assure you, the previous user was being 100% genuine.

The doctor says after 8 more months of therapy and medication, my night terrors should stop.

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I assure you, the previous user was being 100% genuine.

Oleg_Huzwog

The doctor says after 8 more months of therapy and medication, my night terrors should stop.

Well no. I don't communicate well. I suck at it and no one cars what i want anyway. Can't blame them for their ignorance.

Well no. I don't communicate well. I suck at it and no one cars what i want anyway. Can't blame them for their ignorance.

warownslife

Let's say you're with a group of people who just happen to be wondering where you all should go to eat. Are you more likely to say the restaurant/food joint of your choice or something along the lines of, "whatever, it doesn't matter?"

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Well no. I don't communicate well. I suck at it and no one cars what i want anyway. Can't blame them for their ignorance.

entropyecho

Let's say you're with a group of people who just happen to be wondering where you all should go to eat. Are you more likely to say the restaurant/food joint of your choice or something along the lines of, "whatever, it doesn't matter?"

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Well no. I don't communicate well. I suck at it and no one cars what i want anyway. Can't blame them for their ignorance.

warownslife

Let's say you're with a group of people who just happen to be wondering where you all should go to eat. Are you more likely to say the restaurant/food joint of your choice or something along the lines of, "whatever, it doesn't matter?"

I also suck at communicating. I always respond with a "Mhm" or "Aha" :(

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I can see this isn't going to be a serious thread. Goodbye.

xaos

I assure you, the previous user was being 100% genuine.

Traumatized... intrigued... whichever.

I communicate well for the most part. Not something I worry about much.

What do you mean when you say "feed me marshmellows"? D;CocoMarshmellow

I am fairly unsuccessful at doing most things in social situations.

I'm the KING, baby!

No, not really. I'm not very direct and I'm very passive.t3hrubikscube

[QUOTE="t3hrubikscube"]No, not really. I'm not very direct and I'm very passive.entropyecho

That's why I usually just leave the ball gag in; that and the restraints allow me to demonstrate what I want non-verbally, rather than having to explain it.xaos

[QUOTE="t3hrubikscube"]No, not really. I'm not very direct and I'm very passive.entropyecho

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[QUOTE="t3hrubikscube"]No, not really. I'm not very direct and I'm very passive.cybrcatter

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[QUOTE="t3hrubikscube"]No, not really. I'm not very direct and I'm very passive.warownslife

cybrcatter

I assume you never tried White Russian cereal.

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[QUOTE="entropyecho"]Same - why do you think we are this way?

entropyecho

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I assume you never tried White Russian cereal.

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[QUOTE="cybrcatter"]Animatronic64

I assume you never tried White Russian cereal.

ot, introversion probably has a decent roll to play. cybrcatter

[QUOTE="cybrcatter"]ot, introversion probably has a decent roll to play. entropyecho

Is this you trying to convey what you desire? cybrcatter

Yeah I'm generally up front with just enough tact to avoid any problems. But I really don't communicate my desires much, I just get to making it happen.

For the most part, not really. I do communicate well with my friends, though. They're the ones who usually know exactly what I think and want.

Sometimes. Like, if I want people to go away, throwing stuff and cursing at high volume usually makes that happen.

I strike a Captain Morgan pose, and the rest takes care of itself

For example, at this moment, I want the women of OT to play with my hair and feed me marshmallows; how do I go about getting what I want? I feel weird just putting it out there.

entropyecho

I never thought of those two going together, but I won't knock it until I've tried it.

I don't tend to express my desires to other people. I hate asking for things.