As a male, should you be the one that pursue a relationship?

So if there is a girl you like, or a girl that is giving you signals that she likes you, should you always be the one who actively pursue that you have a romantic relationship with the girl? I mean should it be you who tells the girl that you like her , ask her out, and would want to be with her on no rare occasion or does that eventually develop mutually after you have spent some time with a girl and found out that you both like each other to the point that telling her you like her is not-so-awkward?

The reason I ask this is because there is this girl I like, we talk, make fun of, and annoy each other but I've never done anything to indicate to her that I have a crush on her (as not to come off as a desperate clinging creep). I just act normal and do what I always like to do without making any stupid moves.

Also, how does someone pursue a relationship without coming off as head over heels over the other person? The way I think of it, the outcome is that the girl is probably

A. Going to want to be with you because she likes you.

B. Going to use you because you would do anything for her.

C. Going to judge you and create a negative image of you in her mind and stay away from you.

sorry im really naive.

Any help would appreciate it a lot.

bump, anyone?

If a male doesn't pursue a relationship, he will be single until he's 72.

There are rare cases when a girl will make the first move and if you don't respond it's over.

Who the heck asks someone if they like them? If you think she likes you just ask her out! 

Guys generally are the ones that have to take the dive in terms of startinga relationship, since women gene4rally care more about things like confidence or courage in their partner more than guys do. That's how I imagine it all came to be anyways.

you could always just ask her out.comp_atkins

As I've said before: don't ask. Just grab her hand and say "we're going to go get some ice cream" and start walking. Be the man.

But yeah, I've been on both sides of the stick: I've been pursued and I've done the pursuing. Not all women are shy about their intentions.

Club her over the head and drag your new mate by the hair, caveman style.

While some may argue that a progressive society would see the women asking men out equally as often, the reality is that if you don't make the move you'll very likely be alone for a long time...General_X

While some may argue that a progressive society would see the women asking men out equally as often, the reality is that if you don't make the move you'll very likely be alone for a long time...General_X

Touch her shoulder. Works every time.SilentFireX

[QUOTE="General_X"]While some may argue that a progressive society would see the women asking men out equally as often, the reality is that if you don't make the move you'll very likely be alone for a long time...MrGeezer

[QUOTE="MrGeezer"][QUOTE="General_X"]While some may argue that a progressive society would see the women asking men out equally as often, the reality is that if you don't make the move you'll very likely be alone for a long time...Adversary16

[QUOTE="MrGeezer"][QUOTE="General_X"]While some may argue that a progressive society would see the women asking men out equally as often, the reality is that if you don't make the move you'll very likely be alone for a long time...Adversary16

[QUOTE="SilentFireX"]Touch her shoulder. Works every time.jim_shorts

I don't know tbh.

I mean, no matter how tough and confident a girl might be, gender roles will always be though of by people.. and males are generally though of to be the person that goes around trying to find mates.

*sigh* You need advice on this? Really? Girls are so easy to talk to. Just be confident, be yourself, and casually ask her if she wants to see a movie or something casual like that. And please stop being a doormat. Do you really think girls want a guy like that?

[QUOTE="SilentFireX"]Touch her shoulder. Works every time.jim_shorts

Whoever feels the strongest about the other will launch the relationship.

Whoever feels the strongest about the other will launch the relationship.

brickdoctor

*sigh* You need advice on this? Really? Girls are so easy to talk to. Just be confident, be yourself, and casually ask her if she wants to see a movie or something casual like that. And please stop being a doormat. Do you really think girls want a guy like that?

Ace_of_Spades90

lol!

Call me stupid but I didn't get the reference xD.

If a male doesn't pursue a relationship, he will be single until he's 72.

 

There are rare cases when a girl will make the first move and if you don't respond it's over.

TheHighWind

It's natural for males to go after and court females and it has always been the case since the dawn of time, and it's not just humans but most of the animal kingdom.

But yes a female could pursue a relationship as well.

Society says yes, because males are saw as ones who are supposed to make the aggressive moves like that. Personally, I think it should go both ways because   some males, like some females, aren't outgoing, while some are. 

bump, anyone?

SoSadLife

If a male doesn't pursue a relationship, he will be single until he's 72.

 

There are rare cases when a girl will make the first move and if you don't respond it's over.

TheHighWind

well if you are super ugly yes,you will be single forever,but even mediocre guys get hit on sometimes,its just because they arent used to this that they miss many signals,sometimes even straightforward flirting.
also the whole"guys should make the first move",its just a mindset that females try to impose on us(and have succeeded in a huge degree) cause they dont want to risk rejection,its far easier for them to just choose from guys that hit on them.even though the situation has begun changing and girls make the first move a considerate amount of times(and i dont only mean on good looking guys).i personally got asked out last week and im far from good looking,im average at best

Touch her shoulder. Works every time.SilentFireX

good one

I dont think it matters who pursues first.

If you want someone, you gotta make the action or forever regret.

Relationships are bullspit these days. People just arent mature enought to have one anymore.

Why should the male have to do the work? Vice Versa? Why cant 2 human beings just mutually pursue something rather than playing a game?