Avoidant personality disorder and the like

So i have Avoidant personality disorder and im just kinda depressed lately. i just wanna know what your life looks like as a person with a mental illness.

I have been on medication for severe depression for two years. There have been dark times in those two years but overall I am 100% glad of my diagnoses and medication because it has greatly improved my life and has made me understand my actions and behaviour in the past.

I've had doctors tried to tell me that I have a mental illness of some sort. I avoid people whenever possible, too. IMO, these labels actually just refer to personality traits and defense mechanisms. I got bullied when I was younger, and now I avoid people. It's cause and effect, something completely natural. I don't think that it's anyones place to define "normal" as someone who is sociable and successful. To say that everyone who doesn't fall into this category has some mental illness is a fallacy, IMHO of course...UltimateviL

Yeah, I don't really like using the word "illness" exactly either. But for me it's more then just "cause and effect." I was bullied when I was younger too, but I just get needlessly nervous around people. Mosltly a fear of being judged I guess, even if I can't think of a reason why I should care. I consiously think there is no reason for it, yet I just get nervous. I hate it.

So what does a normal month look like? i sit on the computer 24/7 and i've been doing it for a couple of years. Paxil messed me up good tho, it made me even more antisocialszafto

Do you have any friends? virgin?

Do you have any friends? virgin?

szafto

I don't really have anyone I can call a true friend, no. And yeah, virgin.

I have a split personality

Idk what I have.

For months, it feels like I am living in a dream.

My cognitive ability feels low. My memory is becoming scarce.

I feel tired all the time. Everything seems a lot more boring now(even sex doesnt excite me as much).

It would be great if I just knew what I had.

Idk what I have.

For months, it feels like I am living in a dream.

My cognitive ability feels low. My memory is becoming scarce.

I feel tired all the time. Everything seems a lot more boring now(even sex doesnt excite me as much).

It would be great if I just knew what I had.

Hakumen21

Same here bro, how old are you?szafto

I'm 20. What about you?

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I've had doctors tried to tell me that I have a mental illness of some sort. I avoid people whenever possible, too. IMO, these labels actually just refer to personality traits and defense mechanisms. I got bullied when I was younger, and now I avoid people. It's cause and effect, something completely natural. I don't think that it's anyones place to define "normal" as someone who is sociable and successful. To say that everyone who doesn't fall into this category has some mental illness is a fallacy, IMHO of course...UltimateviL

I have major depressive disorder, social anxiety and impulse control disorder. Lived with it for years. Medications never helped. 

I have a "personality disorder with passive aggressive tendencies and a lesser understanding of social boundaries."

I find social etiquette very confusing at times and I don't really see lines or boundaries in the same way most people see them. I'm doing okay, though. Medication and therapy helps me deal with me and counselling helps me deal with other people.

I have social anxiety, avoidant personality, bipolar and depression. I had social anxiety at 12 and my life went downhill ever since. I spend most of my time in my room on the computer watching an unhealthy amount of porn, browsing the internet endlessly or playing video games. Life is pretty depressing for me.

I have social anxiety, avoidant personality, bipolar and depression. I had social anxiety at 12 and my life went downhill ever since. I spend most of my time in my room on the computer watching an unhealthy amount of porn, browsing the internet endlessly or playing video games. Life is pretty depressing for me.

da_illest101

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I have social anxiety, avoidant personality, bipolar and depression. I had social anxiety at 12 and my life went downhill ever since. I spend most of my time in my room on the computer watching an unhealthy amount of porn, browsing the internet endlessly or playing video games. Life is pretty depressing for me.

szafto

So i have Avoidant personality disorder and im just kinda depressed lately. i just wanna know what your life looks like as a person with a mental illness.

szafto

like seriously id like nothing more than to slam my fist into their face and teach them some manners.

i am fighting it and trying to come out of my shell, joining social groups for isolated peoples like me has helped a lot. we go out n play games n see shows n stuff as a group. we dont talk much but its a lot more fun than acting alone. working out and learning to drive (i dont have a full licensce) has also improved my self esteem and dating has improved my 1-on-1 social skills

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Idk what I have.

For months, it feels like I am living in a dream.

My cognitive ability feels low. My memory is becoming scarce.

I feel tired all the time. Everything seems a lot more boring now(even sex doesnt excite me as much).

It would be great if I just knew what I had.

szafto

you are all depressing as shit

So what do you guys do all day? I dont even talk to people on mic on the internet hahaszafto

you are all depressing as shit

lostrib

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you are all depressing as shit

Hakumen21

thanks

i also felt like girls dont like me. i now accept that as a flasehood but still think its really lame that since im bi i immedeately get passed over because ive dated guys (and slept with them) before.

like seriously id like nothing more than to slam my fist into their face and teach them some manners.ionusX

I can understand that reaction if they're insulting you or things like that. Well, at least the anger. I don't understand why you'd wnat to punch someone in the face for rejecting you though, even for that reason. If a girl doesn't want to date a bi guy (or vice-versa for that matter), I don't see the problem as long as she's not being obnoxious about your life choices in turn.

I have some form of social anxiety but nothing serious like a personality disorder. I usually feel a little uncomfortable around people I don' t know well but I think I' ve made some progress compared to some years ago. I have some good friends too so everything' s fine. :)

I think I might have a mental illness too - not joking....

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I've had doctors tried to tell me that I have a mental illness of some sort. I avoid people whenever possible, too. IMO, these labels actually just refer to personality traits and defense mechanisms. I got bullied when I was younger, and now I avoid people. It's cause and effect, something completely natural. I don't think that it's anyones place to define "normal" as someone who is sociable and successful. To say that everyone who doesn't fall into this category has some mental illness is a fallacy, IMHO of course...UltimateviL

Paxil. Ask your doctor about it.

I think it's crap to call it a "disorder" or "mental illness". Because I'm pretty sure my personality is of the avoidant variety. I generally don't like interacting with people, I don't go out with friends a whole lot, and I simply like being alone a majority of the time. Yet, sometimes I do desire more relationships with people, though since I hardly even like the few friends I have, I don't even make the effort to know more people. It's somewhat depressing, but in general I'm usually laid back and not super depressed, though my mind occasionally wanders to dark places. But I'm still quite sure I don't have a mental illness or disorder, that's kind of a dick thing to say to someone who isn't as social as everyone else.SoNin360

Paxil. Ask your doctor about it.

EagleEyedOne

I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder/ bipolar/ eating disorder.

My life pretty much suckes until recently. Now I am much more controlled but still have my ups and downs.

I am totally off medication and feel better that way.

Sometime finding work or study that keep your hands and mind busy is the best way to survive the tough times

I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder/ bipolar/ eating disorder.

 

My life pretty much suckes until recently. Now I am much more controlled but still have my ups and downs.

I am totally off medication and feel better that way.

 

Sometime finding work or study that keep your hands and mind busy is the best way to survive the tough times

Angie7F

I think it's crap to call it a "disorder" or "mental illness". Because I'm pretty sure my personality is of the avoidant variety. I generally don't like interacting with people, I don't go out with friends a whole lot, and I simply like being alone a majority of the time. Yet, sometimes I do desire more relationships with people, though since I hardly even like the few friends I have, I don't even make the effort to know more people. It's somewhat depressing, but in general I'm usually laid back and not super depressed, though my mind occasionally wanders to dark places. But I'm still quite sure I don't have a mental illness or disorder, that's kind of a dick thing to say to someone who isn't as social as everyone else.SoNin360

I can kind of relate. Form high school most of my friends seem to have moved on to actual colleges or working all the time. So for me i am kinda missing that set schedule of going to high school. I go to a community college and work, but find my self alone a lot more. I think its making me have pretty bad depressing mod swings. Its hard because when i am alone i feel like i need to go out and do something but just dont know what. Plus i think a I might have a bit of social anxiety so my brain creates bullsh!t excuses to not go out and enjoy life.

Medication absolutely helps. If you can't fix things on your own, you do need them. Though, don't feel bad if you don't like hanging with people, most are scum anyway.

I have had social anxiety from a young age and spent quite a bit of time completely isolated in my late teens, couldn't even leave the house.

Medication and a new living environment helped a lot though, I was on Venlafaxine for quite a while.