[QUOTE="Lockedge"][QUOTE="Leejjohno"][QUOTE="Honenheim"][QUOTE="-Jiggles-"]Transexuals are people too, you know. Their sexual orientation may seem strange to you, but it is very painful for a person to live as "a woman trapped in a man's body" or vice-versa. If they are happy being who they are (IE, the opposite sex) then I don't see a problem with it.
Leejjohno
thread/ .....amen to that brother.
What about when they don't tell potential partners? Situations do arrise where a man dressed as a woman will date another guy but fail to tell him. Closed minded or not, they deserve to know.
I won't pretend to know how how all transvestites act, or go about their business, but most are straight and I wouldn't imagine a large slice of the remainder would be into such trickery. Gay men who are into transvestism dress up to fulfill a desire, and they're in a tought spot wanting to dress up as the opposite sex when the people they're interested in generally aren't interested in that at all. WHo knows though, but it's certainly a minority.
There are a good number of transsexuals who, while pre-op, date people. Some are up front about their situation at the start, others wait a while to inform their dates. You have to realize, even today, being transsexual is very dangerous. There are people who wish to rid the world of us, and there have been cases where people have lured transsexuals into relationships only to murder them and get away free due to a crap jury or the idiotic "emotional trauma" excuse.
Of course the dates have the right to know, most definitely. Just don't blame us for being cautious and delaying "the talk", when trusting the wrong person could lead to a bad ending.
Don't mean to be blunt but don't blame anybody for being very spiteful when you shock them with that news. It's a hell of a thing to find out. In my shoes, being honest, I would seriously get pissed off, and my pissed off is quite pissed off. I don't think I could be violent, but it would be very naive to expect a relationship like that to work.
Can you imagine how gutted a person would be by that? I am sorry for the fact that you would have to have the talk but damn.
I guess that's catch 22 anyway.
Which is why I personally would be the "up front about it" type, even if I'd have to be a lot more careful about who I deal with(and know/carry a lot more safety measures). The "wait it out" crowd tend to think if someone cares for them enough they'll be hurt but would accept, which I hope is better than 50% odds, but I wouldn't be willing to play those odds. Even if the transsexuals were post-op(which tends to increase the acceptance ratio).
Like I said, I don't blame people for being hurt, or getting angry. That's a normal reaction, but telling someone you want to go out with that you're a transsexual, only to be let down and a few weeks later assaulted by people who "found out" from said person. Considering 48% of transgendered people have been physically assaulted over their condition, with weapons, sexual assault, rape, etc.....
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