Can you beat me in the "loser department"?

Compare your current lifestyle to mine and determine if you think you can beat me in the "loser department". :P

If you don't want to read all the post, I don't care. Just read the first couple sentences of the wall-o-texts if you don't want to waste your time.

My current situation:

22 year old college student living with mom (not necessarily bad; just to give you an idea of my age and who I'm living with ATM)

Works a "part-time job" on Friday, Saturday, and occasionally Sunday evenings from 6-9 PM (generally) busing tables for just $8/hour plus tips-I put part time job in quotation marks because it's more like a "practically no time job". I wonder why it's legal to pay people such a shitty wage. College isn't for anyone and not everyone can just magically start their own business; in order to make money, you need to spend money. But of course, I'm just a stupid millennial. What the **** do I know?

Can only afford to pay for monthly car insurance and credit card (used mostly for gas and monthly phone bill), which means no spending money-Used to have at least $40 in spending money each week, but my hours were cut by more than half more than a year ago. To make matters worse, the restaurant I work at is in the most affluent (if not the most affluent) suburb in my metro area. Last time I was there I heard there was a freaking billionaire and her family dining there; meanwhile I'm making minimum wage. That kinda fucked my self-esteem in the ass that night.

I could get a job with more hours...but I don't really want to considering the massive anxiety I get from phone calls with strangers and interviews.

Feeling uncertain about my future college degree and career-If I manage to score a career in my field (Radiography) but not like it, I may be FUBAR considering it would have been a monumental waste of money and time. And I sure as hell won't go to school again after all that. After high school, community college, and the rest of my university career, I've had enough schooling in this lifetime. My only option will be to get two or three entry level jobs and hope to God I can afford to rent some cheap ass apartment. But that may not be possible with the student loans. Well, I suppose mooching off the guberment (intentional misspelling) is better than mooching off mommy. Hell, if the rich are getting richer and the poor getting poorer alongside a shrinking middle class, then most people will probably be living off the gov'ment in the not too distant future. Or I'll just have to force myself to stay in Radiography if possible at all (improbable).

Never had any true friendships that meant anything

Funnily enough, I also don't desire friendships that much.

Never had a girlfriend; still a virgin of course. Heck, I don't think I've ever even held hands with a girl in the "romantic lovey dovey" way. First kiss? Where? Confidence? The **** is that? Money? I don't got two nickels to rub. Without confidence and money, you're screwed out of finding a girlfriend. I'm also afraid of actually getting a girlfriend too. I don't like commitment because I don't want to get married or have kids. Marriage tends to end in divorce a lot here in the US, and the woman tends to be favored in court, so the man can get royally fucked over, especially if there's a kid involved. Also kids are expensive and seem to be a pain in the ass to raise. I think I'll pass on that bullshit.

Primary uses of my phone: checking the weather/news, setting alarm clock, and sending random pictures of our (my mom and I) cats when she's at work (as opposed to getting texts by hypothetical friends to go out somewhere (which requires friends and money; I have neither) or getting texts from hypothetical girlfriend to go out (requires confidence and money; you guessed it: I have neither of those in large amounts)...Oh! And speaking of cats...

...Only company I have most of the day are two cats-Those furry little bastards seem to love me more than anything sometimes :3

My 43 year old mom has a Facebook and several friends who she keeps in touch with...I'm 22 with no social media account at all. Weird, huh? I belong in 1815 at this rate. XD

Only hobby is gaming if that can even be considered a hobby anymore

Only likes mainstream music (in other words, my taste in music (or lack thereof) is laughable, but shit it's addicting)

No true talents or things I'm good at besides staying up late and playing games LOL

I sometimes wonder how I've made it through life without a single panic attack or anxiety attack.

Creating a topic titled, "Can you beat me in the "loser department"? at 2:30 AM (my time) on an Internet forum :P

Your turn! :D

Yeah, I needed that off my chest. :P Having all that build up inside you isn't good for your health.

I wouldn't disclose that information, especially here of all places.

Well, at least you didn't get: dumped, turn fat, got into debt, got kicked out of school, turn into a semi-alcoholic, and 5 years later decided to put all the pieces of life back together and realize that you old as fvck now at 25 and no longer a young guy anymore. <---That was two years ago. Just turned 27, lost all my weight and saw I have loose skin now. Have stopped alcoholic binging. Back in school, 85% out of debt, but age and financial security have become a bigger barrier in finding someone. Basically, when I get all my shit done I'll be 30 and hopefully married.

In your case, stay positive bro. You are still young and can still accomplish much before 30 unlike me. Stay in school and get that degree. Choose one major and go. After you get your degree, you can always go back to school once you take a couple years off and you might change your stance on school (about being done with it, believe me I thought I was too). Once you secure that degree and be more financially secured, it's easier to just focus on life and get that girl. She'll come around, don't sweat it too much. I'm stuck with no money, no degree, no career job. I've got to sacrifice one aspect of life for another now. It sucks.

In other words......don't be like me. ;)

TC no offense but i find you quite cool as your personality goes and by looks a handsome young man. You shouldn't think so low of yourself as you just 22, lifes have not even started properly for you ( marriage, real freinds, proper job, bringing up children ). You may go high places in future, just don't fall into inferiorty complexes. Just a advise :)

22. You're only 22. What's the worry?

I probably could, but I won't.

Jesus Christ, yes, I have you beat. It ain't even a comparison. There are many things you mentioned which I think are admirable and not at all what I'd think of as a loser.

You're 22, you're in college, have a car and can afford it, don't have friends but don't want them...you seem to be living a good life; what's the complaint here? Sorry if I seem unsympathetic but half the users in OT have a worse life than you do...cheer up buddy.

Sign guess I'll be his wingman.

You do that. I'm sure boobies would cheer him right up =D

i am the biggest loser in here no contest

"I sometimes wonder how I've made it through life without a single panic attack or anxiety attack."

I'd be proud of that. You clearly seem fine with how you are and very few people can say that about themselves. Go you!

You have a job and you're studying in what I assume is a pretty decent field. Your situation is hardly terribly and your future prospects are pretty damn good I think.

Not me but I know a person much older than you that live with his parents and never worked a day in their life.

Working out is healthy lifestyle element and helps increase self confidence and esteem. Just a suggestion.

You mentioned you have a job. You already beat my kid. Granted, my kid is 18 (19 in a few months). Still. She's considered an adult here.

good luck with alllll that.

(sorry, had to )

Our lives are not vastly different.

I'm 22 and going to college, living with my parents. I don't have a job though as I don't need one(not that I could find one or be willing to take time off my studies and eliminate my free time). That's because I don't have any student loans to burden me and my expenses are minimal(the money needed for going out once or twice a week with friends and the occasional personal purchase), not to mention that small money-gift I get from my grandparents everytime I visit which is literally my main source of income right now.

My social life was identical to yours before going to college. Thankfully, I made a small group of friends with whom we are pretty close and talk almost daily. I don't lead the normal crazy college party life but that's fine with me.

Relationship-wise, tis a barren wasteland. Still waiting for someone.

And consider yourself lucky because I've had anxiety attacks and they weren't fun nor is OCD which I suffer from.

Honestly, from what I've seen so far of you, I think we could easily hang out. As others have said, don't succumb to low self-esteem(I tend to do it too at times), you're not as bad as you think you are. Don't lose hope, you(we) are still quite young.

I'm nearly 24, never had a job, haven't gone to school since I was 15, no GED/diploma. Also have no driver's license, owe thousands. Have an abundance of bad, dangerous habits. I could probably go on but I think I have you beat.

Self-deprecation is unbecoming.

We are all losers in one way or another. I work a fulltime job at Lowe's but still live with my pops and I'm 27. I'm trying to get out on my own soon though. I have a cousin who is almost 40, has no education, no job, doesn't want a job, is expecting a child, spoiled rotten, yells at his mom when he doesn't have his way, yadayadayada. The way I figure it, as long as I don't become him or as long as anybody doesn't become him, you're not even close to the loser circle.

TC, get the **** over your anxiety issues and go find a job that will get you more than 6-9 hours a week. No one likes having to do interviews but if you let that stop you from trying you are sealing your fate.

Hell, Home Depot hires cashiers who don't need to know shit except where to find things and gives them at least 29 hours a week. Home Depot is ALWAYS hiring, by the way. Maybe you'll actually meet some people and make some friends. It's pretty sad that the only meaningful social contact you have is with cats and your mom.

Then, when you actually have a job to sustain you, you can start trying to get a job in the field your major is in. I don't know why you can't find a job as a radiologist. Have you even tried?

Either way, the only person that can make you succeed is yourself. Kick your ass in gear and stop feeling sorry for yourself. If you need your ass kicked to be motivated, join the fucking military. Oh, and the military is ALWAYS looking for x-ray techs.

I don't know why you feel like your situation is hopeless.

Not that worried. It's not like I'm giving out my address, phone number, and social security number.

@ShepardCommandr: I've got to say your picture is the most amazing thing my eyes have ever been blessed upon

Man ....have u ever been in a third world shithole?!!!

It's not like that if u don't try u'll end up poor or sth,which is the case here yes even if u work your ass off you ain't gonna get shit , the only problem with you is YOU! You haven't even tried ...my only suggestion for you is stop complaining and actually DO sth ...

Huh, I never knew that. That could be an option when I graduate. I haven't found a career with radiography yet because I'm still in university. :P

Yeah, I sometimes tell myself that at least I was born in a Western democracy instead of fighting for some obscure African warlord or something.

Not sure if serious or sarcastic, but I am surprised I've made it this far w/o any anxiety/panic attacks considering how crappy my whole time was from kindergarten thru 12th grade. I was a "special kid" for most of my life spent in public school. I always only had a small circle of acquaintances, had behavioral problems in elementary school that peaked in severity in 6th grade, then slipped into low self-esteem into junior high and throughout high school. Few people liked me. I wasn't even a blip on anyone's radar mostly. I always hated pep rallies in high school; they should be called prep rallies instead because all of it was just a big dick sucking indulgence for the most popular kids. I was an occasional target of bullying in middle and and high school. Thankfully, social anxiety has calmed down since I graduated high school in '11. I remember a few times where anxiety was so high that I almost fainted in the hall. O_O

When I look at girls then and now, all I see are a bunch of people who were/are too good for me. I don't stand a chance right now. All I see are girls with seemingly high end clothing, purses, and smartphones. They probably have more money in their purse than I make in one or two months when they go out shopping. Most of them probably have flourishing social lives and more friends on Facebook than I'd care to count. In other words, most girls are the polar opposite of me.

My mom actually told me that after I graduate, she wants me to go on an online dating site, but hell, I don't want to do that for two reasons: I need to get settled in and I need to collect my thoughts on that before I charge in. Hell, just thinking about going on a first date is scary.

Then you need to doubly look into Home Depot because they also always hire college students and will work around your schedule.

So will Lowe's.

That too. I swear, a monkey can be a cashier at those places.

You're not wrong. I work at Lowe's and do full time overnight deliveries and the work is criminally easy. In places like Home Depot or Lowe's, If you can lift, you can work.

That's funny, my cousin works overnights at Home Depot. He's been there nine months and he's a DH now.

I've suffered probably at least several panic attacks in my life time so far, and other numerous times, all were anxiety attacks. Not fun. :( I definitely have anxiety disorder, and in April 2009 I've actually suffered an endless barrage of nights where I had heavy breathing discomfort, up until I finally found a cure in Summer 2011, but then it seems like in Fall 2011 up until Fall 2013, I have had numerous nights with sleeping difficulty, and a few nights here and there, I just couldn't sleep at all throughout the whole day. Ugh. While fortunately that huge sleeping problem has been cured about a year and 3 months ago, I'm not sure what might come for me next. Ever since around 2009 - 2010, it feels as though I got a curse placed on me somehow.

@airshocker This Home Depot thing ...what is it exactly? Do they need mechanical engineers ? ...trying to find a job :D

Home Depot is a big retail chain. The only work you'll be getting there is retail stuff, nothing related to your degree.

I see....thanks.

FYI, my mom bought me the car and makes the monthly payments on it. I pay for monthly insurance, gas, and oil changes. All three of those combined are cheaper than the car payment.

@gamerguru100: Still...at 16 when I started college we were so poor we could only afford to buy rice, we lived in an apartment probably the size of your room, we couldn't even afford hot water so cold showers ftw, I had to walk almost 2 hours to college and 2 hours back everyday because I couldn't afford to take the bus, the books I used were the books other people had thrown in the trash, was physically abused by my parents almost on a daily basis but had nowhere else to go, had to pretty much sell myself as arm candy to a rich old lady (thankfully no sex) in order to pay for my tuition, was just recovering from really severe asthma that would land me in the hospital almost every night, had no friends because my parents would trip and beat me up if they saw me talking to anybody, was studying programming and didn't even have a computer...was writing my code on a notepad (you know, the paper thing, not the software =P), was suffering from severe depression and OCD, then at a point found a job to help me pay for college and I would leave the house at 6 in the morning to work, then straight to school and then sleep for an hour before going to work again.

Do you know what I would have given to have a mother who instead of cracking my head open with a darn cooking pot would have given me a car?

OP, read this and read it well, because it might be one of the most important things in your life.

You can make a career in writing.

Seriously. The opening post was attention-grabbing and very relatable. I believe you've got a talent with words, which might as well mean you're a talented guy on many other areas as well.

Think about it. Do some freelance writing. Look for local magazine writing gigs. Start a journal. Launch a blog.

Then, BAM you're a published author! You can do this!

If not that, at least you're just 22 years old and you've got your mother with you. This means you've got all the time in the world (don't waste a minute of it), and at least another human being who cares about you. You've got work, you're not starving, you can probably manipulate local regulations to get some kind of wellfare to help you on your feet and you've got charisma, yes, charisma, based on how your penmanship.

What you lack? I can't be sure, but perhaps it's self-confidence? I know it's hard to keep it up with all those seemingly fancy people prancing about while you struggle, but think big. In ten years, things might be very different.

I've seen a lot of people worse off than that.

You have plenty of time so I wouldn't worry about it!

That's what I was thinking. Lots of time to find something he's passinaote about and to make something of himself.

You are in a perfectly fine place TC. Hell I found the job I have now a little over a year ago at 23.. Before that I was living at my parents house and working at Wal-Mart. Now I've got a career job and I've moved out and got a place that I rent with a couple other people. You've got all the time in the world to move to bigger and better things.