Can you still be friends after love/sex?

My girlfriend and I are probably going to end up breaking up soon. It's been almost 4 months of seeing each other almost every single day for hours on end. We've had sex already and love each other. She kept saying if we ever broke up she thinks we'd still be able to be friends. I'm not sure though I'd like to think so. Probably not gonna happen though. It's too awkward I think.

Is it possible for two people to be friends after something like this?

My girlfriend and I are probably going to end up breaking up soon. It's been almost 4 months of seeing each other almost every single day for hours on end. We've had sex already and love each other. She kept saying if we ever broke up she thinks we'd still be able to be friends. I'm not sure though I'd like to think so. Not gonna happen though, it's too awkward I think.

Is it possible for two people to be friends after scomething like this?

Mittsman890

Yes , but why would you think you will be breaking up soon?

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My girlfriend and I are probably going to end up breaking up soon. It's been almost 4 months of seeing each other almost every single day for hours on end. We've had sex already and love each other. She kept saying if we ever broke up she thinks we'd still be able to be friends. I'm not sure though I'd like to think so. Not gonna happen though, it's too awkward I think.

Is it possible for two people to be friends after scomething like this?

pintabear49blue

Yes , but why would you think you will be breaking up soon?

Read my last thread. It explains all you need to know. And she tries to push me away alot because she's weird and says I deserve better, which I do.

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My girlfriend and I are probably going to end up breaking up soon. It's been almost 4 months of seeing each other almost every single day for hours on end. We've had sex already and love each other. She kept saying if we ever broke up she thinks we'd still be able to be friends. I'm not sure though I'd like to think so. Not gonna happen though, it's too awkward I think.

Is it possible for two people to be friends after scomething like this?

Mittsman890

Yes , but why would you think you will be breaking up soon?

Read my last thread. It explains all you need to know. And she tries to push me away alot because she's weird and says I deserve better, which I do.

Depends entirely on the personalities involved. I see two people who i used to go out with every day. I'm very good friends with one, and awkward and unfriendly with the other. Simpy because one just forget about it and went back to being friends, so all was good, but the other doesn't really let it go and always brings it up.

Not in my experiences.

I dated one girl for three years and we haven't really talked since. Turns out she's a lesbian.

I dated another girl for about three and a half years and she's still in love with me but I've got a new girlfriend. Whenever we talk she always ends up crying because she misses me. I haven't talked to her in a few months as a result. The ironic thing is she broke up with me.

I've had friendships that turned into sex-buddies, I've had relationships where me and the girl had sex, I've had it all.

I can tell you one thing, it all sounds well and good to remain friends but it almost never works. I hate to say it, but I have not been able to keep a girl as a friend after we've fooled around. Of course this isn't without effort on my part, I always try to remain friends. I think it has more to do with me always doing the dumping/cutting off the physical aspect.

People can be so immature.

Not in my experiences.

I dated one girl for three years and we haven't really talked since. Turns out she's a lesbian.

I dated another girl for about three and a half years and she's still in love with me but I've got a new girlfriend. Whenever we talk she always ends up crying because she misses me. I haven't talked to her in a few months as a result. The ironic thing is she broke up with me.

D9-THC

Yeah I'd never talk to her again, for her sake. Its so sad when that happens...

why are you asking us this? It's really up to you, no matter what anyone says. IMO, there are more important things to worry about than this. *If you have to ask what those things are-you are a sad, sad, person*.mohfrontline

Of course it will be my experience and decision. I was just asking for input from others in past situations similar to this. No need to get angry about it.

Its VERY difficult, and it makes it very difficult to move on.

Well, I notice that there's two types of couples. Those that can be friends after the break up and those that can't.

The ones that can are generally friends beforehand and had intelligable conversations on a regular basis. By intelligable conversation I mean they debate and acknowledge differences, not agree with every single thing the other person says because they're attractive. The kinds of people that discuss ideology and theories rather than doing the stupid cute talk that most couples do.

Then you have the ones that can't, because they are the most montonous stereotypical couples ever. The kind of people that take comfort in the fact that there's a vagina and a penis in the room in common. The kind of people that don't have anything in common upstairs so they regress their intelligence to sound like morons, giving each other puppy love talk and talking about simple things in the room or giving feedback such as "Yeah that sounds good, you gotta do what you gotta do" and whatnot. Simply put, people that have no interest in who each other are but what each other are. Take a good look back at the two of you, are you one of these? If so, then no. Not gonna be buddies.

When you have a dumb relationship, you're primal and you can't acknowledge other animals after your kill.

Well, I notice that there's two types of couples. Those that can be friends after the break up and those that can't.

The ones that can are generally friends beforehand and had intelligable conversations on a regular basis. By intelligable conversation I mean they debate and acknowledge differences, not agree with every single thing the other person says because they're attractive. The kinds of people that discuss ideology and theories rather than doing the stupid cute talk that most couples do.

Then you have the ones that can't, because they are the most montonous stereotypical couples ever. The kind of people that take comfort in the fact that there's a vagina and a penis in the room in common. The kind of people that don't have anything in common upstairs so they regress their intelligence to sound like morons, giving each other puppy love talk and talking about simple things in the room or giving feedback such as "Yeah that sounds good, you gotta do what you gotta do" and whatnot. Simply put, people that have no interest in who each other are but what each other are. Take a good look back at the two of you, are you one of these? If so, then no. Not gonna be buddies.

When you have a dumb relationship, you're primal and you can't acknowledge other animals after your kill.

jealentus

Ah yes because people are simple enough to be divided into two categories regarding the most complex of all emotions.

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Well, I notice that there's two types of couples. Those that can be friends after the break up and those that can't.

The ones that can are generally friends beforehand and had intelligable conversations on a regular basis. By intelligable conversation I mean they debate and acknowledge differences, not agree with every single thing the other person says because they're attractive. The kinds of people that discuss ideology and theories rather than doing the stupid cute talk that most couples do.

Then you have the ones that can't, because they are the most montonous stereotypical couples ever. The kind of people that take comfort in the fact that there's a vagina and a penis in the room in common. The kind of people that don't have anything in common upstairs so they regress their intelligence to sound like morons, giving each other puppy love talk and talking about simple things in the room or giving feedback such as "Yeah that sounds good, you gotta do what you gotta do" and whatnot. Simply put, people that have no interest in who each other are but what each other are. Take a good look back at the two of you, are you one of these? If so, then no. Not gonna be buddies.

When you have a dumb relationship, you're primal and you can't acknowledge other animals after your kill.

D9-THC

Ah yes because people are simple enough to be divided into two categories regarding the most complex of all emotions.

lol Beat me to it.

I don't think it's possible to be just friends with someone you've had a sexual encounter with.Jemdude

why are you asking us this? It's really up to you, no matter what anyone says. IMO, there are more important things to worry about than this. *If you have to ask what those things are-you are a sad, sad, person*.mohfrontline

Of course it is, unless you're like every other sex hound.Hinata237

No disagreements here

My girlfriend and I are probably going to end up breaking up soon. It's been almost 4 months of seeing each other almost every single day for hours on end. We've had sex already and love each other. She kept saying if we ever broke up she thinks we'd still be able to be friends. I'm not sure though I'd like to think so. Probably not gonna happen though. It's too awkward I think.

Is it possible for two people to be friends after something like this?

Mittsman890

I'm going through it right now... my fiance broke up with me 5 months ago... and well, we still talk but I wouldn't consider us to be "friends". It's really ackward. And sucky...

However, I do think it's possible it just depends on your perosnality and hers.

Well, I notice that there's two types of couples. Those that can be friends after the break up and those that can't.

The ones that can are generally friends beforehand and had intelligable conversations on a regular basis. By intelligable conversation I mean they debate and acknowledge differences, not agree with every single thing the other person says because they're attractive. The kinds of people that discuss ideology and theories rather than doing the stupid cute talk that most couples do.

Then you have the ones that can't, because they are the most montonous stereotypical couples ever. The kind of people that take comfort in the fact that there's a vagina and a penis in the room in common. The kind of people that don't have anything in common upstairs so they regress their intelligence to sound like morons, giving each other puppy love talk and talking about simple things in the room or giving feedback such as "Yeah that sounds good, you gotta do what you gotta do" and whatnot. Simply put, people that have no interest in who each other are but what each other are. Take a good look back at the two of you, are you one of these? If so, then no. Not gonna be buddies.

When you have a dumb relationship, you're primal and you can't acknowledge other animals after your kill.

jealentus

That's a pretty good observation. However, it's far more complicated than "Couples who can't" and "couples who can". You're also missing the emotional, comfort, security, aspects of it all too. There's too many variables to just split it in two...

Just sleep with her mother. That way you have an excuse to go and see her everyday. You gettin some lovin on the side and its not as awkard when you run into her. FTW!Wilfred_Owen

That made me laugh so much, yeah im that shallow I guess.

Usually depends on the break up, if its good or bad. and it depends on whether in 1/2/3/4 etc. months you look back and say "wow i didnt even love her"(which makes it easy to be friends) or "i still love her"(makes it hard) n stuff like that. But generally id say no, its weird to be friends with an ex.

In theory, yes.

According to my last relationship....hellz no. :|

But in any other relationship maybe theres hope. ;)

Depends on the break-up, I guess? It would probably be easier to stay friends if it was a mutual break-up on good terms.Zagrius

yeah it all really rides on that...if its a real bad break up then probably not...but if its a mutal thing and you're both adults about it then yeah you can still be friends

It depends on the maturity level of both parties, and how the break-up happend...

The true test will be when both have entered another relationship. Some people break up on good terms and are like "yeah we're friends" then someone starts dating someone else seriously and the other person suddenly turns into the green-eyed monster.

No its not really. You can "pretend" to be friends and throw up a front that looks like a friendship but deep down everytime you see her with a guy or she sees you with a girl if you ever truely loved each other you will be uncomfortable.