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#1 riseagnstfan
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my gf just said she never wants to talk 2 me again and kept her word on the phone for an hour before i hung up.. and its all because she thinks i dont want to talk 2 her or im getting tired of her. and she thinks this because i dont talk much when were on the phone and its because im shy and she knows that.. so is it fair that i have to feel like **** for traits i cant help?
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Dude i dont even understand what you two are trippn off of...basically you may have to be the man and tell her you appologize (if you really did mess up) otherwise get serious and ask her whats really go on.

Man if you dont talk to women bad stuff can become even worse. lol

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#3 riseagnstfan
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Dude i dont even understand what you two are trippn off of...basically you may have to be the man and tell her you appologize (if you really did mess up) otherwise get serious and ask her whats really go on.

Man if you dont talk to women bad stuff can become even worse. lol

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idk she gets emotional easily and i have to deal with it and i dont want to tell her to apologize because then she will REALLY hate me and i cant ask her whats going on if she wont talk

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#4 Kuhu
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Weren't you here a week ago with another topic complaining about how your girlfriend and her friend we're making fun of your kidney over the phone?

She sounds annoying, just dump her already...

..

...Unless your only staying with her because you don't think you can get another girl after.

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#5 psn_Jaimzl
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girls are ALWAYS like this just make sure u dont forget any important dates respond so it actually seems like ur listening. dont just say ya un uh right etc.... give a statement response ask her a question etc...
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#6 riseagnstfan
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Weren't you here a week ago with another topic complaining about how your girlfriend and her friend we're making fun of your kidney over the phone?

She sounds annoying, just dump her already...

..

...Unless your only staying with her because you don't think you can get another girl after.

Kuhu

yea ur rite about how i have to deal with bs a lot from her and yea ur rite i dont think i can get anyone else, infact i can almost guarantee it

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#7 Kuhu
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[QUOTE="Kuhu"]

Weren't you here a week ago with another topic complaining about how your girlfriend and her friend we're making fun of your kidney over the phone?

She sounds annoying, just dump her already...

..

...Unless your only staying with her because you don't think you can get another girl after.

riseagnstfan

yea ur rite about how i have to deal with bs a lot from her and yea ur rite i dont think i can get anyone else, infact i can almost guarantee it

I'm good...

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#8 riseagnstfan
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girls are ALWAYS like this just make sure u dont forget any important dates respond so it actually seems like ur listening. dont just say ya un uh right etc.... give a statement response ask her a question etc...psn_Jaimzl
i asked her what it is im doing wrong and other things but she wouldnt reply
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#9 d51man
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Weren't you here a week ago with another topic complaining about how your girlfriend and her friend we're making fun of your kidney over the phone?

She sounds annoying, just dump her already...

..

...Unless your only staying with her because you don't think you can get another girl after.

Kuhu

Man...if someone made fun of my kidney, that's ridiculous. Seriously though, unless your love her A LOT, I think it's time you showed her you don't have to stick around...

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#10 riseagnstfan
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[QUOTE="Kuhu"]

Weren't you here a week ago with another topic complaining about how your girlfriend and her friend we're making fun of your kidney over the phone?

She sounds annoying, just dump her already...

..

...Unless your only staying with her because you don't think you can get another girl after.

d51man

Man...if someone made fun of my kidney, that's ridiculous. Seriously though, unless your love her A LOT, I think it's time you showed her you don't have to stick around...

i do love her a lot.. and i calmly told her "its not fair that u think this. i cant help being shy and ive tried so many times. im sry"..but no matter what i say its not good enough

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#11 Akm4everz
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[QUOTE="Akm4everz"]

Dude i dont even understand what you two are trippn off of...basically you may have to be the man and tell her you appologize (if you really did mess up) otherwise get serious and ask her whats really go on.

Man if you dont talk to women bad stuff can become even worse. lol

riseagnstfan

idk she gets emotional easily and i have to deal with it and i dont want to tell her to apologize because then she will REALLY hate me and i cant ask her whats going on if she wont talk

Psh you know most women are moody if not all.... thats why i'm sayn that. FIrst off get off the phone and talk to her in person. Just tell her you wanna go out for alittle bit and you just wanna take her somewhere she would like. You can tell her she doesn't have to talk to you the whole way there, but I bet you 20 dollars she'll break out of it.

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#12 criinok
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Weren't you here a week ago with another topic complaining about how your girlfriend and her friend we're making fun of your kidney over the phone?

She sounds annoying, just dump her already...

..

...Unless your only staying with her because you don't think you can get another girl after.

Kuhu

Yeap... my last girlfriend was always getting me down in the dumps, and a relationship is NOT meant to be like that, dude. Seriously, if you are unhappy consistantly like this, just get out. I remember that kidney post.

I was afraid of her breaking up with me because I thought it was the only one I could get, but just open your eyes and get out there. I've got a whole bunch of girl friends right now, doing great with all of em... and I could ask out any of em anytime I wanted. But... I'm keeping it single for now.

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#13 Kuhu
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Since I actually didn't offer any advice and merely complimented myself in my last post, I will redeem myself.

Right now we know two things:

1. You are very shy
2. She is supressing you/taking advantage of you

Do you think these two could be connected in any way?

Right now she is in a position of power and she knows it. She is going to torment you any way she can simply because she knows that you will not fight back and you will not leave. Its like when a bully picks on someone at school; When he finds someone who doesn't fight back and doesn't tell, he will keep beating that kid up.

Now your going to have to stand up for yourself. Sure, she will fight back, it will be a long process. She may even dump you OR you may even end up dumping HER. Think about it, if your worried about losing her, what happens when she leaves? She no longer has power over you; That is to say, she doesn't have the girlfriend trumph card, so your on even ground.

If you are really interested in trying to keep this relationship (As I am sure you are, because as I suspected, you are shy and have no confidence in your ability to get another girl) then you still need to stick up for yourself, and at least let her know that you are her EQUAL and not her INFERIOR.

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my gf just said she never wants to talk 2 me again and kept her word on the phone for an hour before i hung up.. and its all because she thinks i dont want to talk 2 her or im getting tired of her. and she thinks this because i dont talk much when were on the phone and its because im shy and she knows that.. so is it fair that i have to feel like **** for traits i cant help?riseagnstfan

Sounds like a typical high maintinance attention craving drama queen, get out while you can. There's plenty more fish in the sea, my friend, life's too short for that kind of bull****.

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#15 riseagnstfan
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Since I actually didn't offer any advice and merely complimented myself in my last post, I will redeem myself.

Right now we know two things:

1. You are very shy
2. She is supressing you/taking advantage of you

Do you think these two could be connected in any way?

Right now she is in a position of power and she knows it. She is going to torment you any way she can simply because she knows that you will not fight back and you will not leave. Its like when a bully picks on someone at school; When he finds someone who doesn't fight back and doesn't tell, he will keep beating that kid up.

Now your going to have to stand up for yourself. Sure, she will fight back, it will be a long process. She may even dump you OR you may even end up dumping HER. Think about it, if your worried about losing her, what happens when she leaves? She no longer has power over you; That is to say, she doesn't have the girlfriend trumph card, so your on even ground.

If you are really interested in trying to keep this relationship (As I am sure you are, because as I suspected, you are shy and have no confidence in your ability to get another girl) then you still need to stick up for yourself, and at least let her know that you are her EQUAL and not her INFERIOR.

Kuhu

yea ur rite.. i just know that if in the fight we end up breaking up.. i am going to be depressed for a long time because no matter how much **** she gives me she it somehow seems like one of the best things 2 happen to me because she says she wants to be with me and makes me happy when this isnt going on

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#16 criinok
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Right now she is in a position of power and she knows it. She is going to torment you any way she can simply because she knows that you will not fight back and you will not leave.(SO, so true dude. Girls love doing that) Its like when a bully picks on someone at school; When he finds someone who doesn't fight back and doesn't tell, he will keep beating that kid up.

If you are really interested in trying to keep this relationship (As I am sure you are, because as I suspected, you are shy and have no confidence in your ability to get another girl)(Yet again, very true. Get more confidence man, I used to be afraid to just go put up my lunch tray by myself. But then one day I realized how retarded that was, and starting from that, I boosted my self confidence ten-fold.)then you still need to stick up for yourself, and at least let her know that you are her EQUAL and not her INFERIOR.

Kuhu

Every single word of this is true, bud. Listen to it all, and choose your next actions according to it. It's for the best, because no relationship is worth it if 1) The girl is constantly letting you down and making you feel like s**t, or 2) You're only in it still because you are afraid you can't get another girl

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yea ur rite.. i just know that if in the fight we end up breaking up.. i am going to be depressed for a long time because no matter how much **** she gives me she it somehow seems like one of the best things 2 happen to me because she says she wants to be with me and makes me happy when this isnt going on

riseagnstfan

It's an odd thing, but you only ever focus on the good things while you're dating. After you two split, you're going to realize how crappy things really were. When you get a better girl, that doesn't make you feel like garbage you're really going to realize how much time you wasted.

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#18 riseagnstfan
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[QUOTE="riseagnstfan"]

yea ur rite.. i just know that if in the fight we end up breaking up.. i am going to be depressed for a long time because no matter how much **** she gives me she it somehow seems like one of the best things 2 happen to me because she says she wants to be with me and makes me happy when this isnt going on

RiSkyBiZ-13

It's an odd thing, but you only ever focus on the good things while you're dating. After you two split, you're going to realize how crappy things really were. When you get a better girl, that doesn't make you feel like garbage you're really going to realize how much time you wasted.

i feel like i wont get anyone else though i have such low confidence and self esteem when it comes to girls.. it seems like all the girls i do end up talking 2 and becoming friends with r already dating someone

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#19 RiSkyBiZ-13
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[QUOTE="RiSkyBiZ-13"][QUOTE="riseagnstfan"]

yea ur rite.. i just know that if in the fight we end up breaking up.. i am going to be depressed for a long time because no matter how much **** she gives me she it somehow seems like one of the best things 2 happen to me because she says she wants to be with me and makes me happy when this isnt going on

riseagnstfan

It's an odd thing, but you only ever focus on the good things while you're dating. After you two split, you're going to realize how crappy things really were. When you get a better girl, that doesn't make you feel like garbage you're really going to realize how much time you wasted.

i feel like i wont get anyone else though i have such low confidence and self esteem when it comes to girls.. it seems like all the girls i do end up talking 2 and becoming friends with r already dating someone

This is going to be a hard concept to embrace, but try it. If you do, you're life will be million times better. STOP TRYING. You don't NEED a girlfriend. Sure, a girl is nice to have around, but you don't NEED it. When you stop trying, the right girl will approach YOU. Not only this, but when you strip away the prospect of dating from your mind you will begin to have a MUCH easier time talking to girls, your shyness will slowly vanish. My wife approached me, and she's the best thing that's ever happened to me.

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#20 riseagnstfan
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[QUOTE="riseagnstfan"][QUOTE="RiSkyBiZ-13"][QUOTE="riseagnstfan"]

yea ur rite.. i just know that if in the fight we end up breaking up.. i am going to be depressed for a long time because no matter how much **** she gives me she it somehow seems like one of the best things 2 happen to me because she says she wants to be with me and makes me happy when this isnt going on

RiSkyBiZ-13

It's an odd thing, but you only ever focus on the good things while you're dating. After you two split, you're going to realize how crappy things really were. When you get a better girl, that doesn't make you feel like garbage you're really going to realize how much time you wasted.

i feel like i wont get anyone else though i have such low confidence and self esteem when it comes to girls.. it seems like all the girls i do end up talking 2 and becoming friends with r already dating someone

This is going to be a hard concept to embrace, but try it. If you do, you're life will be million times better. STOP TRYING. You don't NEED a girlfriend. Sure, a girl is nice to have around, but you don't NEED it. When you stop trying, the right girl will approach YOU. Not only this, but when you strip away the prospect of dating from your mind you will begin to have a MUCH easier time talking to girls, your shyness will slowly vanish. My wife approached me, and she's the best thing that's ever happened to me.

i know i dont need a gf but it seems like i feel good about myself with one *yikes that sounds arrogant* and

im not trying to be funny here it isnt a joke.. but ive been gone every week for a month every month we have been dating (sense february) and it wasnt until this month we started fighting so i think i have caught her at the wrong time of the month.. this is no joke

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i know i dont need a gf but it seems like i feel good about myself with one *yikes that sounds arrogant* and

im not trying to be funny here it isnt a joke.. but ive been gone every week for a month every month we have been dating (sense february) and it wasnt until this month we started fighting so i think i have caught her at the wrong time of the month.. this is no joke

riseagnstfan

Doesn't sound arrogant at all, it's totally natural that you feel better about yourself when you have a girlfriend, it's a big status thing that society pushes on all of us. It could possibly be her PMS rampage... how long have you two been dating? Have you been fighting often all along? More importantly, what do you like about this girl? Do you have anything in common?

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#22 riseagnstfan
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[QUOTE="riseagnstfan"]

i know i dont need a gf but it seems like i feel good about myself with one *yikes that sounds arrogant* and

im not trying to be funny here it isnt a joke.. but ive been gone every week for a month every month we have been dating (sense february) and it wasnt until this month we started fighting so i think i have caught her at the wrong time of the month.. this is no joke

RiSkyBiZ-13

Doesn't sound arrogant at all, it's totally natural that you feel better about yourself when you have a girlfriend, it's a big status thing that society pushes on all of us. It could possibly be her PMS rampage... how long have you two been dating? Have you been fighting often all along? More importantly, what do you like about this girl? Do you have anything in common?

thats actually what im thinking..we have been dating for 5 months and this is the 2nd time we have fought this month and we never had b4.. i like her personality a lot *when shes not *****y* and we have a lot of things in common like sports, music, personalities, and a lot of other stuff

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#23 RiSkyBiZ-13
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[QUOTE="RiSkyBiZ-13"][QUOTE="riseagnstfan"]

i know i dont need a gf but it seems like i feel good about myself with one *yikes that sounds arrogant* and

im not trying to be funny here it isnt a joke.. but ive been gone every week for a month every month we have been dating (sense february) and it wasnt until this month we started fighting so i think i have caught her at the wrong time of the month.. this is no joke

riseagnstfan

Doesn't sound arrogant at all, it's totally natural that you feel better about yourself when you have a girlfriend, it's a big status thing that society pushes on all of us. It could possibly be her PMS rampage... how long have you two been dating? Have you been fighting often all along? More importantly, what do you like about this girl? Do you have anything in common?

thats actually what im thinking..we have been dating for 5 months and this is the 2nd time we have fought this month and we never had b4.. i like her personality a lot *when shes not *****y* and we have a lot of things in common like sports, music, personalities, and a lot of other stuff

If that's the case then I'd talk to her and work it out. 5 months without a fight isn't too bad, I'm sure she'll get over it.

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#24 riseagnstfan
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[QUOTE="riseagnstfan"][QUOTE="RiSkyBiZ-13"][QUOTE="riseagnstfan"]

i know i dont need a gf but it seems like i feel good about myself with one *yikes that sounds arrogant* and

im not trying to be funny here it isnt a joke.. but ive been gone every week for a month every month we have been dating (sense february) and it wasnt until this month we started fighting so i think i have caught her at the wrong time of the month.. this is no joke

RiSkyBiZ-13

Doesn't sound arrogant at all, it's totally natural that you feel better about yourself when you have a girlfriend, it's a big status thing that society pushes on all of us. It could possibly be her PMS rampage... how long have you two been dating? Have you been fighting often all along? More importantly, what do you like about this girl? Do you have anything in common?

thats actually what im thinking..we have been dating for 5 months and this is the 2nd time we have fought this month and we never had b4.. i like her personality a lot *when shes not *****y* and we have a lot of things in common like sports, music, personalities, and a lot of other stuff

If that's the case then I'd talk to her and work it out. 5 months without a fight isn't too bad, I'm sure she'll get over it.

all rite another question.. should i feel like a ***** when she wasnt talking 2 me on the phone and i asked if shes all rite and she has no reply and i tell her 3 times if ur not there im hanging up and i do hang up not knowing if shes there or not?

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#25 RiSkyBiZ-13
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all rite another question.. should i feel like a ***** when she wasnt talking 2 me on the phone and i asked if shes all rite and she has no reply and i tell her 3 times if ur not there im hanging up and i do hang up not knowing if shes there or not?

riseagnstfan

No, hang up and don't call her until she calls you.

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Give it a good nights rest and see if that helps things....
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#27 riseagnstfan
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[QUOTE="riseagnstfan"]

all rite another question.. should i feel like a ***** when she wasnt talking 2 me on the phone and i asked if shes all rite and she has no reply and i tell her 3 times if ur not there im hanging up and i do hang up not knowing if shes there or not?

RiSkyBiZ-13

No, hang up and don't call her until she calls you.

all rite thx..u know what i find funny about this topic..every arrogant @$$hole who voted yes didnt post.. so they think they r funny but they dont realize how retarded they r

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#28 ClassicPlayer
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Totally not fair, I just hope she forgives you for it.
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#29 Shad0ki11
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You should resolve your issue in-person, and not over the phone.

Texting and calling just provides a mask for one's emotions in a situation like yours.

You might connect better if you talked with her in person.

I'm not saying it will resolve all your issues or that it is the solution to your problem, but it's worth giving it a shot.

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#30 Benny_is_here
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She's obviously not a keeper. Get rid of her.