Do you believe that both parents should be of the same religion?

When it comes to educate their children? if you dont care at all about religious teachings in your children (or for yourself) then you shouldnt be posting here.

For example do you think its a good idea to have one parent being a jewish and the other one a protestant? or a catholic and an atheist?

I think its best when both parents are of 1 denomination, and imo it should always be this way...growing up in a household with different religious beliefs only ends up confusing the child, and in the end one of the parents will end up being resentful if the kid didnt chose to follow his beliefs.

I dont think that "arranging" will do anything better either...I mean when the 2 parents discuss it and say "OK we will teach him your religion, not mine" because like I said in the end the parent will be resentful...for example lets say a Christian and a Muslim get married, and that they agree to educate the child in Chirstianity, the muslim parent will always feel bad about it, even if he doesnt admit it, because he would believe for example that since the children is not a muslim he is part of the "wrong" religion and that he wont achieve salvation.

So really the ideal is just to have both parents be of a single denomination, or at least 2 that wont conflict much one with the other.

It doesn't matter. If the parents were good people they wouldn't let something like that cloud their judgment of each other and the child. SilverChimera

I don't think it matters, tbh. I think you are overthinking the matter.

But if religion was so super important to them and their future children, I don't think they would marry someone with major conflicting beliefs that they would strongly disagree with.

When I was super-christian and got in a long term relationship with a jewish girl. We thought if we had children we just raise the child with good morals stories from both books and a belief in a god. Celebrate both holidays as they were things we enjoyed as a child. You don't have to completely ignore both sides. Let the child figure it out when he/she grows up.

But now I am super-athetists things are alittle bit different. I still plan on christmas stuff and easter for my children.

I am going to blast my kids with science since after I get my phd I am probably going to do things in genetics and molecular biology for the rest of my life.

I want my kids to be objective to world and open-minded. Let them decide what they want to believe. I want logic and reason to prevail.

I got told in college about 50 billion times that diversity builds strength, so I guess not. Parents should be of different religions and fight all the time over it.

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But if religion was so super important to them and their future children, I don't think they would marry someone with major conflicting beliefs that they would strongly disagree with.

Diviniuz

This, in all sincerety.

As long as I don't end up sleeping on the couch,It's what ever...

let the kid choose when he/she is old enough to reason what they want to do. /thread

let the kid choose when he/she is old enough to reason what they want to do. /thread

wis3boi

Does this include all moral philosophy or just religion?

I got told in college about 50 billion times that diversity builds strength, so I guess not. Parents should be of different religions and fight all the time over it.

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[QUOTE="Diviniuz"]

But if religion was so super important to them and their future children, I don't think they would marry someone with major conflicting beliefs that they would strongly disagree with.

Palantas

This, in all sincerety.

the point of marriage is not fighting, if one parent says for example "Jesus was our savior" and the other one says "no! he wasnt! he was just a prophet but he was not a savior" then not only will the kid be confused but like I said there will be one parent who will end up feeling resented.lightleggy

As the person I quoted said, if people are serious about their religion, then this issue will probably come to light before they get married or have kids.

[QUOTE="lightleggy"]the point of marriage is not fighting, if one parent says for example "Jesus was our savior" and the other one says "no! he wasnt! he was just a prophet but he was not a savior" then not only will the kid be confused but like I said there will be one parent who will end up feeling resented.Palantas

As the person I quoted said, if people are serious about their religion, then this issue will probably come to light before they get married or have kids.

I don't think it "should" be one way or the other; there's far more important things in raising a child than religion. But if I was to put some sort of rule in place regarding this, I'd say the parents should let the child decide for him/herself regardless of their beliefs, or at the very least have the parents be of differing opinions on the subject so that the child can grow up knowing there is no one "absolute truth".

Syncretism could be the answer?

[QUOTE="Palantas"]

[QUOTE="lightleggy"]the point of marriage is not fighting, if one parent says for example "Jesus was our savior" and the other one says "no! he wasnt! he was just a prophet but he was not a savior" then not only will the kid be confused but like I said there will be one parent who will end up feeling resented.lightleggy

As the person I quoted said, if people are serious about their religion, then this issue will probably come to light before they get married or have kids.

we gave you our opinions

[QUOTE="Palantas"]

[QUOTE="lightleggy"]the point of marriage is not fighting, if one parent says for example "Jesus was our savior" and the other one says "no! he wasnt! he was just a prophet but he was not a savior" then not only will the kid be confused but like I said there will be one parent who will end up feeling resented.lightleggy

As the person I quoted said, if people are serious about their religion, then this issue will probably come to light before they get married or have kids.

I think that it shouldn't matter if the parents are smart about how they introduce religion or lack of religion in their children's lives. But realistically as others have said, it should be brought up before marriage.

My current G/F is Catholic while I'm agonistic (strongest leaning atheist) and we've had multiple relgion talks and other talks about our conflicting views, we're only senior undergrads, and I don't have any plans of marriage for at least 3 years, in which these conversations will reappear even more until a conclusion is reached.

It is very logical to assume that people getting married of different religions will have at least brought this up before marriage. If a couple are practicing different religions, they will attempt to take their significant others to Mass/temple/or what their version of practicing is. This should then bring up the point of practicing different relgions and the impact it will have on their lives and possible children's lives.

I'm a Christian, and I don't care what my spouse practices, unless it's something bogus like Scientology, Wicca, and Satanism :/

(inb4 somebody quotes me because of Wicca and Satanism. No, I am not against them because of Witchcraft or because of Satan (who isn't even a real guy :/). Wicca and Satanism's origins and stories are about as questionable as Scientology)

It shouldn't matter if the parents come from two different religions. It just means the child will be able to experience two different cultures. Nothing wrong with that.

Several points I must make:

1. I do not advocate divorce simply because of religious differences.

2. Practically speaking, for many it does not matter if spouses are of the same religion because so few actually care about the tenets of their own religion.

3. For those who do wish to serve God with their life having someone of different passions can sometimes cause issues. As an extreme hyperbolic example, if I wished to be a missionary in a nation where Christian proclamation is illegal such a desire might cause marital problems if I'm married to a radical Muslim extremist.

4. As far as more minor differences such as differing denominations, this really depends upon whether the couple can agree upon what are important doctrines and which are not worth fighting over (metaphorically speakin.

5. If one parent is right about their religion and the other is wrong, does that not mean the children are at the least capable of hearing both sides? At the very least they are exposed to the truth despite any problems they might have growing up.

Do the literal translations really matter that much? Like in your case with Jesus being the savior or just a man? I always thought it was the ideas that really mattered, love thy neighbor, do not steal... etc. So for me, no it would not matter if I am Christain or Muslim and my spouse was something different because whatever path they choose, they will still learn the same basic ideas and moral guidelines

I think each should practice their own religion. ;)

Ummmmm, would it make it easier? Most definitely. But its up to the parents to decide how they want to bring the child up. I know a couple where the Jewish husband doesnt practice, so they raised catholic. Then again, I believe even more than this that the child should be the one to decide (as he/she get older) What they believe in, if anything at all.

If those parents are like my mother who is a lover and admirer of all religions, then I guess they can be both of different religions without problems.

I've known of some cases where mixed-religion couples make it work, but for the most part, I think things go much easier if there is a common belief system, especially if either of the parents is a devoted practitioner of the faith.

Do the literal translations really matter that much? Like in your case with Jesus being the savior or just a man? I always thought it was the ideas that really mattered, love thy neighbor, do not steal... etc. So for me, no it would not matter if I am Christain or Muslim and my spouse was something different because whatever path they choose, they will still learn the same basic ideas and moral guidelines

Bane_09

I'm a Christian, and I don't care what my spouse practices, unless it's something bogus like Scientology, Wicca, and Satanism :/

(inb4 somebody quotes me because of Wicca and Satanism. No, I am not against them because of Witchcraft or because of Satan (who isn't even a real guy :/). Wicca and Satanism's origins and stories are about as questionable as Scientology)

NiKva

[QUOTE="NiKva"]

I'm a Christian, and I don't care what my spouse practices, unless it's something bogus like Scientology, Wicca, and Satanism :/

(inb4 somebody quotes me because of Wicca and Satanism. No, I am not against them because of Witchcraft or because of Satan (who isn't even a real guy :/). Wicca and Satanism's origins and stories are about as questionable as Scientology)

Diophage

[QUOTE="Diophage"][QUOTE="NiKva"]

I'm a Christian, and I don't care what my spouse practices, unless it's something bogus like Scientology, Wicca, and Satanism :/

(inb4 somebody quotes me because of Wicca and Satanism. No, I am not against them because of Witchcraft or because of Satan (who isn't even a real guy :/). Wicca and Satanism's origins and stories are about as questionable as Scientology)

lightleggy

....and here we go.

And Satanism is like a religious version of atheism. Diophage

But if religion was so super important to them and their future children, I don't think they would marry someone with major conflicting beliefs that they would strongly disagree with.Diviniuz

then whats the point of this thread?Diviniuz

Whatever works for each specific family. It's their problem and they're the ones who got to figure it out.

Both parents sharing the same religious beliefs would certainly make things a hell of alot easier for rasising a child and just in general.

But no the parents don't HAVE to be the same religion and rasing the child could be managed, it'd just be more difficult.

[QUOTE="Diophage"] And Satanism is like a religious version of atheism. lancea34

[QUOTE="Diophage"][QUOTE="NiKva"]

I'm a Christian, and I don't care what my spouse practices, unless it's something bogus like Scientology, Wicca, and Satanism :/

(inb4 somebody quotes me because of Wicca and Satanism. No, I am not against them because of Witchcraft or because of Satan (who isn't even a real guy :/). Wicca and Satanism's origins and stories are about as questionable as Scientology)

lightleggy

Makes no difference.

I'd say, let the kid study both religions "Muslim and Christian as the example you applied" and after that, let him/her choose whatever he/she sees fit.

My dad was protestant and my mom was agnostic but niether of them tried to sway me when it came to religion. To be honest, having a couple with with different religious beliefs wouldn't be a problem if they both just kept their beliefs to themselves. When I have kids, I plan on letting them decide their own religious beliefs when they are old enough to think for thmesleves.