[QUOTE="MrGeezer"][QUOTE="_IronManDude_"]
I've had a lot of friends. A lot of people who pretended to like me, but were actually talking behind my back.
I've only ever had one real friend. And he moved away. And his mom won't let him on the computer, so I'll never talk to him again.
Friends aren't over-rated. Life is.
_IronManDude_
Funnily enough, that's how it usually works.
Everyone can love you wherever you go, but the VAST majority of the time, "friends" end up happening to merely be "acquaintances". Most people can count the number of true friends that they have on one hand. All the other people are just people who it is fun to hang out with. And there's nothing really WRONG about being surrounded by people like that, as long as you know that they aren't really your friends.
Anyway, if the dude is your friend, send him a letter. You know, like a REAL paper letter in the actual mail. Of course, that's assuming that you actually have his physical address. Which you might not have, since he moved.
But then again, he probably has YOUR physical address and/or telephone, right? Why doesn't he send YOU a letter in the mail? Why doesn't he call you on the phone, if only once or twice a year? You know, merely MOVING is sort of a small obstacle to friendship. That's sort of why mail service and telephones were invented.
Good point on the last paragraph. MAYBE HE'S NOT A REAL FRIEND! I'm going to abolish all friends!Seriously though, maybe he's not.
I don't know your situation, and maybe there's actually a very good reason why he can't send you a letter from time to time. But USUALLY, if someone is close enough to you to be a real friend, then you don't typically lose all ability to get in contact with them once they stop using their computer.
Even before the internet and social networking became commonplace, my parents had a few friends that they kept in contact with THEIR WHOLE LIVES. This was in the age of snail mail, and before cell phone service with unlimited long distance calls. That didn't STOP friendships. It just meant maybe getting to talk with that person once a year. They'd send snail mail through the post office. They'd make the very rare long distance call just to catch up on things. When they move, they'd call up and update the other person on their new address and phone number. And hell, once every five or ten years, they'd actually physically meet. They'd get on a plane, rent a motel, and go all the way across the country to see a friend that they haven't seen in twenty years.
It was a LOT more difficult for people to stay in contact in that day and age, but people still did it. Hell, even if it's only a single personal letter sent to that person at Christmas.
So yeah...I'm not trying to be mean. And I'm likely wrong, since I don't know your situation. But did you maybe consider that maybe he ISN'T a true friend? If "his parents won't let him use the computer" has eliminated him from your life, then isn't that sort of telling? I mean, people have had long distance "true" friends LONG before anyone ever had a personal computer. Friendship is not based upon the computer, and doesn't need to rely on the computer.
So...maybe you don't have ANY true friends. If so, that sort of sucks, but it';s not the end of the world. LOTS of people do not have ANY real friends. And for the people who DO have real friends, usually the number of true friends they have can be counted on one hand.
True friends are just very hard to come by. The VAST majority of people don't have more than a few, and a hell of a lot of people don't have ANY. That's okay. Don't sweat it, dude. That's just how things work. And in the digital age, it's that much easier to get surrounded by "friends" who don't mean crap.
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