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[QUOTE="MrGeezer"] I don't have any. I have a hell of a lot of "people that I enjoy hanging out with", but FRIENDS? Not one. In fact, the VAST majority of people can count on one hand the number of friends they have. If you're lucky, you can count on two hands the number of friends you have.
Dude, friends are stressful as hell. If I had 50 friends, I'd go absolutely insane.
And to anyone who says "well if they're that stressful, then get better friends", then you probably don't have any friends either. If you can toss them into the gutter that easily because they are inconvenient to you, then you can't really call them your friends.
MrGeezer
I think when it comes to friends I would rather have a few great ones than tons of mediocre ones that annoy me. Quality over quantity you know? I know some people who surround themselves with friends so often that they can't stand to be by themselves. They put on a different personaluty in front of friends and crowds, but then when everyone is gone they are totally different. That is understandable, many people change depending on the setting and who they are with, but its hard to really know someone who surrounds themselves with people.
I also find that after leaving high school a lot of my older friends seem more distanct and they have less of an interest in me. Againt though I understand that, they are figuring out their lives and it can be awkward for some people. Still though for some reason high school and school in general seems to be a barrier for friendships in a way. I had school friends but I never usually saw them outside school and when I did it was awkward.
Eh, in my mind, there's no such thing as "mediocre friends" or "good friends". There are "friends", and there are "not friends".
If I have to classify a certain friend as being more crappy than my other friends, then he's simply not my friend.
Likewise, "friend" is one of those words that gets thrown around so much that it has stopped meaning anything for a lot of people. Sort of like "love". Have you ever been around people who say stuff like "man, I love you" so casually that it is just disturbing? Same thing with "hero". Remember when you were in middle school and you had to listen to motivational speakers? Remember the trend early on in this decade when EVERYONE was a hero? You're a hero if you aren't a pedophile. You're a hero if you aren't in prison. You're a hero if you don't beat your wife and kids for recommending that you stop drinking so much. I'm sure you've experienced a phase when people threw the word "hero" around so goddamn much that it almost STOPPED MEANING ANYTHING.
Well, love is supposed to mean something. Being a hero is supposed to mean something. Being a friend is supposed to mean something. And probably most importantly, all of those words imply a sort of duty or sense that you owe something to that person. It's like, you may freaking hate a friend, and he may be annoying as hell. Whatever. I may hate my mom and think that she may be annoying as hell, but I'll try to take care of her to the best of my ability because she's my ****ing MOM.
And it's sort of the same thing with friends. At least, that's the way I see it. Maybe not to the same extent as with my mom. But if I ever throw away a friend because he was annoying, then I never considered him a friend to begin with. If I ever leave a friend in the gutter because I really dislike him, then I never considered him a friend to begin with.
I don't know, man. Some words are just words that I have a problem with when they are used so casually. I can't honestly say that I have ANY friends, and that's not even necesarily a bad thing. But I just like to think that I can recognize the difference.
I understand what you mean, I have been thinking about what the people I knew in high school really meant to me and whether they really were friends or not. Friendship can be a bit odd at times, i know a girl who has 3 ex boyfriends she invites over for parties at the same time and she casually flirts with all of them. She says they are still her friends, but then she starts saying I love them. im glad you said that about the word love though, it is so casually used especially by people who dont really understand it. Well how can you understand love, but what I mean is ignortant teenage girls who say they love a guy they are dating after a week then dump him and try and kill themselves. This may be a bit too much analyzing on my part, but I think Twilight has a very negative influence on some girls. i never usually say something like that, but ever since that series came out it has warped some of the girls I knew.
In the second book bella tries to kill herself to her edward back, and overall bella is a useless character who throws away her life to be with a boy who is a borderline stalker. There is a girl I know who takes influence from that in weird ways, sometimes very disturbing ways. She has started obsessing over a guy I know and has tried a few times to kill herself to get his attention. Maybe that is just an isolated incident, but I do think that love is a very overused term. One of the few people I feel really gets it to me at least songwriter wise is Nick Cave. His music may be hit and miss at times, but listen to the album Let Love In. That is one of the most brutal, depressing and honest albums about love I have ever heard. He seems to understand how life and love is a series of ups and downs and all that. Sorry about that random nick cave thing there, but I feel that people overuse love to the point where it becomes redundant and you dont know whather they really mean it or not. I try to remain neutral at all times when it comes to people I know personally, I dont judge them or hate them. I may not agree with their choices, but I wont throw away their friendship because I disagree with them. You are right about heroe's too, just look at who kids are told to look up to these days, mostly people who do desperate things to get attention. There are a few of course who dont do that, but hero has almost lost its importance as a meaningful word. Ok I am probably going wildly off topic by now so my rant is over for now:P
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