Do you have to be sexually attracted to someone to to be in LOVE with them?

It's something I don't understand about some people. I feel that "love" itself is something spiritual, if you will, or something relating to virtues and qualities of a person. I'm talking about the attraction of love. What does a nature attraction have to do with this? Sexual attraction is something that just comes when we see someone beautiful, but I think that love is something you can't see with your eyes, but with your emotions. It's also something that I don't understand about the strife and beliefs of some homosexuals, as they feel as if they have to be with a man... That would fulfil their sexual desires, yes, but their communication spiritually and emotionally, in my opinion, is something completely different, and can be done with either man or woman. When we pass away we don't take our physical feelings with us, but this "love" that I am speaking of is something genuine and different. This is just my opinion, and I don't know if I'm completely right or not. I want to hear all of your opinions regarding this. :)

No. Love has nothing to do with sex; the existence of prostitutes is proof enough of this.

I dont remember screwing with a snicker bar, so no.Splinter720

Honestly, to fall in love with someone I would have to be at least a little bit attracted to them. And why can't homosexuals be in love with someone of the same gender?

[QUOTE="Splinter720"]I dont remember screwing with a snicker bar, so no.amirbrandon

I think to be truly in love with someone - you need to have all the necessary attractions and compatibility there. I think one can love someone and not be sexually attracted to them, and I know one can be sexually attracted to someone without the love. But to be IN LOVE - I think it is important to be sexually attracted to them as well.Sajedene

Well said. I liked that you used attractions as a plural because there are many things that'd cause one to be in love. Sexual attraction is one of those.

Honestly, to fall in love with someone I would have to be at least a little bit attracted to them. And why can't homosexuals be in love with someone of the same gender?

gamertylers

No. Physical Attraction is one thing but sexual attraction is another thing. People don't get married to physically handicapped people expecting to get some.

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]I think to be truly in love with someone - you need to have all the necessary attractions and compatibility there. I think one can love someone and not be sexually attracted to them, and I know one can be sexually attracted to someone without the love. But to be IN LOVE - I think it is important to be sexually attracted to them as well.dracula_16

Well said. I liked that you used attractions as a plural because there many things that'd cause one to be in love. Sexual attraction is one of those.

I love my family, i'm not sexually attracted to any of them.

I'd say you'd need both to be "in love" with someone. Physical attraction makes you go towards someone. Emotional attraction makes you stay with that person. or at least, it's supposed to. I don't quite understand why you think a gay couple can't communicate spiritually or emotionally.cd_rom

I think to be truly in love with someone - you need to have all the necessary attractions and compatibility there. I think one can love someone and not be sexually attracted to them, and I know one can be sexually attracted to someone without the love. But to be IN LOVE - I think it is important to be sexually attracted to them as well.Sajedene

Well if I love her, I'd most certainly be physically attracted to her, doesn't take much to work out a stiffy ya know? Especially in your early 20's, I mean it's kinda like male dogs, the literally try to screw everything and anything.

If you are in love with somebody I think sexual attraction goes right along with it. Sure there are other things that go with it but if you don't have sexual attraction to the person you are in love with then there is something seriously wrong.

You don't HAVE to be, no, though it's certainly a factor in really loving someone, and for many people, such as I, it is a major factor.

Being sexually attracted/attractive does provide a boost

Personally I go with a check list

Does that person have a good personality?

Would we ever get to the point if we did tie the knot would we ever split afterwards (a lot of my family gets divorced for some reason and I never want that to happen to me)

Would I actually want to sleep with that person

If I check off all those then yeah I'm attracted to someone.

No. Love has nothing to do with sex; the existence of prostitutes is proof enough of this.

Theokhoth

No.I've been in live with someone,and I didn't even think about them sexually at all.

Yes, to at least some degree.

I think to be truly in love with someone - you need to have all the necessary attractions and compatibility there. I think one can love someone and not be sexually attracted to them, and I know one can be sexually attracted to someone without the love. But to be IN LOVE - I think it is important to be sexually attracted to them as well.Sajedene

I agree.

To be IN LOVE with another person, you need to like everything about them, including sexual attraction.

It's something I don't understand about some people. I feel that "love" itself is something spiritual, if you will, or something relating to virtues and qualities of a person. I'm talking about the attraction of love. What does a nature attraction have to do with this? Sexual attraction is something that just comes when we see someone beautiful, but I think that love is something you can't see with your eyes, but with your emotions. It's also something that I don't understand about the strife and beliefs of some homosexuals, as they feel as if they have to be with a man... That would fulfil their sexual desires, yes, but their communication spiritually and emotionally, in my opinion, is something completely different, and can be done with either man or woman. When we pass away we don't take our physical feelings with us, but this "love" that I am speaking of is something genuine and different. This is just my opinion, and I don't know if I'm completely right or not. I want to hear all of your opinions regarding this. :)

amirbrandon

I agree, it is most definantly spiritual, but when your in love with someone sex with them is totally differnt and in itself is spiritual, Im married, and yes me and my wife sex b4 we were married, but i couldnt imagine the reward it would be to wait tell you were married. And with Love all things are nothin, check the sig ;)

Attraction is part of it.

depends on who you are, for some it can not be any other way, for people like me... Yes.

It is very easy for me to love another person, but sinse I generally feel no sexual attraction (due to a defect) I never crave physical sex with them, I do however need alot of hugs and kissis.

It also depends on what kind of love it is you specify.

Sex and love are one in the same, and are separate at the same time. The dichotomy within love is quite unique. Sexual attraction can exist with and without love. A sexual desire motivated by physical attraction and lustfulness can exist without love. A sexual desire motivated by an emotional attraction and desire to give pleasure cannot exist without love.

I personally see sex as a part of love. I could never have sex with, nor even be sexually attracted to someone which I was not emotionally attracted to as well. This also goes beyond a simple infatuation, I must have a deeper connection with them on an emotional level. I must know and understand their heart and mind and be in love with them as a whole person.

I don't see any of this "spiritual" stuff within love, just a deep and profound emotional connection driven by the selfless desire to sacrifice everything about oneself for the betterment and pleasure of another.