Does my girlfrind not love me anymore.....

Well I never thought I would see the day that I make a girl help thread....a sad day indeed. This is definetly not the usual "girl" thread because the girl I am questioning has been going out with me for close toa 1.5 years.

So as of September 4th we have been going to the same college and it was going great at the beginning. We hung out more often than not with my roommatesoften as well(one of which is my good friend from home and the other a 'random'). Well it seems to me in the past week she has been pretty moody (i know for fact it is not 'that time of the month') and has actually been talking to my 'random' roomate a lot. The 3 of us went out to linch today and she seemed to secretly only want to talk to him and would smile at him when she did. On the other side me, her and my roomate from home went out for dinner and she hardly said a word.

We were hanging out in my dorm tonight with my friend roomate and at one point he wanted a cig so the twon of them went out to bum one and they did. My friend roomate came back but she did not. She decided on her way in to go to the dorm common room where coincedently my 'random' roomate was. I texted her a while later. I asked "are you still in the common room? we were out for a while'" after coming back from a walk that we invited her to join. she replies "yes i am". Response: oh wow....you can come abck up if you wanna..". Her" "im fine". Response: "ok..have fun". Her"I am a lot actually". Response: "ok..".

She then later came back to my room with my random roomate and proceeded to make one of my last two popcorns. I accomodated her and was as kind as ever. When she left I went for a kiss, she averted it for a hug. I then went in for a kiss right after and she gave me the cheek.... that really scared me.

I'm real sorry for the rant but I had nowhere else to go to. If anyone has some real advice it would be much appreciated.

Sever all ties. It's the only way.scorch-62

She already cheated on you and if she hasn't, she is going to very soon. I recomend ditching her in a really really humiliating way o.o

I never really take internet personal talks seriously but assuming this is true I feel for you. I would first just not play any games and just confront her about it up front and tell her how you feel and talk about noticing how she's behaving and kind of hint that you know she's cheating so she feels guilty and is more likely to confess (if she is) if she just comes out and says it that she is or just says she wants something new just act cool and be like "alright, but that's it i'm done with you. you're not allowed in my room and I don't want to see you at all anymore" etc.

Or she can be planning on proposing, she is talking to the other roommates as she believes he won't tell you. The fact she is moody and is not so touchy is the fact she is nervous and not to mention breaking social conventions by asking you to marry her.

I don't think that the relationship will end well, I'm sorry :(

You can always talk to her still though.

thats how my gf was after she had our son...she avoided intimacy like that and treated me more like a friend...she finally told me she didnt see no ryme or reason in our relationship and gave my son her last name...now I barely see either of them :(

Iv'e delt with many backstabbers back in the day. This the plan....... seriously you need to do this.

Tomorrow morning tell her that you have been thinking about you and her lately and you see it going nowhere and that you need to have time apart from a relationship. Give no explinations on why, just tell her that, and walk away. Have any of your just friend girl friends come over and hang out. Or have your roomate friend's just friend girl friends come and hang out. Sorry to be shallow but they must be good looking to have a effect. Take the new girls out often. Maybe to the bars, movies, dinner, or just do activities with them. Make sure that she knows that you and your best friend are having a great time with other girls. Your "ex" will be super pissed but don't let that get to you. She will be so jealous that her head will explode.

Point here is that you need to piss on her before she pisses on you. It's a game, and you need to win. If you keep on going down this same road of her crapping on you, she will end up dumping you and going with her new fling. You need to have a new fling before she does in order to win my friend.

Iv'e delt with many backstabbers back in the day. This the plan....... seriously you need to do this.

Tomorrow morning tell her that you have been thinking about you and her lately and you see it going nowhere and that you need to have time apart from a relationship. Give no explinations on why, just tell her that, and walk away. Have any of your just friend girl friends come over and hang out. Or have your roomate friend's just friend girl friends come and hang out. Sorry to be shallow but they must be good looking to have a effect. Take the new girls out often. Maybe to the bars, movies, dinner, or just do activities with them. Make sure that she knows that you and your best friend are having a great time with other girls. Your "ex" will be super pissed but don't let that get to you. She will be so jealous that her head will explode.

Point here is that you need to piss on her before she pisses on you. It's a game, and you need to win. If you keep on going down this same road of her crapping on you, she will end up dumping you and going with her new fling. You need to have a new fling before she does in order to win my friend.

ristactionjakso

I like the way this guy thinks. Seriously. I do.

It does not appear she loved you in the first place. Move on. Or dwell on it, and drown in your emotions. Your choice.

[QUOTE="ristactionjakso"]

Iv'e delt with many backstabbers back in the day. This the plan....... seriously you need to do this.

Tomorrow morning tell her that you have been thinking about you and her lately and you see it going nowhere and that you need to have time apart from a relationship. Give no explinations on why, just tell her that, and walk away. Have any of your just friend girl friends come over and hang out. Or have your roomate friend's just friend girl friends come and hang out. Sorry to be shallow but they must be good looking to have a effect. Take the new girls out often. Maybe to the bars, movies, dinner, or just do activities with them. Make sure that she knows that you and your best friend are having a great time with other girls. Your "ex" will be super pissed but don't let that get to you. She will be so jealous that her head will explode.

Point here is that you need to piss on her before she pisses on you. It's a game, and you need to win. If you keep on going down this same road of her crapping on you, she will end up dumping you and going with her new fling. You need to have a new fling before she does in order to win my friend.

th3warr1or

I like the way this guy thinks. Seriously. I do.

i'm sorry but it sounds to me like you should do something that's probably going to be very uncomfortable. you should talk to her about it. ask her why she's been acting differently lately and tell her to be honest, no bulls***ting around. when you're alone with the roommate she seems interested in, ask him, be like "hey man, if *your gf* was ever doing anything behind my back and you knew about it, you'd tell me right?" and that way you aren't accusing him just in case, but if he's truly your friend and there was anything going on, he would tell you, if he lies to your face then he's a scumbag.

good luck, sounds like it sucks to be thinking about all this :/

Or she can be planning on proposing, she is talking to the other roommates as she believes he won't tell you. The fact she is moody and is not so touchy is the fact she is nervous and not to mention breaking social conventions by asking you to marry her.

Communist_Soul

[QUOTE="Communist_Soul"]

Or she can be planning on proposing, she is talking to the other roommates as she believes he won't tell you. The fact she is moody and is not so touchy is the fact she is nervous and not to mention breaking social conventions by asking you to marry her.

Chojuto

ive experienced this with a person who claimed to be a close friend outcome was lost him girl and all but 1 my best friend. thing is ditch her and the random in the long run it will help just let it go and move on you will feel better i promise

thats how my gf was after she had our son...she avoided intimacy like that and treated me more like a friend...she finally told me she didnt see no ryme or reason in our relationship and gave my son her last name...now I barely see either of them :(

OfficerLeach_

[QUOTE="th3warr1or"]

[QUOTE="ristactionjakso"]

Iv'e delt with many backstabbers back in the day. This the plan....... seriously you need to do this.

Tomorrow morning tell her that you have been thinking about you and her lately and you see it going nowhere and that you need to have time apart from a relationship. Give no explinations on why, just tell her that, and walk away. Have any of your just friend girl friends come over and hang out. Or have your roomate friend's just friend girl friends come and hang out. Sorry to be shallow but they must be good looking to have a effect. Take the new girls out often. Maybe to the bars, movies, dinner, or just do activities with them. Make sure that she knows that you and your best friend are having a great time with other girls. Your "ex" will be super pissed but don't let that get to you. She will be so jealous that her head will explode.

Point here is that you need to piss on her before she pisses on you. It's a game, and you need to win. If you keep on going down this same road of her crapping on you, she will end up dumping you and going with her new fling. You need to have a new fling before she does in order to win my friend.

ristactionjakso

I like the way this guy thinks. Seriously. I do.

My good man,you are a genius.

[QUOTE="OfficerLeach_"]

thats how my gf was after she had our son...she avoided intimacy like that and treated me more like a friend...she finally told me she didnt see no ryme or reason in our relationship and gave my son her last name...now I barely see either of them :(

XilePrincess

were not involving courts and shes not keeping him from me but we live 45 min apart and both our cars our messed up...but I didnt even see it coming..it was the first girl i didnt cheat on or treat bad and also the first time i got dumped

I think you guys should have the talk, I would be wary of the roommate aswell.

I don't think that the relationship will end well, I'm sorry :(

You can always talk to her still though.

Suzy_Q_Kazoo

Pretty much this, TC.
I'm sorry but this doesn't look good at all...

from what you describe i suggest pulling the ejection seat.

She already cheated on you and if she hasn't, she is going to very soon. I recomend ditching her in a really really humiliating way o.o

GiveMeSomething

[QUOTE="Chojuto"][QUOTE="Communist_Soul"]

Or she can be planning on proposing, she is talking to the other roommates as she believes he won't tell you. The fact she is moody and is not so touchy is the fact she is nervous and not to mention breaking social conventions by asking you to marry her.

magicalclick

I don't think so. While this is a better senario, but, I don't think so.

Let her go. Tell her you noticed she is unhappy. And if she wants to breakup, you are fine with it. It is very possible she wanted to breakup, but, doesn't have the gut to say it. She was still hoping for things to get better, but, it hasn't happen yet.

No, she's in love with me now. :D No really, I have no idea what's going on. Maybe she's just having s***ty day. She's probably upset with you over something trivial you did a month ago, and that no reasonable person would ever imagine would make someone mad.

No, she's in love with me now. :D No really, I have no idea what's going on. Maybe she's just having s***ty day. She's probably upset with you over something trivial you did a month ago, and that no reasonable person would ever imagine would make someone mad.

Palantas

[QUOTE="SaudiFury"][QUOTE="Palantas"]

No, she's in love with me now. :D No really, I have no idea what's going on. Maybe she's just having s***ty day. She's probably upset with you over something trivial you did a month ago, and that no reasonable person would ever imagine would make someone mad.

magicalclick

that's already too late. this is rooted deep. When I started to resent my partner, everything he said pissed me off. Eventually we broke up. There is nothing he can really do actually, because to fix it, he would be a different person. It is not looking for something to fight, but, whatever you do, it triggered an unpleasant memory, something you did wrong or something she find offending in the past. And such thing probably is part of your personality, which cannot be fixed. Even if she explained that one particular case, it is only a tip of the iceberg.The very reason she is unhappy is because you don't know why she is unhappy. And it is a lot to do with your values in life, something you find normal or natural when she views it completely differently.

That's pretty much the end when two people are incompatible.

just very tired of being made out to be the bad guy.

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magicalclick

I guess I am kinda weak. If you want to look tough, "If you wanna break up, I'm fine with it.. (aka, you are already useless for me)".

[QUOTE="Chojuto"][QUOTE="Communist_Soul"]

Or she can be planning on proposing, she is talking to the other roommates as she believes he won't tell you. The fact she is moody and is not so touchy is the fact she is nervous and not to mention breaking social conventions by asking you to marry her.

ristactionjakso

My parents were only together for 8 months before they decided to get married . . .

Of course she still loves you, its just that she loves other people also.

We pretty much reconciled last night and I think it will be ok but only time will tell.

Freshman relationships never work. Mark my words. Any high school fling you had, ends before Halloween or Thanksgiving.3eyedrazorback

It must be a terrible feeling. I feel for you TC. Bring it up with her, but don't be confrontational. Ask her whats been up.

It's over. Dump her and sleep with her best girl friend. I'm dead serious.

We pretty much reconciled last night and I think it will be ok but only time will tell.

Dawq902

Care to share what was going on?

When you're in the common room together you should be like, "baby, they should rename this the uncommon room, because you and me ain't workin out". lonewolf604

It's over. Dump her and sleep with her best girl friend. I'm dead serious.

LieutenantFeist

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It's over. Dump her and sleep with her best girl friend. I'm dead serious.

ristactionjakso