Does your NAME reflect your PERSONALITY? - Indepth debate.

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#1 GenTom
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Okay. I'm having a conversation with a friend about certain english language techniques and the relevance of sound/facial expression to words. Hope this isn't agains the TOS or anything and i've edited out any rude words. But this is taken from our conversation (she said it was okay for me to post it). It is long, and quite in-depth, but if your interested have a read through on comment on who you think is right.

I (topic creator) am Saltydog, Millie is a friend who i'm disagree with:

Saltydog says (17:09):

lol there is SUCH a blond girl in my english group.. she constantly asks what words mean, believes EVERYTHING she hears, thinks 9/11 and the moon landing were hoaxes... god i used to fancy her lol but she is SOO blonde

Millie - says (17:09):

haha what sher name??

Saltydog says (17:09):

olivia

Millie - says (17:09):

sounds stupid

Saltydog says (17:09):

lol what the hell question was that?

Saltydog says (17:09):

lol

Saltydog says (17:09):

if i had said...

Saltydog says (17:09):

millie?

Millie - says (17:09):

sounds s**gtastic

Millie - says (17:09):

haha

Saltydog says (17:09):

or... elizabeth

Millie - says (17:10):

no i actually believe that your name reflects on your personality

Saltydog says (17:10):

you've been talkin to holly

Saltydog says (17:10):

rubbish

Millie - says (17:10):

people i know who share the same name seem to have the same personality characteristics

Millie - says (17:10):

all the people who i know called pete, minus your bro as i don't really know him are all quite intelligent.. but they do quite odd and obscure things

Saltydog says (17:11):

how does your parents choosing your name reflect how you are? granted council house common parents are more likely to call their children wayne or tracy which will grow up to be chavs but i don't agree with you

Millie - says (17:11):

no

Millie - says (17:11):

you grow around your name

Saltydog says (17:11):

nope

Millie - says (17:11):

its all to do with linguistics

Saltydog says (17:11):

balderdash

Millie - says (17:11):

you are so ignorant and narrow minded

Saltydog says (17:12):

*cough* you said spacetravels pointless and a waste of money.... how the hell could your parents decision to name you something... directly influence your mind and how you perceive yourself... my dad wanted to call me john... my mum insisted tom

Millie - says (17:12):

no it doesn't penetrate your mind...

Millie - says (17:12):

it changes you ever so slightly... like i said its to do with linguistics

Millie - says (17:12):

the shape and sound of words....

Saltydog says (17:13):

names are stereotyped, waynes more likely to be a chav than hubert... but doesn't mean you grow up around it

Millie - says (17:13):

no its to do with characteristics....

Saltydog says (17:13):

the actual pronunciation of the names!?

Millie - says (17:13):

yes the sounds of them....... do you want me to give you a quick lingusitcs lesson?

Millie - says (17:14):

think about it . when you say something like " i love you" or "beautiful" which are both postive words you face makes a nice shape

Millie - says (17:14):

however when you say words like " ****" or " ****" your face all screws up......

Millie - says (17:14):

people respond differently to different sounds.

Millie - says (17:14):

mainly because of facial expressions like these and the faces which are pulled when they are said

Saltydog says (17:14):

well obviously... words adapt and are used in specific circumstances, a swear word is likely to follow someone who's angry.... ???????

Millie - says (17:14):

exactly...... but its across the board in all lingo's this happens....

Millie - says (17:15):

it just shows that words are chosen for their effect on the speaker.

Saltydog says (17:15):

i think your wrong

Millie - says (17:15):

and of course the recipient

Millie - says (17:15):

fine

Saltydog says (17:15):

words are chosen, and the facial expression is caused by the word

Millie - says (17:15):

but if you understand languages like i do for example you wouldn't be so quick to shrug it off

Saltydog says (17:15):

not the other way around

Saltydog says (17:15):

i do understand languages and please don't be so patronising

Saltydog says (17:15):

and i'm not shrugging it off, i'm disagreeing with you

Millie - says (17:16):

fine

Millie - says (17:16):

but words are chosen for their effect.

Saltydog says (17:16):

i believe it's the other way around

Saltydog says (17:16):

and i'm confident it is

Millie - says (17:16):

what makes you say that??

Saltydog says (17:16):

okay hear me out.... lets take the word ****

Millie - says (17:16):

ok

Millie - says (17:16):

btw when i mean words i mean sounds but please carry on

Saltydog says (17:18):

modern language development has evolved it to become a taboo word and associated with***(fecal matter)doesn't mean poo but it's a synonym of it. Because of this,*** (fecal matter)can be directed as an insult, and therefore **** someone who is angry already will demonstrate their anger by using similarly angry words, such as ****, relating to *** (fecal matter)... the fact that it's phonology is schi- or schi-tt.. or whatever, has

Saltydog says (17:18):

has no relevance to it be used, just the fact that it's synonymous with *** (fecal matter), which is a taboo word and used to insult

Millie - says (17:18):

ok then

Millie - says (17:18):

explain positive words like beautiful for example.... that isn't a taboo for anything

Saltydog says (17:19):

no, but people use beautiful to compliment people, usually people they love to say how good they look, your not gonna frown when you say that, your gonna smile cos your complimenting them.. the fact beautiful means good looking is irrelevant, if **** meant good looking, people would say, you look ****, with big smiles

Saltydog says (17:20):

but society evolves words to have specific connotations, and the sound of a word is irrelevant, in my opinion

Millie - says (17:20):

watch you face when you say beautiful, it makes your face look more appealing......

Millie - says (17:21):

the fact is that this doesnt just happen in english, take any langauge and positive and engative words , if you say them (correctly) you will find that positive words always make your face more round and the sounds are more round. where as with negative words they make you bear your teath and slightly squint.... and they sound alot harder

Millie - says (17:21):

its all to do with lingusitics

Saltydog says (17:22):

well i don't think the facial expression or sound caused by a word has any relevance to it's meaning or positive/negativity. and please don't make me sound stupid by saying 'it's all to do with linguistics', i know my fair share thank you and i have a right to disagree with you

Millie - says (17:23):

well you completely disregarding facial expression is very stupid . it isnt a coincidence that this works in every langauge !!!!

Millie - says (17:23):

i had to write a bloody essay on this fgs!!

Saltydog says (17:24):

i take a bloody a level in this subject,and fgs to you too, i'm not completely disregarding facial expression, facial expression adapts to your mood, and is irrelevant to the specific words you say

Millie - says (17:24):

theres no giving in is there??

Saltydog says (17:24):

nope

Saltydog says (17:25):

you?

Millie - says (17:25):

well i might as weel give up. you arent listening to me. and you are a bloke and it is the most important thing to beat women in this sort of thing... yea you may be taking an a level in it, but ive been given so many lectures about this. and it works across the board in languages.

Millie - says (17:25):

when you work with them you notice these things

Saltydog says (17:26):

wait wait.. your saying that because i have my own opinion, and disagree with you and that you've failed to convince me, i'm not listening.. and because i'm a bloke

Millie - says (17:27):

no, you are completely entitled to your own opinion but i just feel you arent listening because you havent really considered what i am saying. wrds and sounds dont just come up randomly. there are family of sounds and words, and if you havent realised that yet then you are a bit silly

Saltydog says (17:27):

no... i'm not silly, and i know they have relevance

Saltydog says (17:28):

but not to the meaning of a word

Millie - says (17:28):

so you are saying that its pure coincidence that words which have positive meanings have positive sounds and make your face look more appealing... and vise versa?

Saltydog says (17:28):

define a positive sound?

Millie - says (17:29):

love, beautiful..... those sort of round sounds

Saltydog says (17:29):

you can say **** while smiling, you can say beautiful while frowning...

Millie - says (17:29):

yes but when you are naturally saying it without thinking

Saltydog says (17:29):

they are synomous with NICE things... good things, just because they are associated with this, doesn't make the words themselves and their prounounciation releant

Saltydog says (17:29):

synonymous*

Saltydog says (17:30):

well i don't think we're gonna get anywhere with this

Millie - says (17:30):

fine

And that was the arugment, i'm not posting this so i can say... well the people at gamespot agreed with me so there! i'm genuinly interested in who was right about this as i am confident i was, but she was also... so i do hope this isn't gonna get locked, i see no reason for it to because i value any feedback in response to this debate. Her name is a nickname, as is mine, she consented to me posting this and it's a legitimate argument and i'm 99% i filtered the swears.

Thanks!

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#2 karin_dreijer
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no i dont think that your name is your personality because your name is given before you are born, and i don't think you grow into your name because when you are a small child you don't know what an average Karin is supposed to be like, and i know some other girls called Karin and they arenot the same personality as me
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#3 GenTom
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any other thoughts?
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#4 seals44
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Do you honestly think people are going to read all that?
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#5 shaunmc
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Yeah, man. We need the Cliff's Notes version!
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#6 dhyce
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Not really... otherwise everybody with the same name would act relatively the same way. And that is just not the case.
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#7 deepdreamer256
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No, my name doesn't have anything to do with personality.
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#8 Brmarlin
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No - my name is Alex or Brmarlin. Does not reflect my personality in either way - the name Alex is a common one, and the name Brmarlin just reveals one or two things I like.
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No..but it could influence the way people react to you.
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#10 Luminouslight
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Yeah, man. We need the Cliff's Notes version!shaunmc

I couldn't agree anymore.

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#11 comp_atkins
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nah.. because i know ppl with the same names who's personalities are totaly different.

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#12 deepdreamer256
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No..but it could influence the way people react to you.LJS9502_basic
The minority of people who judge people on their names can get stuffed.
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[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]No..but it could influence the way people react to you.deepdreamer256
The minority of people who judge people on their names can get stuffed.

Minority? Give your child an unusual or odd name and see how they fair.

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[QUOTE="deepdreamer256"][QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]No..but it could influence the way people react to you.LJS9502_basic

The minority of people who judge people on their names can get stuffed.

Minority? Give your child an unusual or odd name and see how they fair.

Im naming my kid Minority...

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#16 Samwel_X
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Not really... otherwise everybody with the same name would act relatively the same way. And that is just not the case.dhyce

Yup. This is the perfect point. I agree 100%

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#17 LJS9502_basic  Online
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Well that boils down to the teachers at your child's school, they should be the ones giving the children morality.deepdreamer256

That is wrong.....parents should.

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#19 deepdreamer256
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[QUOTE="deepdreamer256"][QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]No..but it could influence the way people react to you.LJS9502_basic

The minority of people who judge people on their names can get stuffed.

Minority? Give your child an unusual or odd name and see how they fair.

Umm and? That doesn't make a difference. Even if 45% of people judge others by their names they can still get stuffed.
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#20 deepdreamer256
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[QUOTE="deepdreamer256"]Well that boils down to the teachers at your child's school, they should be the ones giving the children morality.LJS9502_basic

That is wrong.....parents should.

You're right . . .
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#21 ciaxhieu
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actually my name has a deeper meaning to it than just for individual identification
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#22 skinnypete91
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I dont think you grow around your name.

For example, I know two people called Ben. One is a confident, funny, animated and generally outgoing person. The other is the complete opposite : I barely ever hear him speak, he only seems to have one facial expression and is just really boring.

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#23 TheMutableOne
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My english teacher's name is Gretchen Snodgrass.. shes obese and grumpy... whether her name has contributed to that or not I have no idea but I can say that name isn't particularly appealing to me.. more like appalling.