Feeling like you don't belong anywhere....?

I have that feeling. I was completely isolated my first two years, and now it just feels like I am a complete outsider. I am 21 with no girlfriend, not much of a social life, and not many talents. I try to integrate myself into several clubs at college, but only one has really "stuck." What do I do?

Replace 21 by 20 , cross out "I integrate myself into clubs at college" , and you'll be speaking my words.

I mostly play inside my own little world. Never really think about what others are thinking of me these days. It used give me anxiety just watching out how other people behave in different environments. I do somewhat analyze but I like to focus on other things more, like things that are important for tomorrow.

The best advice I can give you is to work on yourself. The rest will fall into place.

Dude, it could be so much worse, seriously. Just be glad you have your health. Stop worrying about these small little things, and just try to enjoy living life. We are just self aware animals, and you're getting caught up on small things. Want a girlfriend? Go get one, nobody is stopping you. There are 6 billion people in the world. Get rejected? Who cares, move on to the next one.

I'm almost the same as you TC except, I have been told I have musical talent since I can learn songs by ear and have a social like eliminating being an outsider. HOWEVER, try being the guy who's 2 best friends are in shape, good looking, and successful while you are fat, unemployed, always see friends getting hit on or getting girls phone numbers, and want to cry in a corner each and every time it happens. Yeah, that's me right there.

This thread is full of Satan worhsippers.

Never had that feeling.

Word.

I am pretty much like you op,only worse.At first it bothered me but now i just don't care anymore.

You're young yet. I really didn't know who I was and where I belonged until my late 20's (I'm 35 now). Best advice I can give you is to try and focus on the good things and not the bad. It's too easy to fall into the "why me?" mindset. Negativity is like a disease and if you don't combat it early, it can grow into something much worse.

Hang in there.

This man, right here, is my hero !

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start talking to people. sometimes the hardest things to do in life have the simplest answers to get them done. go up to people say hi, ask them about themselves, tell them about you, ask them what they like to do, ask them if they wanna hang out, just get to know them etc do this with everyone you meet.

Let's see. There was a time when I was 21 years old. I recall being a natural lone wolf and liked being on my own. But, I also excelled in academics and sports. I had a good demeanor which tended to draw people closer. I made many lifelong friends even though I didn't really look for them in the beginning. They make up the bulk of my FB friends. We simply use FB as a glorified e-mail.

Women? That's always been a mixed bag although I did win in the end. I won't say much in case the wife is watching this. He He.

I'm the same as you except for the college club shit.

Exactly. Invest in yourself and stop caring what other people may think about you.

Just try to get out and talk to people and be more social. Also alcohol in the right amount helps loosen you up.

Can't speak your mind, even on the the internet? If that's winning I don''t want any part of it.

doesn't matter, had sex.

One thing I've learned all these years is that women are notoriously unpredictable. I'm riding a high wave now. No need to rock the boat.

Embrace living single, have fun knowing all of your income is going to you, and you alone. I have seen way too many friends and coworkers have their lives destroyed because of some bitch. Meanwhile I'm taking trips every other month, own plenty of toys to keep me busy on weekends, and save over half my pay checks. There is a reason society wants us married with kids, because they don't want single guys having fun while everyone else is miserable.

@joehult: l LOLed but just wish I could agree.

dont wowwy ill be ur fwend

Nice, I try to tell people it always gets better if you do not give up

Grind it out. Sooner or later you're gonna find a group of people you feel comfortable being around. To increase your chances of that happening, you got to analyze yourself. Find out what you excel at, what your interests are, and what adjustments can you make to yourself without conflicting with your interests. Then, seek out groups or gatherings that revolve around your interest. If gaming is something you do, look for tournaments to join in. If you're into books, libraries usually have groups. Simply getting into groups or participating in gatherings that corresponds with your interests and hobbies should be enough to make your life much more enjoyable while potentially earning you good friends that you can have a good time with...