Generally, after how many dates do you ask a girl to be your girlfriend?

One, I knew my girlfriend for a while before I starting going out with her.

Well you could be like a highschooler and do that whole "Will you be my girlfriend????" speil, but personally I find that ridiculous. It makes things awkward, as if things are all of a sudden different when in reality things are exactly as they were before you asked and became 'official'. What I would do instead is continue going on dates and eventually become exclusive..this is usually done when the two of you talk amongst each other that you feel you two should be the only people you're seeing and you're no longer going on dates with other girls/guys and that it's becoming a some what serious relationship.

i havent gotten to ask, because i've always known after a few dates with the girls i've been with that it wasnt going to work out.

None, I've actually never been on a *date*, she'd normally hang out at my house or we'd hang out in school and it would just happen. Then again I've only had two GFS in my life.

The thing is, I've been friends with this chick for like 7years.. I suddenly decided that she's the one I'm gonna marry(even though I'm probably not, if it doesn't work out) and I want to ask her to be my girlfriend after we're "close" enough... It's like a mountain; we started off as normal friends, then became really close, but I we were still early teens then and I was just "okay", and now when we're kinda going down again I suddenly fell for her.. =/ th3warr1or

Going off of that dude, you definitely don't want to do the 'be my girlfriend' approach. Being friends for that long is already a delicate situation, esspeically for a girl..they're the ones who really take that "I DON'T WANT TO RUIN OUR FRIENDSHIP" thing seriously...and by adding the stress of popping a question like that could very easily blow it for you. I say go out and slowly work into it. The key is to make sure she knows they're dates, and by the end of the third one you should be kissing. DO NOT take that as a sign of being boyfriend/girlfriend/exclusive however. You two must talk that out later down the road, whenever that may be.

The thing is, I've been friends with this chick for like 7years.. I suddenly decided that she's the one I'm gonna marry(even though I'm probably not, if it doesn't work out) and I want to ask her to be my girlfriend after we're "close" enough... It's like a mountain; we started off as normal friends, then became really close, but I we were still early teens then and I was just "okay", and now when we're kinda going down again I suddenly fell for her.. =/ th3warr1or

Take things slow, as posted above, eventually the two of you will discuss exclusivity. It's easy to fall for a girl that you like, that would be classified as enfatuation though, as the two of you haven't semingly shared all that many romantic experiences with one another. Give it time, going from friends to a couple is a double edged sword, you have to reevaluate how the two of you feel around one another. Most importantly, don't overthink the process or try to force it, relationhips are born out of confidence, trust, and natural flow.

[QUOTE="th3warr1or"]The thing is, I've been friends with this chick for like 7years.. I suddenly decided that she's the one I'm gonna marry(even though I'm probably not, if it doesn't work out) and I want to ask her to be my girlfriend after we're "close" enough... It's like a mountain; we started off as normal friends, then became really close, but I we were still early teens then and I was just "okay", and now when we're kinda going down again I suddenly fell for her.. =/ Akawoa

Take things slow, as posted above, eventually the two of you will discuss exclusivity. It's easy to fall for a girl that you like, that would be classified as enfatuation though, as the two of you haven't semingly shared all that many romantic experiences with one another. Give it time, going from friends to a couple is a double edged sword, you have to reevaluate how the two of you feel around one another. Most importantly, don't overthink the process or try to force it, relationhips are born out of confidence, trust, and natural flow.

Bingo bango. As I said before, anything to abrupt or forceful will most likely put her into panic mode. Make it very natural and smooth and HAVE FUN WITH IT. Don't over think it with the whole "omg is she the one I'll marry??" just go on dates, and if it works out, great, and if it doesn't that's also great because you now have grown as a person and are one more relationship closer to the one that really counts

For me it was kind of just a mutual feeling between us, it wasn't very long though, a week or so.

mate you shouldnt have to ask, it'll just happen. if you kiss her or summink, you two just KNOW that you're toghter.. dont ask her to "be your girlfriend", you two will just knoww alreayd that youre together.

It just happens.

[QUOTE="th3warr1or"]The thing is, I've been friends with this chick for like 7years.. I suddenly decided that she's the one I'm gonna marry(even though I'm probably not, if it doesn't work out) and I want to ask her to be my girlfriend after we're "close" enough... It's like a mountain; we started off as normal friends, then became really close, but I we were still early teens then and I was just "okay", and now when we're kinda going down again I suddenly fell for her.. =/ Akawoa

Take things slow, as posted above, eventually the two of you will discuss exclusivity. It's easy to fall for a girl that you like, that would be classified as enfatuation though, as the two of you haven't semingly shared all that many romantic experiences with one another. Give it time, going from friends to a couple is a double edged sword, you have to reevaluate how the two of you feel around one another. Most importantly, don't overthink the process or try to force it, relationhips are born out of confidence, trust, and natural flow.

If he goes too slow someone might beat him to the punch. What the hell...why not ask her?

After a few dates you can usually tell if it's going to work out or not.

Just happens, never had to ask.

I don't ask. If you get past the 1st date and onto a second then its pretty much a given.

Going off of that dude, you definitely don't want to do the 'be my girlfriend' approach. Being friends for that long is already a delicate situation, esspeically for a girl..they're the ones who really take that "I DON'T WANT TO RUIN OUR FRIENDSHIP" thing seriously...and by adding the stress of popping a question like that could very easily blow it for you. I say go out and slowly work into it. The key is to make sure she knows they're dates, and by the end of the third one you should be kissing. DO NOT take that as a sign of being boyfriend/girlfriend/exclusive however. You two must talk that out later down the road, whenever that may be.

Tim_Q

Well you could be like a highschooler and do that whole "Will you be my girlfriend????" speil, but personally I find that ridiculous. It makes things awkward, as if things are all of a sudden different when in reality things are exactly as they were before you asked and became 'official'. What I would do instead is continue going on dates and eventually become exclusive..this is usually done when the two of you talk amongst each other that you feel you two should be the only people you're seeing and you're no longer going on dates with other girls/guys and that it's becoming a some what serious relationship.

Tim_Q

I've never really asked....it just happened.AAllxxjjnn

It depends. If she's hinting clear as day she wants you, I'd say 2. If not, 3. 4 at the most though.

LISTEN FELLAS. never ask her to be your gf. when the time comes introduce her as one. if she isnt with it shell tell ya. if not its kewweezyfb

A billion...atleast.

It just happens there isnt a set number. If she likes you it wont be more than a couple dates at most

It just happens there isnt a set number. If she likes you it wont be more than a couple dates at most

Colin1192

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It just happens there isnt a set number. If she likes you it wont be more than a couple dates at most

th3warr1or

If this isthe case chances are your in the "friend zone". Once your in the friend zone it's very difficult to get out. Your quest may be over even before it begins

[QUOTE="weezyfb"]LISTEN FELLAS. never ask her to be your gf. when the time comes introduce her as one. if she isnt with it shell tell ya. if not its kewth3warr1or

[QUOTE="th3warr1or"][QUOTE="weezyfb"]LISTEN FELLAS. never ask her to be your gf. when the time comes introduce her as one. if she isnt with it shell tell ya. if not its kewweezyfb

[QUOTE="th3warr1or"][QUOTE="Colin1192"]

It just happens there isnt a set number. If she likes you it wont be more than a couple dates at most

Colin1192

If this isthe case chances are your in the "friend zone". Once your in the friend zone it's very difficult to get out. Your quest may be over even before it begins

indeed. the friend zone is like being in a strip club. looky, but no touchy.

if you don't mind possibly ruining the friendship, then you should probably start trying to hang out with her more, just the two of you. i mean stuff like take her for dinner, take her to the movies, to the theatre etc etc. and always pay for her. that's pretty much the "date" signal, if there were to be one. I go out with girls all the time for that kind of stuff, but only ever pay for the ones i'm interested in, and want to "date". thing is, if she isn't interested in the same way you are, attempting to "date" her can make things extremely difficult between you, culminating in the almost inevitable "look, i really like you. as more than a friend" conversation.

from what i gather you are on tricky ground my friend. there isn't really a fool-proof method to success. it's 90% what she feels, 9% luck, 1% what you do. so on the plus side, what you do has limited effect...if she likes you, she's going to like you pretty much no matter what...and vice versa, unfortunately.

best of luck though.

There is no set number, you just agree. I was bf/gf with my girlfriend two days before our first official "date."

[QUOTE="Colin1192"]

[QUOTE="th3warr1or"] I'm a little afraid that she's accepting because she just treats me as a friend(we've been friends since Elementary school, all the way until i've finished High school and she's finishing it this year)... shaunk89

If this isthe case chances are your in the "friend zone". Once your in the friend zone it's very difficult to get out. Your quest may be over even before it begins

indeed. the friend zone is like being in a strip club. looky, but no touchy.

if you don't mind possibly ruining the friendship, then you should probably start trying to hang out with her more, just the two of you. i mean stuff like take her for dinner, take her to the movies, to the theatre etc etc. and always pay for her. that's pretty much the "date" signal, if there were to be one. I go out with girls all the time for that kind of stuff, but only ever pay for the ones i'm interested in, and want to "date". thing is, if she isn't interested in the same way you are, attempting to "date" her can make things extremely difficult between you, culminating in the almost inevitable "look, i really like you. as more than a friend" conversation.

from what i gather you are on tricky ground my friend. there isn't really a fool-proof method to success. it's 90% what she feels, 9% luck, 1% what you do. so on the plus side, what you do has limited effect...if she likes you, she's going to like you pretty much no matter what...and vice versa, unfortunately.

best of luck though.

You Americans are weird lol.bakalhau90

[QUOTE="bakalhau90"]You Americans are weird lol.th3warr1or

I've only gone on "Dates" with girls I was going out with at the time.

The closest thing to this, was I was at my friend's house (Girl, and she had a bunch of her friends over) with a bunch of my friends. Then somehow this girl and I started hugging each other, and holding hands (I knew her from school obviously), and then I was going to ask her out the next time I saw her, but her friends told me that she was talking about me all night. So I called her up, and asked her out.

It wasn't really a date, but sure.