Genuine Girl Advice...

Well here's the thing. I've been best friends with this girl for years now. I've always had thoughts about dating and that... well on Saterday at a party we got kinda drunk and told her how i felt, she felt the same. By the end of the night we were a couple. Now I don't know what it is but it feels really... unatural and wrong. I always feel uncomfortable around her. I don't want to be in the relationship anymore. I don't know what to do :(

Because you started a relationship without the prior dating. You should not have punched the gun and started your "couplism" right away. Because both of you were so used to being friends, switching from really old friends to being a couple in one night usually doesn't go over well at all. You had no courting, you were both drunk, it was just not a good idea.

At least that's my take on it.

I would suggest telling her the truth and going back to being friends as soon as possible, because if you wait too long, it's just going to get harder and harder.

Sadly enough once sex enters the equation things can get really akward really quickly.Palax

Because you started a relationship without the prior dating. You should not have punched the gun and started your "couplism" right away. Because both of you were so used to being friends, switching from really old friends to being a couple in one night usually doesn't go over well at all. You had no courting, you were both drunk, it was just not a good idea.

At least that's my take on it.

I would suggest telling her the truth and going back to being friends as soon as possible, because if you wait too long, it's just going to get harder and harder.

DragonfireXZ95

Sit her down and tell her. LJS9502_basic

Standing notification is unadvised.

[QUOTE="DragonfireXZ95"]

Because you started a relationship without the prior dating. You should not have punched the gun and started your "couplism" right away. Because both of you were so used to being friends, switching from really old friends to being a couple in one night usually doesn't go over well at all. You had no courting, you were both drunk, it was just not a good idea.

At least that's my take on it.

I would suggest telling her the truth and going back to being friends as soon as possible, because if you wait too long, it's just going to get harder and harder.

craig828

Technically if the feelings are there then the dating stage isn't the reason. I disagree with his advice because you obviously aren't feeling it. For all you know she may feel the same way.

Edit: It's extremely hard to go back to being just friends. You probably lost a friend.

Booze+Feelings=wtf?? Don't drink and tell your true feelings. It always ends up weird. You both were drunk so you both werent in the right mind to understand what you were saying.

Booze+Feelings=wtf?? Don't drink and tell your true feelings. It always ends up weird. You both were drunk so you both werent in the right mind to understand what you were saying.

rosesforever89

Booze+Feelings=wtf?? Don't drink and tell your true feelings. It always ends up weird. You both were drunk so you both werent in the right mind to understand what you were saying.

rosesforever89

[QUOTE="Palax"]Sadly enough once sex enters the equation things can get really akward really quickly.craig828

k, no sexy time....

Maybe your just uncomfortable in a relationship? Have you ever been in a relationship before? It's not easy stuff you have to keep your mate interested with conversation, gifts, emotion....

[QUOTE="craig828"][QUOTE="DragonfireXZ95"]

Because you started a relationship without the prior dating. You should not have punched the gun and started your "couplism" right away. Because both of you were so used to being friends, switching from really old friends to being a couple in one night usually doesn't go over well at all. You had no courting, you were both drunk, it was just not a good idea.

At least that's my take on it.

I would suggest telling her the truth and going back to being friends as soon as possible, because if you wait too long, it's just going to get harder and harder.

LJS9502_basic

Technically if the feelings are there then the dating stage isn't the reason. I disagree with his advice because you obviously aren't feeling it. For all you know she may feel the same way.

Talk it over with her if anything. Give it some time and see what happens, and if you still feel the same way then call it off.

[QUOTE="rosesforever89"]

Booze+Feelings=wtf?? Don't drink and tell your true feelings. It always ends up weird. You both were drunk so you both werent in the right mind to understand what you were saying.

craig828

She's in the friend zone. Tell her it's just too awkward.

Or perhaps your idea of a relationship is off? Having been friends for so long, you're already in a deep place, it's going to be different than starting a relationship with anyone else.

It's probably the emotion that you share with her, love. Some people aren't made for it (Me, as well as thousands of other peeps) but nonetheless, if you really like her stay with her, even if you do start puking out your intestines.

Getting drunk can lead to situations that can be tough to get out of. Just look at Mel Gibson....

Well here's the thing. I've been best friends with this girl for years now. I've always had thoughts about dating and that... well on Saterday at a party we got kinda drunk and told her how i felt, she felt the same. By the end of the night we were a couple. Now I don't know what it is but it feels really... unatural and wrong. I always feel uncomfortable around her. I don't want to be in the relationship anymore. I don't know what to do :(

craig828

thats exactly what happened to me... but we crossed the line.. and now.. our friendship is on the rocks

Ah alcohol, how you make life complicated!

Next time I suggest laying off the beverages and actually think through what you are about to say.

But since you're in a bind, just talk to her, no need for anything fancy. It'll be much easier if you just sit down and tell the truth.

[QUOTE="craig828"][QUOTE="DragonfireXZ95"]

Because you started a relationship without the prior dating. You should not have punched the gun and started your "couplism" right away. Because both of you were so used to being friends, switching from really old friends to being a couple in one night usually doesn't go over well at all. You had no courting, you were both drunk, it was just not a good idea.

At least that's my take on it.

I would suggest telling her the truth and going back to being friends as soon as possible, because if you wait too long, it's just going to get harder and harder.

LJS9502_basic

Technically if the feelings are there then the dating stage isn't the reason. I disagree with his advice because you obviously aren't feeling it. For all you know she may feel the same way.

Edit: It's extremely hard to go back to being just friends. You probably lost a friend.

I have to agree with the last part. I started something with one of my absolute best friends a while back... a few days into it, I just felt...off... like it wasn't right. I ended it right there, and our friendship shattered. We try to lie to ourselves and act like we're just as good now as we were before it happened, but it's just not the same.

I have to agree with the last part. I started something with one of my absolute best friends a while back... a few days into it, I just felt...off... like it wasn't right. I ended it right there, and our friendship shattered. We try to lie to ourselves and act like we're just as good now as we were before it happened, but it's just not the same.

This same scenario was my life last spring. :(

Well here's the thing. I've been best friends with this girl for years now. I've always had thoughts about dating and that... well on Saterday at a party we got kinda drunk and told her how i felt, she felt the same. By the end of the night we were a couple. Now I don't know what it is but it feels really... unatural and wrong. I always feel uncomfortable around her. I don't want to be in the relationship anymore. I don't know what to do :(

craig828

damn when i did the same thing i wasn't even drunk. anyway i tried going back to the way things were but now we can stand being in the same room together so be careful.

Because you started a relationship without the prior dating. You should not have punched the gun and started your "couplism" right away. Because both of you were so used to being friends, switching from really old friends to being a couple in one night usually doesn't go over well at all. You had no courting, you were both drunk, it was just not a good idea.

At least that's my take on it.

I would suggest telling her the truth and going back to being friends as soon as possible, because if you wait too long, it's just going to get harder and harder.

DragonfireXZ95

if they both had feelings for each other then why would it be awkward??? It wouldn't be for me at least, dating.........friends they're both reltionships so i dont see how it's really that different. Only thing that changes really is the physcial aspect and actualy being able to say how much you like the person.

[QUOTE="craig828"][QUOTE="DragonfireXZ95"]

Because you started a relationship without the prior dating. You should not have punched the gun and started your "couplism" right away. Because both of you were so used to being friends, switching from really old friends to being a couple in one night usually doesn't go over well at all. You had no courting, you were both drunk, it was just not a good idea.

At least that's my take on it.

I would suggest telling her the truth and going back to being friends as soon as possible, because if you wait too long, it's just going to get harder and harder.

LJS9502_basic

Technically if the feelings are there then the dating stage isn't the reason. I disagree with his advice because you obviously aren't feeling it. For all you know she may feel the same way.

Edit: It's extremely hard to go back to being just friends. You probably lost a friend.

yea, it seems maybe you just thought you liked her, or something like that. Now you can either 1)be a man and talk to her aobut it or 2)be a little wuss and cower in the corner of your own fear. OH and if they're your friends then they will understand if you dump her, you shouldnt be with someone you're not happy with and if they dont understand this you shouldn't be friends period.