Getting rejected by this girl was the best thing to happen in my life...

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#1 hazelnutman
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So I'm a high school senior right now, and there was this girl who piqued my interest.

Actually, I was surprised at myself. I'm kind of an introverted guy who never bothers with girls. Don't get that confused with socially-stupid though; I go to parties, talk to people, and go out with friends all the time. I've been asked out a couple of times too - all of which I've turned down. It's just that I had other priorities (school and work comes to mind) than finding a girlfriend, and asking girls out was a bit... out of the question for me.

Being impatient and cocky however, I asked her out on the second day I met her for some reason.

In case you gentlemen didn't know, that usually doesn't work out on girls on the second day. Maybe the third, maybe the fourth, but definitely not the second. At least, it didn't in this case. So yeah, I was pretty shocked initially. To be honest, this was the first time I had ever asked ANY girl out. Being a gentlemen myself, I asked her out IN PERSON of course, so it was a pretty direct thing. A pretty big deal to me. So I took a nap a few minutes later...

But then I realized: that's it? That's what I've been scared of all of this time? I've never asked a girl out because of my fear of THIS? This tiny, insignificant feeling of self-doubt which could easily be shaken off with a nap? Are you serious?


So wow - I just started to talk to girls from that point on without a hint of hesitation, and with flirtatious intentions. I recently got a ton of phone numbers and feel great about myself.

To any one out there who might be scared to death of rejection, don't be; it's seriously not a big deal.

And to everybody else, is this normal? I mean, I expected agonizing pain, but all I got left was that feeling you get when you try riding a roller-coaster for the second time. Maybe it's denial or something, but I've never had denial work in my favor like this before, so I don't think that's it.

tl;dr: Got rejected. Boosted self-confidence. Now I get ladies. Is this awesome?

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#2 GazaAli
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If only I have that picture of the Joker clapping. Good for you man.
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#3 ImLoopee
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Always had that fear lol. Not even just with girls, but just rejection in general from the smallest things. Guess it hits some people differently though. I'm assuming cause it was the 2nd day it wasn't that big a deal as you barely knew her. Asking someone you've known for a while probably wouldn't be as easy as it could make things awkward between the 2 of you for a while.
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#4 LovePotionNo9
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Now that's the spirit. That's how you turn lemons into lemonade. Maybe you'll find a female companion for yourself soon, not that you need one or anything.

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#5 deactivated-5b31d3729c1fa
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ok, why are you on gamespot after you figured this out :o :P

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#6 coreybg
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Yep, it's no big deal. There's plenty of girls to go arround.

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#7 hazelnutman
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Always had that fear lol. Not even just with girls, but just rejection in general from the smallest things. Guess it hits some people differently though. I'm assuming cause it was the 2nd day it wasn't that big a deal as you barely knew her. Asking someone you've known for a while probably wouldn't be as easy as it could make things awkward between the 2 of you for a while.ImLoopee
Well to be honest, it kinda is awkward at the moment, but not a big deal. I saw her on the same bus I take to work twice a week, but she didn't notice me - probably either because I was wearing a hat, or because she chose not to. Either way, I'll just casually talk to her like I used to by next week. She's part of a school club I'm in, so seeing her again is unavoidable in that sense.

ok, why are you on gamespot after you figured this out :o :P

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#8 mlbslugger86
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damn, if only i was brave as you, i'll probably be a babbling idiot...and probably drooling even:?

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#9 N-REAL
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Confidence +1 my friend...you're getting more and more experienced into handling girls.....words of advise from this old creepy guy...... You'll have to wait until (finally) a girl brokes your heart into pieces and cry some tears....when you overcome that you'll be ready. :)

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#11 UT_Wrestler
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The problem with getting to know a girl TOO well before you ask her out is that once you're in that "friend zone", she won't see you as someone she'd date.
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#12 ProjectTrinity
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So I'm a high school senior right now, and there was this girl who piqued my interest.

Actually, I was surprised at myself. I'm kind of an introverted guy who never bothers with girls. Don't get that confused with socially-stupid though; I go to parties, talk to people, and go out with friends all the time. I've been asked out a couple of times too - all of which I've turned down. It's just that I had other priorities (school and work comes to mind) than finding a girlfriend, and asking girls out was a bit... out of the question for me.

Being impatient and cocky however, I asked her out on the second day I met her for some reason.

In case you gentlemen didn't know, that usually doesn't work out on girls on the second day. Maybe the third, maybe the fourth, but definitely not the second. At least, it didn't in this case. So yeah, I was pretty shocked initially. To be honest, this was the first time I had ever asked ANY girl out. Being a gentlemen myself, I asked her out IN PERSON of course, so it was a pretty direct thing. A pretty big deal to me. So I took a nap a few minutes later...

But then I realized: that's it? That's what I've been scared of all of this time? I've never asked a girl out because of my fear of THIS? This tiny, insignificant feeling of self-doubt which could easily be shaken off with a nap? Are you serious?


So wow - I just started to talk to girls from that point on without a hint of hesitation, and with flirtatious intentions. I recently got a ton of phone numbers and feel great about myself.

To any one out there who might be scared to death of rejection, don't be; it's seriously not a big deal.

And to everybody else, is this normal? I mean, I expected agonizing pain, but all I got left was that feeling you get when you try riding a roller-coaster for the second time. Maybe it's denial or something, but I've never had denial work in my favor like this before, so I don't think that's it.

tl;dr: Got rejected. Boosted self-confidence. Now I get ladies. Is this awesome?

hazelnutman

Well, we all know Symphonycometh never has girl troubles. (Unless she be a certain Asian, but that's not the point!) The point is, does this mean that Hazelnutman is the sexies? O:

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#13 Iceozo
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Always had that fear lol. Not even just with girls, but just rejection in general from the smallest things. Guess it hits some people differently though. I'm assuming cause it was the 2nd day it wasn't that big a deal as you barely knew her. Asking someone you've known for a while probably wouldn't be as easy as it could make things awkward between the 2 of you for a while.ImLoopee

Yeah that was a problem for me. I didn't really have problems asking girls out but there was one who had known for a while and when she got dumped I was waiting a couple of weeks before I would ask her out. Ended up doing it expecting awkwardness between us but she was quite understanding and things are cool between us. **** scared for nothing lol.

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#14 LJS9502_basic
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Okay. It's common knowledge though....
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#15 slimdave21
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Awesome story man. I'm glad your feeling more confident about asking out girls now. :D
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#16 Zerocrossings
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Yep. Things always get easier after the first try, thats why i love trying everything. The topic title makes me want to post a forever alone face.
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#17 EMOEVOLUTION
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you don't strike me as that interesting of a person. your ideas are clear and to the point, but boring, and too practical. Also, some of your own self assessments are a little questionable, but I'll leave that alone. Since I've all ready probably been offensive. And yes, of course, I'm also open to criticism.

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#18 Grodus5
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Good for you man, thats the way to do it. Sadly, I'm kind of like you, but normally I don't get interested in a girl unless I've known her for a little while, which leads to my fear of losing a friend. If it weren't for that, though, I would be like you. The past few times I've gotten rejected it barely affected me, but then again I didn't really lose a friend in them.

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#19 Zerocrossings
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you don't strike me as that interesting of a person. your ideas are clear and to the point, but boring, and too practical.

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Wtf? Where did that come from. :lol:
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#20 EMOEVOLUTION
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[QUOTE="EMOEVOLUTION"]

you don't strike me as that interesting of a person. your ideas are clear and to the point, but boring, and too practical.

Zerocrossings
Wtf? Where did that come from. :lol:

well, that's why he created this thread. Was to talk about himself, so clearly, I can give my opinion of him.
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#21 xhellcatx
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Okay. It's common knowledge though....LJS9502_basic
aww lol i think its cute. hes inspired :) lol i wish it wew common knowledge tho lj. most young lads are always asking for advice
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Good job, TC! :) Here's a panda!
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#23 aaronmullan
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Yep, it's no big deal. There's plenty of girls to go arround.

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Indeed. 6 billion people in the world. One is bound to like you :P
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#24 GHlegend77
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[QUOTE="coreybg"]

Yep, it's no big deal. There's plenty of girls to go arround.

aaronmullan
Indeed. 6 billion people in the world. One is bound to like you :P

Yeah. But do you like them? :P
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GHlegend77

That panda's a bad-ass one.

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#26 Young_Charter
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I got left was that feeling you get when you try riding a roller-coaster for the second time.

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#27 Espada12
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Yea... rejection means nothing especially at your age.

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#28 metroidprime55
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Unfortunatly, I can't sleep, I think I have fatal insomnia, good by my friends.

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#29 VaguelyTagged
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you'd better watch out though

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#30 Dawq902
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Once I asked my girlfriend out I found myself a lot more comfortable talking about anything with girls that I really don't even know.

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#31 Hexagon_777
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I am much like you, TC. Nevertheless, my lethargy shall keep me occupied for a good deal longer.
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#32 biggest_loser
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If you really like a girl and have known her for a while man it takes a long time for it to sink in that you're never going to be together or do anything with her. That can't be cured with just a nap. Its a terrible feeling.
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#33 galerian86
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Hazelnutman, the playa??!! :shock:

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#34 metallica_fan42
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That's awesome for you.
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#35 Agent-Zero
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I had a similar thing happen to me to. Not fear of rejection though, fear of commitment I guess would be the best thing to call it.
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#36 LieutenantFeist
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wait till you're heartbroken the first time...then you'll have an ego that's hard to surpass.

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#37 warownslife
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Awesome. I only skimmed through that but awesome.

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#38 bobaban
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[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Okay. It's common knowledge though....xhellcatx
aww lol i think its cute. hes inspired :) lol i wish it wew common knowledge tho lj. most young lads are always asking for advice

Actually most know it and most are too ***** to do anything about it.
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#39 flowersjf
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Great story, but I'll always be afraid to ask out a girl. It's a mental block that's indestructible.
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#40 muller39
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Good for you man, I had the same experience about a month ago.

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#41 aRE-you-AFraid
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Guys always make it seem like asking a girl out is some big deal. It's not. Just go up to the girl you like and ask her to grab a drink or a bite to eat. The worst that could happen is that she could say no. If she does, not big deal. If she says yes, good stuff.
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#42 tokidokii
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If only I have that picture of the Joker clapping. Good for you man.GazaAli

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If only I have that picture of the Joker clapping. Good for you man.GazaAli

This one?

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#44 Suzy_Q_Kazoo
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Yes, even if you are rejected the first time it gets much easier from that point on. Good for you :D

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#45 hazelnutman
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[QUOTE="coreybg"]

Yep, it's no big deal. There's plenty of girls to go arround.

aaronmullan
Indeed. 6 billion people in the world. One is bound to like you :P

Last time I checked, half of them were male... What are you implying? :P
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#46 Young_Charter
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lol... I mean, a lot of the girls around here are whores so.... Who wants me to shipp them through amazon ? :P :P
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#47 tokidokii
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[QUOTE="GazaAli"]If only I have that picture of the Joker clapping. Good for you man.Resistance_Kid

This one?

Hah! Beat you to it!

But really, congrats. (:

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#48 Resistance_Kid
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[QUOTE="Resistance_Kid"]

[QUOTE="GazaAli"]If only I have that picture of the Joker clapping. Good for you man.tokidokii

This one?

Hah! Beat you to it!

But really, congrats. (:

I got the bigger one!

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lol high school

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#50 samuraiguns
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[QUOTE="aaronmullan"][QUOTE="coreybg"]

Yep, it's no big deal. There's plenty of girls to go arround.

hazelnutman
Indeed. 6 billion people in the world. One is bound to like you :P

Last time I checked, half of them were male... What are you implying? :P

There are women on this earth then males, so, your good.