Okay, okay. First things first. I know that the thread title looks stupid, considering that my name is MRgeezer (As opposed to MSgeezer). Yes, yes, I know. The answer should be obvious to anyone.
But please bear with me. I'm going to start out by describing the situation, so that you know what I'm talking about.
Okay. So here it goes. Alright, I've really had the hots for this one girl at work. I just thought that it was sort of unfortunate that she was dating another girl. Not because I have a problem with that, or anything. I just thought that she should be dating ME. Anyway, the two of them always used to be "attached at the hip", as they say. They were like, always together. Every time I saw one, the other was right there.
Here's the thing. I'd say starting at least a mointh ago, I've noticed them being together less often. Granted, I've still seen them talk briefly together, but they've started to seem to just seem "less together" over the past month or so. Also, it used to be that I'd always seen them making out, but I think it's been at least a good month since I've seen them do that either.
Also, I've recently noticed them being upset. Or I should say "seeming upset". I wouldn't know if they're ACTUALLY upset, since I don't talk to them. Not that I don't like them or anything. They're like, both really cool. It's just that I don't really talk to anyone. You know, personality problems, that sort of thing.
But yeah, where was I? Oh, right. So anyway, here's the thing. I almost think that this girl is flirting with me. Not quite, but ALMOST. I mean, I know that I shouldn't read too much into people's beaviour without actually HEARING what they think. But you know what I'm talking about, I'm sure. You know, sometimes when you're interested in a person, people can tell, even if youdon't explicitly say it. That's the way this feels. I'm pretty damn sure that people can tell that I'm attracted to her. I mean, I try to be a professional, and avoid saying anything outright flirttious or appropriate (since she's both a lesbian and in a relationship), but I'm pretty sure people could tell if they saw me interacting with her. In the last month or so, about the same time I noticed that these two women were publicly cooling down their affection with one another, I also noticed this woman warming up to me.
Yeah, she's been initiating contact with me a lot more often, and saying weird remarks, and otherwise just plain noticing me more. In particular, a couple of nights ago she seemed quite eager to talk to me. And just last night, I saw her girlfriend go home with another woman.
So, now that I'm done with the background information, I'd like to present you with some of the possible options that have gone through my mind.
1) Nothing has changed between them.
2) They are still together, they just don't flaunt their relationship as much now.
3) They are still together, but are having relationship problems.
4) They have broken up, and the girl I like is attracted to me. Either out of spite to her former girlfriend, out of a desire to expand her options now that she's no longer in a relationship, or out of a genuine realization that she's not a lesbian.
5) They have broken up, and the girl I like is only warming up to me because she is feeling lonely and vulnerable, and she knows that I;m not a dude who'se going to try to bang her just because she's feeling vulnerable right now.
Okay, granted, you don't know them. But just on the available information that I have provided you, what do you think is most likely out of the possible options that I have given? I would really like to know. Because I like her. She's a really cool girl. But I usually just sort of ignore her just because I don't like talking to people. However, if you think that she's in a bad spot right now, and is feeling depressed, and is looking for comfort from a friendly person, I'd hate to abandon her when she's hurting just because of my social problems. I mean, I actually like her, so I'd hate to think that I'm making her feel worse by ignoring the signs that she just needs a friend right now.
Anyway, what do you think? Am I being a total ass by treating this woman like I always have? Do you think that anything has changed between her and her girlfriend? Do you think that she's attracted to me, and is attracted to both men and women? Do you think that she's trying to use me for temporary emotional comfort because she can see thtat I'm atracted to her?
And yes, I realize that I could find out much of this myself, probably, just by talking to people. However, as I've already stated, I don't think that's gonna happen.
So based on what I've told you, what do YOU think is going on here?
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