Girl Advice... help..

I need somebody to tell me if they think that i am right, i have been obsessing over this girl for months, turns out yesterday i find out since january (when i started) she's already had a bf, idk but it got me mad,is it her fault? should she have told me something even after i told her how i felt...

Thoughts?

I was in the exact same position as you. 10 months later, it all went to ****. Ditch, bro. If she likes you, she'll pursue.

Huh so your saying you liked a girl for months and only just found out she has a bf, number one did anything happen second do you even know her that will to not know she has had a bf for months?

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I was in the exact same position as you. 10 months later, it all went to ****. Ditch, bro. If she likes you, she'll pursue.

revoscloud

Huh so your saying you liked a girl for months and only just found out she has a bf, number one did anything happen second do you even know her that will to not know she has had a bf for months?

xxmatt125xx

she never told anyone, now she tells everybody and everybody knows that i like her so now i look stupid, she should have just told me and i would have moved on sooner...

What? You are mad because she has a boyfriend but you like her? The world doesn't revolve around you. If you told her you liked her then maybe she should have told you but she isn't entitled to do anything. Also, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Obsessing over one girl is bad because if she doesn't feel the same way then you are gonna feel really bad. Go after other girls as well.xTheExploited

I was in the exact same position as you. 10 months later, it all went to ****. Ditch, bro. If she likes you, she'll pursue.

revoscloud

Same here... so that makes 3 people so far on Gamespot that have been in this situation... anyone else?

All I have to say is just be patient.

[QUOTE="xxmatt125xx"]

Huh so your saying you liked a girl for months and only just found out she has a bf, number one did anything happen second do you even know her that will to not know she has had a bf for months?

George__1992

she never told anyone, now she tells everybody and everybody knows that i like her so now i look stupid, she should have just told me and i would have moved on sooner...

George__1992

That really sucks.

[QUOTE="revoscloud"]

I was in the exact same position as you. 10 months later, it all went to ****. Ditch, bro. If she likes you, she'll pursue.

-Russ93

Same here... so that makes 3 people so far on Gamespot that have been in this situation... anyone else?

All I have to say is just be patient.

[QUOTE="George__1992"][QUOTE="xxmatt125xx"]

Huh so your saying you liked a girl for months and only just found out she has a bf, number one did anything happen second do you even know her that will to not know she has had a bf for months?

xxmatt125xx

Is her name Jackie by any chance? :P

[QUOTE="xTheExploited"]What? You are mad because she has a boyfriend but you like her? The world doesn't revolve around you. If you told her you liked her then maybe she should have told you but she isn't entitled to do anything. Also, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Obsessing over one girl is bad because if she doesn't feel the same way then you are gonna feel really bad. Go after other girls as well.George__1992

I'm sorry she did that to you, man. Girls are two-faced, says girls. This doesn't have to be the end though. If she has feelings for you, you can take advantage of that and out-do her "bf".revoscloud

[QUOTE="George__1992"][QUOTE="xTheExploited"]What? You are mad because she has a boyfriend but you like her? The world doesn't revolve around you. If you told her you liked her then maybe she should have told you but she isn't entitled to do anything. Also, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Obsessing over one girl is bad because if she doesn't feel the same way then you are gonna feel really bad. Go after other girls as well.xTheExploited

[QUOTE="-Russ93"]

[QUOTE="revoscloud"]

I was in the exact same position as you. 10 months later, it all went to ****. Ditch, bro. If she likes you, she'll pursue.

George__1992

Same here... so that makes 3 people so far on Gamespot that have been in this situation... anyone else?

All I have to say is just be patient.

yeah like I said, same here. She was single for more than a year and then just like that- boyfriend. And she decided to tell me first before things went "public" now that's messed up, no, more of a missed opportunity on my behalf.

[QUOTE="George__1992"][QUOTE="-Russ93"]

Same here... so that makes 3 people so far on Gamespot that have been in this situation... anyone else?

All I have to say is just be patient.

-Russ93

yeah like I said, same here. She was single for more than a year and then just like that- boyfriend. And she decided to tell me first before things went "public" now that's messed up, no, more of a missed opportunity on my behalf.

SNIPavatar_genius

So you told her how you felt and she continued acting as if she didn't have a boyfriend and more or less lead you on?ice_radon

Or she did not want a relationship... with you? There was this girl who was obsessed with me and I did everything I could to avoid her and avoid talking to her because it was really weird. If this girl knows you are obsessed with her then maybe she finds it really weird to talk to you. You just gotta accept that she wants to be with someone else and move on. Also 8 months is way too long. If you can't get a girl to like you within the first month or two then just find another girl. Its impossible to change a girl's mind. They either want something or they don't. There is no maybe I will like him more in a few months. Just go find another girl, treat her great and show that other girl what she is missing. If she does eventually come to you wanting to be with you, tell her to go to hell. A girl who jerks around with you for 8 months is not worth it.xTheExploited

Or she did not want a relationship... with you? There was this girl who was obsessed with me and I did everything I could to avoid her and avoid talking to her because it was really weird. If this girl knows you are obsessed with her then maybe she finds it really weird to talk to you. You just gotta accept that she wants to be with someone else and move on. Also 8 months is way too long. If you can't get a girl to like you within the first month or two then just find another girl. Its impossible to change a girl's mind. They either want something or they don't. There is no maybe I will like him more in a few months. Just go find another girl, treat her great and show that other girl what she is missing. If she does eventually come to you wanting to be with you, tell her to go to hell. A girl who jerks around with you for 8 months is not worth it.xTheExploited

Welcome to the Broken Hearts club, lad.

Welcome to the Broken Hearts club, lad.

revoscloud

[QUOTE="xTheExploited"]Or she did not want a relationship... with you? There was this girl who was obsessed with me and I did everything I could to avoid her and avoid talking to her because it was really weird. If this girl knows you are obsessed with her then maybe she finds it really weird to talk to you. You just gotta accept that she wants to be with someone else and move on. Also 8 months is way too long. If you can't get a girl to like you within the first month or two then just find another girl. Its impossible to change a girl's mind. They either want something or they don't. There is no maybe I will like him more in a few months. Just go find another girl, treat her great and show that other girl what she is missing. If she does eventually come to you wanting to be with you, tell her to go to hell. A girl who jerks around with you for 8 months is not worth it.George__1992

Or she did not want a relationship... with you? There was this girl who was obsessed with me and I did everything I could to avoid her and avoid talking to her because it was really weird. If this girl knows you are obsessed with her then maybe she finds it really weird to talk to you. You just gotta accept that she wants to be with someone else and move on. Also 8 months is way too long. If you can't get a girl to like you within the first month or two then just find another girl. Its impossible to change a girl's mind. They either want something or they don't. There is no maybe I will like him more in a few months. Just go find another girl, treat her great and show that other girl what she is missing. If she does eventually come to you wanting to be with you, tell her to go to hell. A girl who jerks around with you for 8 months is not worth it.xTheExploited

[QUOTE="George__1992"][QUOTE="xTheExploited"]Or she did not want a relationship... with you? There was this girl who was obsessed with me and I did everything I could to avoid her and avoid talking to her because it was really weird. If this girl knows you are obsessed with her then maybe she finds it really weird to talk to you. You just gotta accept that she wants to be with someone else and move on. Also 8 months is way too long. If you can't get a girl to like you within the first month or two then just find another girl. Its impossible to change a girl's mind. They either want something or they don't. There is no maybe I will like him more in a few months. Just go find another girl, treat her great and show that other girl what she is missing. If she does eventually come to you wanting to be with you, tell her to go to hell. A girl who jerks around with you for 8 months is not worth it.xTheExploited

[QUOTE="xTheExploited"]Or she did not want a relationship... with you? There was this girl who was obsessed with me and I did everything I could to avoid her and avoid talking to her because it was really weird. If this girl knows you are obsessed with her then maybe she finds it really weird to talk to you. You just gotta accept that she wants to be with someone else and move on. Also 8 months is way too long. If you can't get a girl to like you within the first month or two then just find another girl. Its impossible to change a girl's mind. They either want something or they don't. There is no maybe I will like him more in a few months. Just go find another girl, treat her great and show that other girl what she is missing. If she does eventually come to you wanting to be with you, tell her to go to hell. A girl who jerks around with you for 8 months is not worth it.gamertylers

[QUOTE="gamertylers"][QUOTE="xTheExploited"]Or she did not want a relationship... with you? There was this girl who was obsessed with me and I did everything I could to avoid her and avoid talking to her because it was really weird. If this girl knows you are obsessed with her then maybe she finds it really weird to talk to you. You just gotta accept that she wants to be with someone else and move on. Also 8 months is way too long. If you can't get a girl to like you within the first month or two then just find another girl. Its impossible to change a girl's mind. They either want something or they don't. There is no maybe I will like him more in a few months. Just go find another girl, treat her great and show that other girl what she is missing. If she does eventually come to you wanting to be with you, tell her to go to hell. A girl who jerks around with you for 8 months is not worth it.George__1992

maybe you should just move on, staying good friends always helps.

[QUOTE="George__1992"][QUOTE="gamertylers"] If she finds it weird talking with him, the why even stay friends? Instead of just telling the truth she lied to him and that is messed up. It's not that hard to say that you aren't interested and already have a boyfriend. You don't tell someone that you aren't looking for anyone at the moment because that creates false hope.-Russ93

maybe you should just move on, staying good friends always helps.

[QUOTE="-Russ93"]

[QUOTE="George__1992"] this... we did stay friends, talk over the phone and things like that...George__1992

maybe you should just move on, staying good friends always helps.

No, try to keep talking to her atleast. The girl I was crazy for is probably my best friend now, so I suggest you keep your friendship with her.

You shouldn't be mad at yourself and it isn't your fault at all in my opinion. From what it sounds like, she made the illusion that she just wasn't looking for a relationship and not that she just wasn't interested in you. So in that situation if you really like the girl, then it's perfectly understandable to wait until she is ready for something. What she should have done was tell you that she wasn't interested in you. Even if she didn't want anyone to know she was dating, she still should have told you that she would never feel that way about you. gamertylers

You'll feel better about this the second you find someone else. All you can do until then is live your life, no longer under her influence.

Repeat after me : **** that *****!

[QUOTE="George__1992"][QUOTE="-Russ93"]

maybe you should just move on, staying good friends always helps.

-Russ93

No, try to keep talking to her atleast. The girl I was crazy for is probably my best friend now, so I suggest you keep your friendship with her.

You'll feel better about this the second you find someone else. All you can do until then is live your life, no longer under her influence.

Repeat after me : **** that *****!

revoscloud

[QUOTE="revoscloud"]

You'll feel better about this the second you find someone else. All you can do until then is live your life, no longer under her influence.

Repeat after me : **** that *****!

George__1992

There you go, man. You're already on your way to getting over her.

follow your heart

[QUOTE="George__1992"]

[QUOTE="revoscloud"]

You'll feel better about this the second you find someone else. All you can do until then is live your life, no longer under her influence.

Repeat after me : **** that *****!

revoscloud

There you go, man. You're already on your way to getting over her.

I remember the exact words.. i text her lol.. she took long to reply so i sent " look just reject me you don't like me and let's move on ok?" then she said " it's not that that i don't want to it's that i don't want a relationship right now, i've made bad decisions in the past and gotten hurt so for that reason i do not want a bf right now" i felt fine with that and that was it, i told her that i loved her alot and that was it, we kept talking...George__1992

Well I think that is seriously wrong. If you still want to be her friend then that's fine, but I think if you don't confront her about that it will end up bothering you. Think about it this way: If this is her way of treating you, then would you really want her as a girlfriend? We all make mistakes and I sure hope she apologizes about it, but if not, then maybe you should consider finding a better friend.

follow your heart

avatar_genius

[QUOTE="George__1992"] I remember the exact words.. i text her lol.. she took long to reply so i sent " look just reject me you don't like me and let's move on ok?" then she said " it's not that that i don't want to it's that i don't want a relationship right now, i've made bad decisions in the past and gotten hurt so for that reason i do not want a bf right now" i felt fine with that and that was it, i told her that i loved her alot and that was it, we kept talking...gamertylers

Well I think that is seriously wrong. If you still want to be her friend then that's fine, but I think if you don't confront her about that it will end up bothering you. Think about it this way: If this is her way of treating you, then would you really want her as a girlfriend? We all make mistakes and I sure hope she apologizes about it, but if not, then maybe you should consider finding a better friend.

[QUOTE="avatar_genius"]

follow your heart

George__1992

What do you think you should do about this situation?

[QUOTE="gamertylers"]

[QUOTE="George__1992"] I remember the exact words.. i text her lol.. she took long to reply so i sent " look just reject me you don't like me and let's move on ok?" then she said " it's not that that i don't want to it's that i don't want a relationship right now, i've made bad decisions in the past and gotten hurt so for that reason i do not want a bf right now" i felt fine with that and that was it, i told her that i loved her alot and that was it, we kept talking...George__1992

Well I think that is seriously wrong. If you still want to be her friend then that's fine, but I think if you don't confront her about that it will end up bothering you. Think about it this way: If this is her way of treating you, then would you really want her as a girlfriend? We all make mistakes and I sure hope she apologizes about it, but if not, then maybe you should consider finding a better friend.

go to her door step and say it all.

[QUOTE="George__1992"][QUOTE="avatar_genius"]

follow your heart

avatar_genius

What do you think you should do about this situation?