Girl advice...how does this conversation sound?

So anyway, there's this girl at the grocery store who likes me. But I never get a chance to talk to her for a couple of minutes, which doesn't leave much opportunity for the romanticizing. I can't exactly ask her for her phone number or ask her if she wants to hang out, because we don't know each other that well.

But I just thought of a devious plan that allows me to ask her out without really doing so. Here's how the conversation would go...

Her: Yo, MrGeezer, what's up?

Me: Man, I'm doing alright, but I'm pretty damn tired. I stayed up too late last night playing Halo 3, I got almost no sleep, now I've got to be at work in an hour.

Her: Where do you work?

Me: I work at [place where I work]. Have you ever been there?

Her: No, I never been there.

Me: Oh, you absolutely MUST go there! It's GREAT! I usually stay there and get a couple of drinks after work. If you stop by late, come find me so I can say hi.

How is that? Is that more appropriate? I never actually asked her out, I just asked her to say hi if she stops by. And I did ask her to stop by in the first place, but isn't that okay since it can be construed as me trying to promote my employers rather than me overstepping the lines of tact by asking out someone who I have no right to ask out?

I figure, worst case scenario, she just plain doesn't ever show up. Whatever, no harm done. Best case scenario, she does show up while I'm having a drink after work, we get to chatting, and we get to know each other better.

Is that a good idea, or is that just stupid?

Go for it man. It leaves the decision completely up to her and you are placing no pressure on her. I would go for it if you find yourself in a situation where the conversation and tactic would be plausible.

Just ask her out.

What you just did...Is well, asking her out.


Halo 3 owns BTW...
Canuck3000

No it's not, because a straight man could say the same thing to a dude.

Example, one of your guy buddies is in town and he mentions that he needs to find a good hotel. Meanwhile, you're the manager at a good hotel. So you say, "Hey, I work at the [name of hotel]! You should stop by our place, man! Ask for me, I'll make sure you get taken care of."

See, it's not a "date" because there was no "date" at which I asked him to stop by. I just asked him to come by my business and give us money whenever he feels like it. Whenever, doesn't matter. Hell, I might not even be working that night. So it's not a date. It's just a professional promoting his place of business in a friendly manner.

I think I'd say the same thing to the dudes that I know, and I don't think that they would think that I was asking them out on a date.

[QUOTE="Canuck3000"]Just ask her out.

What you just did...Is well, asking her out.


Halo 3 owns BTW...
MrGeezer

No it's not, because a straight man could say the same thing to a dude.

Example, one of your guy buddies is in town and he mentions that he needs to find a good hotel. Meanwhile, you're the manager at a good hotel. So you say, "Hey, I work at the [name of hotel]! You should stop by our place, man! Ask for me, I'll make sure you get taken care of."

See, it's not a "date" because there was no "date" at which I asked him to stop by. I just asked him to come by my business and give us money whenever he feels like it. Whenever, doesn't matter. Hell, I might not even be working that night. So it's not a date. It's just a professional promoting his place of business in a friendly manner.

I think I'd say the same thing to the dudes that I know, and I don't think that they would think that I was asking them out on a date.

You can't plan a conversation, there are too many different things she could say. Just ask her if she wants to grab a drink sometime. Much easier.kerrmich

Yeah, you can plan a conversation, to a certain degree, especially if you don't know the person that well. If you don't know the person that well, the conversation is primarily going to consist of "small talk", and "small talk" pretty much tends to run a standard course. There may be some variance in the conversation, yes, which would require some small improvisation on my part. But I'm pretty much guaranteed that the "small talk" conversation should pretty much run as planned.

Ask questions designed to get a specific answer. Once you've gotten that answer, things are proceeding as planned. You can guide the course of a conversation just as easily as you can walk an old lady across the street.

"Oh, you absolutely MUST go there! It's GREAT!"

who talks like that?:lol:

and if you know for sure that she does like you, then just ask her out straight up.

Its perfect except for one small thing. Replace "playing Halo 3" with "partying" then she'll be all over you.Mumbles527

lol, agreed, if she has no idea what halo 3 was(its possisble) shed probably ask what is it, and u dont want to start rambling on how its this awsome shooting game, and depending on her personality she might think thats wierd/childish/geeky w/e u wanna call it, and could result in an akward silence, but good luck

1) I'm not sure you should mention Halo 3.

2) Be more relaxed when you tell her to drop by.

Other than that, go for it. :)

Your plan's success hinges on whether or not she has been to this place you work at! :o

Thats said, hope she's never been there, and actually comes. Good luck. :)

Geez, while that is decent plan you need to be more take charge. You can't ask if she would like to stop by because it gives her an opportunity to opt out. You need to insist that she joins you for a drink. Confidence above all is the key factor.

Honestly I think you should just straight up ask for he number and tell her that you'd liketo meet with her at the place you like to get drinks at. Be the take charge, confident type.

Your plan's success hinges on whether or not she has been to this place you work at! :o

Thats said, hope she's never been there, and actually comes. Good luck. :)

The_Ish

Not really.

Like I said, it's just small talk. Imprvise.

If she's been there before, I ask her how she liked it. Of course she's gonna say that the place is awesome, since it's just small talk and it's rude to say, "lol...your place of business SUCKS!"

So she'll say that she likes the place a lot. At which point I'll say something like, "well, I;m glad you liked it. Next time you stop by, make sure you say hi. If you're there late, I usually hang out and have a couple of drinks after work. Come find me and let me know how things are going."

Not really.

Like I said, it's just small talk. Imprvise.

If she's been there before, I ask her how she liked it. Of course she's gonna say that the place is awesome, since it's just small talk and it's rude to say, "lol...your place of business SUCKS!"

So she'll say that she likes the place a lot. At which point I'll say something like, "well, I;m glad you liked it. Next time you stop by, make sure you say hi. If you're there late, I usually hang out and have a couple of drinks after work. Come find me and let me know how things are going."

MrGeezer

Well, that definately should work, you devious one you. :P

"Oh, you absolutely MUST go there! It's GREAT!"

who talks like that?:lol:

and if you know for sure that she does like you, then just ask her out straight up.

-OpaK-

Oh and if she says she's been there before also.

Or she could say, yeah, but I'm never going back there again. all of those possible answers.

Yeah, I would have gone to bed, but i got 4 killing streaks and at least 15 headshots in one match so i couldn't just stop. I even got a couple of achievements, wanna see them?Juggernaut140

lol...you guys.

I didn't mean I would specifically mention Halo 3, I just used it as an example of how I could get my plan to work, and I figured I'd say that in my post (not necesarily to the girl) since the people here like the Halo 3.