Girl thread: relationships and mind games - what's the deal?

Wassup guys. This isn't a 'please help me with a girl' thread, but it does involve relationships and what not. I'm not looking for advice or anything like that.

Basically, i've been with my current girlfriend for three months now. Lately, she'll come over for a date and will end up staying at my place for a good three or four days before finally deciding to go home. I have no problem with that, as i like her very much, but it's sometimes a pain for me to try and go to university and keep up with my work while she's constantly here.

So the other night, it'd been no more than 12 hours since i'd last seen her, and she texts me asking how my day has been. I decide to ignore it, as i'm very busy studying for an important exam. The following night, i text her to see how she's doing, and she doesn't reply. I know she's at home; and in fact she'd been killing time on facebook for the past few hours. I call her up a little later and she doesn't answer.

Has anyone else experienced this before? Or something of that nature? Basically the really annoying mind games that boys and girls play with each other for no apparent reason other than to keep their relationship complicated and stressful? I think sometimes we do these things just to stop life being boring.

I remember a few years back where i would continually blow off a girlfriend of mine when she tried to plan a date, even when i had nothing to do. Why? I have no idea. For whatever reason at the time i felt it was giving me some sort of leverage or whatever, but in hindsight i see i was just being a douche.

Maybe she is trying to "show you"Oblivionfan10

Yeah, women are annoying like that. This is why I'm not seeking any at the moment. Very few women can be upfront about things.

You could tell her this-- the fastest way to solve mind games is open conversation.Luncbox1

[QUOTE="Luncbox1"]You could tell her this-- the fastest way to solve mind games is open conversation.Ninja-Hippo

You have to show her you wear the pants in the relationship. Which is why the first thing you need to do is steal all her pants.

Mind games suckkk! Unless they are little harmless ones all in the name of fun

Teach her a lesson , when i brushed of a date with my girllfriend because i was busy at work she didnt answer my calls so after th 3rd day i buggered off on a holiday to italy. On my return she was told she could have come if she had bothered to answer her phone, lesson learnt.EmpCom

Teach her a lesson , when i brushed of a date with my girllfriend because i was busy at work she didnt answer my calls so after th 3rd day i buggered off on a holiday to italy. On my return she was told she could have come if she had bothered to answer her phone, lesson learnt.EmpCom

[QUOTE="EmpCom"]Teach her a lesson , when i brushed of a date with my girllfriend because i was busy at work she didnt answer my calls so after th 3rd day i buggered off on a holiday to italy. On my return she was told she could have come if she had bothered to answer her phone, lesson learnt.I_pWnzz_YoU

[QUOTE="I_pWnzz_YoU"][QUOTE="EmpCom"]Teach her a lesson , when i brushed of a date with my girllfriend because i was busy at work she didnt answer my calls so after th 3rd day i buggered off on a holiday to italy. On my return she was told she could have come if she had bothered to answer her phone, lesson learnt.EmpCom

Hence why I am staying singleOblivionfan10

Yeah, good luck with that.

I've found situations like these are generally caused by a lack of communication. Obviously you understand the situation better than I do, but my guess would be she just doesn't know how stressful and/or important your exam is and feels betrayed because you couldn't find the minute or two to reply to her text.

i'm not so sure i would be bothered by this, i mean its only one text right. not like she ignoring all of them right.

i'm not so sure i would be bothered by this, i mean its only one text right. not like she ignoring all of them right.

Masterx1220

Moral of the day: women are always right.

Next time you get a text, you answer it, regardless of how busy you are. Just tell her you are busy, don't have the time to talk and if she is understanding, will let you continue. Ignoring someone at any point in a relationship, despite good intentions is never good. The least you could have done was just acknowledged that you got the text and say you are busy.

I personally would just give up on studying, considering my work ethic, and spend the rest of the night talking to her... but that's just me.

Moral of the day: women are always right.

Next time you get a text, you answer it, regardless of how busy you are. Just tell her you are busy, don't have the time to talk and if she is understanding, will let you continue. Ignoring someone at any point in a relationship, despite good intentions is never good. The least you could have done was just acknowledged that you got the text and say you are busy.

I personally would just give up on studying, considering my work ethic, and spend the rest of the night talking to her... but that's just me.

foxhound_fox

lol so true. The worst thing is when a woman is pissed off at you for no reason,you ask "Why are you angry" she says "you know what you did!" So you spend the next few hours trying to figure it out, and you have an epiphany! "Why dont I just apologize and this over with!?" So you go over to her and apologize and she says "You are sorry for what?" and you seriously have no idea what you are supposed to be sorry for and she gets angry again and says "You see, you arent even really sorry!!! *cue fake tears*"

Moral of the day: women are always right.

Next time you get a text, you answer it, regardless of how busy you are. Just tell her you are busy, don't have the time to talk and if she is understanding, will let you continue. Ignoring someone at any point in a relationship, despite good intentions is never good. The least you could have done was just acknowledged that you got the text and say you are busy.

I personally would just give up on studying, considering my work ethic, and spend the rest of the night talking to her... but that's just me.

foxhound_fox

It is not my job to satisfy her every whim.Ninja-Hippo

I love the mind games.... Because I always win.Always.And I'm always right too....