girl topic haha rofl

i know everyone gets all riled up about girl topics on OT but who doesnt like reading them, honestly? i come fully expecting that really funny picture... but we all know that video gamers arent the anti-social nerds the stereotypes claim we are. so im looking for advice from normal people.

 im 15, freshmen in high school. theres this girl, lets call her mandy. last year we became friends helping eachother get with other people... she helped me get with a girl, i helped her get with a guy... and then summer came and we got really close. high school came, my girl broke up with me, and me and mandy went to different schools (she goes to a private school). so anyway. she kinda had two relationships this year, and we really became best friends, i've never been so close to a person my whole life and like i really honestly never considered her in that way because she was my best friend.

here comes the complication. I would go over to her house every other week or so and we would just hang out. while im kind of a nerd, she just makes herself very comfortable and she would have me put my arm around her while we watched tv or whatever. i was fine with it, i really didnt consider them as signs (because they werent) and i had no feelings for her. we talked on the phone a lot and since february-ish we would be able to tell eachother we loved eachother cuz we really do. but even then, it wasnt in that way. i didnt mean it like that, she didnt mean it like that. like a brother/sister best friend type of love. Now then...

recently, we've gotten a lot closer. we cuddle a lot when we hang out, hold hands in the back of her car when her parents drove me home, shes kissed me on the cheek several times when i say something she thinks is cute. she isnt dating anyone, but ive heard her talk about this guy she sincerely loves all year, thats shes been off and on with all year. and for a few months now, ive fallen really deeply in love with her (please, no responses regarding my age and love... i dont use the term lightly i know what it means). i had no problem listening to her boy problems cuz i want her to be happy, sincerely. but last friday when i went to her house, we danced in her kitchen and then i held her for a really long time and she kissed me on the neck a few times.

 most of u think these are obvious things, all signs that i should just go for it.... but if you knew her, u'd realize she is just like that. i was still skeptical she meant anything by it. it wasnt till last night when she approached me with a question about like how me and her have become that i thought she may be thinking of me as more than her best friend. now i dont no wat to do...

I've ruined a really good friendship by dating before, and i honestly couldnt lose mandy, she is my only support beam in life. I woulda been fine being the best friend who does everything for her without asking for anything in return. no problem. but now shes approaching me with this stuff. and i dont no wat to do. when she told me she loved me today (thats a normal thing and has been even before ive felt this way about her) it sounded different than normal. i dont no...

 do i risk everything and slowly see wat happens? or do i let her know i just wanna be friends (even though i love her).... cuz i know dating is one of the quickest ways to ruin a friendship at this age....

.. please, all i ask is advice. dont make fun of my choice of place to tell this, i get it. and it took a long time to type that.

* waits for blood demon*The_Moo_Man

You're probably in the "just friends" mode now. sorry dude, that is really difficult to get out of. 

i know everyone gets all riled up about girl topics on OT but who doesnt like reading them, honestly?

mumotuma_man

I don't, honestly. 

Oh yeah, I inherited (stole) his pic...

One thing I MUST say... THAT is the most AWESOME freind EVER!! lucky nerdy pansy-man lol j/kTheHotel

well, i dont know what to do, ive never had a girl as a friend before :cry:The_Moo_Man

No point in trying if you are in a caste that you can't get out of (and yes, women have "castes" of men) 

Oh yeah, I inherited (stole) his pic...

 

 

TheHotel

Wow this is such a sweet story :oops:
maybe things will work out themSELVESThe_Moo_Man

lol i dont no if ur being sarcastic but i appreciate it all the same. from the conversation she was trying to have with me last night, i would assume shes feeling sumthing she hasnt felt before. but i played dumb cuz i was scared to have the conversation... if she tries to bring it up again, wat should i do?

not anymore... I just needed to make adjustments

You should ask your parents. They have...

STORIES!!

not anymore... I just needed to make adjustments

 

TheHotel

ill step in with it

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not anymore... I just needed to make adjustments

 

icstars2

Yeah, lol

But she's making moves on him so maybe you should... err... don't know sorry

i'm just the picture guy

[QUOTE="The_Moo_Man"]well, i dont know what to do, ive never had a girl as a friend before :cry:blooddemon666

No point in trying if you are in a caste that you can't get out of (and yes, women have "castes" of men) 

jeez you are super cynical and really need to lighten up. Crucifier

No I'm SUPER CERIAL. (south park refrence)

I'm cyinical because i've tired and failed a lot with the oposite sex. Sometimes I wonder, other than procreation, what's the point.

But thats another thread for a diffent day. 

The next time she kisses you, kiss back....if she reacts well to it, then you're set. If she doesn't, you can easily play it off as a joke.Mumbles527

she wouldnt mind. but anywayz. wat do i do if she tries to talk to me about it again?

[QUOTE="Crucifier"]jeez you are super cynical and really need to lighten up. blooddemon666

No I'm SUPER CERIAL. (south park refrence)

I'm cyinical because i've tired and failed a lot with the oposite sex. Sometimes I wonder, other than procreation, what's the point.

But thats another thread for a diffent day. 

[QUOTE="Mumbles527"]The next time she kisses you, kiss back....if she reacts well to it, then you're set. If she doesn't, you can easily play it off as a joke.mumotuma_man

she wouldnt mind. but anywayz. wat do i do if she tries to talk to me about it again?

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[QUOTE="Mumbles527"]The next time she kisses you, kiss back....if she reacts well to it, then you're set. If she doesn't, you can easily play it off as a joke.Mumbles527

she wouldnt mind. but anywayz. wat do i do if she tries to talk to me about it again?

but if i ruin things forever, i'd regret it even more. i mean she is the best friend ive ever had, she is my only happiness in life. If i lose that... i mean ive had history of depression (coincedently, mandy was the one who was there to get me through it), im not trying to be dramatic im being realistic of my risks

[QUOTE="Crucifier"]jeez you are super cynical and really need to lighten up. blooddemon666

No I'm SUPER CERIAL. (south park refrence)

I'm cyinical because i've tired and failed a lot with the oposite sex. Sometimes I wonder, other than procreation, what's the point.

But thats another thread for a diffent day.

[QUOTE="Mumbles527"]The next time she kisses you, kiss back....if she reacts well to it, then you're set. If she doesn't, you can easily play it off as a joke.mumotuma_man

she wouldnt mind. but anywayz. wat do i do if she tries to talk to me about it again?

Tell her that you have to go ask your gamespot friends what to do before anything else happens. 

what all ahve you tried and failed with?Crucifier

I could write a book about it.

but i think my major flaws are a low self esteem, I'm a boring person, and I'm not a very physical person.

[QUOTE="Mumbles527"][QUOTE="mumotuma_man"]

[QUOTE="Mumbles527"]The next time she kisses you, kiss back....if she reacts well to it, then you're set. If she doesn't, you can easily play it off as a joke.mumotuma_man

she wouldnt mind. but anywayz. wat do i do if she tries to talk to me about it again?

but if i ruin things forever, i'd regret it even more. i mean she is the best friend ive ever had, she is my only happiness in life. If i lose that... i mean ive had history of depression (coincedently, mandy was the one who was there to get me through it), im not trying to be dramatic im being realistic of my risks

^wow ouch

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[QUOTE="Mumbles527"]The next time she kisses you, kiss back....if she reacts well to it, then you're set. If she doesn't, you can easily play it off as a joke.JML897

she wouldnt mind. but anywayz. wat do i do if she tries to talk to me about it again?

Tell her that you have to go ask your gamespot friends what to do before anything else happens. 

lol. i actually got a chuckle out of that, i dont want anyone to misunderstand me, im making my own decision regardless. im really just trying to kill some time before i can get things resolved with her... dont no how long that'll be. im just kinda using this as a virtual journal to get my thoughts straight... and i do appreciate the advice and everything u guys are great

[QUOTE="Mumbles527"][QUOTE="mumotuma_man"]

[QUOTE="Mumbles527"]The next time she kisses you, kiss back....if she reacts well to it, then you're set. If she doesn't, you can easily play it off as a joke.mumotuma_man

she wouldnt mind. but anywayz. wat do i do if she tries to talk to me about it again?

but if i ruin things forever, i'd regret it even more. i mean she is the best friend ive ever had, she is my only happiness in life. If i lose that... i mean ive had history of depression (coincedently, mandy was the one who was there to get me through it), im not trying to be dramatic im being realistic of my risks

Unfortunate as it is to say if you screw it up, unless you really dwell on it you can become close to  someone else. The worst feeling in the world is the "what if" feeling. I always get stuck with that and find out later on that things WOULD have been different if i wasnt afraid and made myself feel like im 5

Sorry to tell you man, but she honestly sounds like a slut. When you go through that many relationships that fast, constantly talk about loving other man, and are doing things she is doing, that is not normal.trigga1230

oh no no u misunderstand. im sorry i conveyed her like that. shes not prude, but shes far from a slut. shes had one relationship this year, and she constantly talks about loving another man because im her best friend, why wouldnt she tell me that? in fact, she hasnt mentioned him in two months tbh. i only mentioned it cuz im wary that her heart may belong to him.

[QUOTE="trigga1230"]Sorry to tell you man, but she honestly sounds like a slut. When you go through that many relationships that fast, constantly talk about loving other man, and are doing things she is doing, that is not normal.mumotuma_man

oh no no u misunderstand. im sorry i conveyed her like that. shes not prude, but shes far from a slut. shes had one relationship this year, and she constantly talks about loving another man because im her best friend, why wouldnt she tell me that? in fact, she hasnt mentioned him in two months tbh. i only mentioned it cuz im wary that her heart may belong to him.

Well I am normal.  That said, I hope you find your way out of the fog!  That is a sweet and twisted story.  I would offer advice but the fog is just too heavy.Axed54

im actually appreciating her more from some of ur responses. while i would never claim to take anything with her for granted, i keep forgetting im lucky to be so close with a girl like that. and thank u axed it means a lot that a stranger would take the 3 seconds to wish me well. (no sarcasm)

I've never really had girls that were that close before without them being my girlfriend. Usually it goes from a stage earlier then that straight to girlfriend for me.

I really don't know what to say. That part of the relationship is pretty hard to move forward in. I'd try to figure out where she wants to to in the relationship, or search tons of forums trying to see if she is posting a similar thing you posted just now about you :)

I've never really had girls that were that close before without them being my girlfriend. Usually it goes from a stage earlier then that straight to girlfriend for me.

I really don't know what to say. That part of the relationship is pretty hard to move forward in. I'd try to figure out where she wants to to in the relationship, or search tons of forums trying to see if she is posting a similar thing you posted just now about you :)

Trickshot771

haha if only. and yeah this is the first time ive been really close to sum1 before i realized how i felt about them. like shes the only person i can really be my true self around. not my fake self (not that im fake to please people, but i can be my silly self). man. the response to this thread has made me very happy. and i havent gotten a single "wall of text, didnt read" message. that makes it even better

i just want to thank everyone for ur responses to all this. i was expecting to get ripped apart for the girl topic, the wall of txt, my age in regards to my feelings for her. u guys are really great. I dont post much (i lurk) but im really glad i came to u guys. strangers really do rock.

i just want to thank everyone for ur responses to all this. i was expecting to get ripped apart for the girl topic, the wall of txt, my age in regards to my feelings for her. u guys are really great. I dont post much (i lurk) but im really glad i came to u guys. strangers really do rock.

mumotuma_man

I don't understand why someone would come to a gaming site for a girl problem, but w/e, the world may never know.

Wow, every time I read another "girlfriend" topic the more I wish I had a girl of my own.kylekatarn10

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i just want to thank everyone for ur responses to all this. i was expecting to get ripped apart for the girl topic, the wall of txt, my age in regards to my feelings for her. u guys are really great. I dont post much (i lurk) but im really glad i came to u guys. strangers really do rock.

blooddemon666

I don't understand why someone would come to a gaming site for a girl problem, but w/e, the world may never know.

well like i said above, just cuz we like games doesnt mean we all live in our parents basement and cant talk to girls. i do think the picture in this thread is hilarious, but overly stereotypical