Girlfriend/boyfreind really necessary?

I've always wondered this. Most people who are in relationships (I'm talking about committed long term relationships, not some stupid flings or one night stands) usually put their heart and soul into their partner, and appear to be very happy. On the other hand, those who are single, keep whining that they're alone. Does this mean its absolutely necessary to have a partner to be happy, or to have meaning to our life? As for me, I'm happily single. I have dated girls at different points of my life, but nothing worked on a long term basis. So now, I'm happy playing video games and listening to music, and give all my love to my family. I don't even feel the need for a partner in my life.

So people....what do you feel? How important is it for you to have a partner in your life?

If you need another person in your life to validate it, then yes.

Otherwise, no.

Totally depends on the person. Lots of people can be perfectly happy without a relationship. They are very nice to have though, if it's with the right person.

If you need another person in your life to validate it, then yes.

Otherwise, no.

Ilovegames1992

Yep, pretty much this. If you can't live your life without someone to devote yourself to then yes.

If you need another person in your life to validate it, then yes.

Otherwise, no.

Ilovegames1992

Basically,if you're an idiot than yes,otherwise no.

I've always wondered this. Most people who are in relationships (I'm talking about committed long term relationships, not some stupid flings or one night stands) usually put their heart and soul into their partner, and appear to be very happy. On the other hand, those who are single, keep whining that they're alone. Does this mean its absolutely necessary to have a partner to be happy, or to have meaning to our life? As for me, I'm happily single. I have dated girls at different points of my life, but nothing worked on a long term basis. So now, I'm happy playing video games and listening to music, and give all my love to my family. I don't even feel the need for a partner in my life.

So people....what do you feel? How important is it for you to have a partner in your life?

sunil_u123

Well I have never had a gf or dated anyone so I can't say what it's like to have one but what I can say is from what I see to be happy you don't have to be in a relationship.

What an odd question...necessary???

Content being single, less hassle and less stress. And I don't have to argue with a significant other - male or female - over the TV and who uses it.

What an odd question...necessary???

Blueresident87

Content being single, less hassle and less stress.Smokescreened84

I hate the "I need someone to complete me" mindset. It's very unhealthy. I'd rather have a fulfilling relationship with an awesome person or die alone.

if you have watched Naruto, you would know human desire friendship. You feel fine right now because you have family and school friends. Once you are truely alone, you will desire a person to listen to you. If not, you have to be like Tom Hank talking to a volleyball, otherwise you will go insane.magicalclick

ya, it's good to have someone to talk to and confide in. doesn't necessarily have to be a gf/bf though.

I don't think having a GF nesseccarily makes me more happy (well in the bedroom it does at lest :P ) but I have been in relationships where I was completely miserable and I had no reason why I was still with that person. Being sinle does have it's peks, but ultimately you have to loveyourself first to be truly happy, I do think though that people should find someone they could spend the rest of their life with, if you have the right perosn than your life is much happier.

I remember I saw this old couple one time and they were together for over 60 years but they were still happily in love with one another. I think we should all try to find that with someone.

If you really don't want a partner as in really don't want one, then you really don't need one.

My hunch is that being single troubles TC more than he lets on (otherwise it wouldn't have been an issue to make a thread about).

But, to answer the question, I don't suppose it is entirely necessary to find a significant other, but there comes a point in most peoples' lives when they have that urge/instinct to "settle down" and have something of a stable relationship, have a family, etc.

but ultimately you have to loveyourself first to be truly happy

ShadowMoses900

Yes, and if you don't before you get into a relationship, it will go to sh!t.

Different strokes for different folks, I suppose.

My hunch is that being single troubles TC more than he lets on (otherwise it wouldn't have been an issue to make a thread about).

But, to answer the question, I don't suppose it is entirely necessary to find a significant other, but there comes a point in most peoples' lives when they have that urge/instinct to "settle down" and have something of a stable relationship, have a family, etc.

Planet_Pluto

You're wrong! I'm not "troubled" being single. I just wanted to know what people feel in this matter. No other intention I had. And I guess I'm quite old compared to people here (I'm 25). I agree there were times when I felt I needed someone special in my life. I had my first gf only when I was 23. But now, after dating 3 gals, I fail to understand what's the big deal about this. Maybe its because I was involved with the wrong kinds of girls.

Theres alot of factors at play in this decision.

In some cases people don't have a choice and there wedding is arranged for them. No this doesn't just happen to middle eastern and indian people. Dutch Reformed do this all the time. Theres alot of the Dutch / Christian reformed nutjobs around my area and they're all married off at like 18 ARRANGED by their parents to other nutjobs at their church. They start popping out kids right away.

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My hunch is that being single troubles TC more than he lets on (otherwise it wouldn't have been an issue to make a thread about).

But, to answer the question, I don't suppose it is entirely necessary to find a significant other, but there comes a point in most peoples' lives when they have that urge/instinct to "settle down" and have something of a stable relationship, have a family, etc.

sunil_u123

You're wrong! I'm not "troubled" being single. I just wanted to know what people feel in this matter. No other intention I had. And I guess I'm quite old compared to people here (I'm 25). I agree there were times when I felt I needed someone special in my life. I had my first gf only when I was 23. But now, after dating 3 gals, I fail to understand what's the big deal about this. Maybe its because I was involved with the wrong kinds of girls.

My hunch is that being single troubles TC more than he lets on (otherwise it wouldn't have been an issue to make a thread about).

But, to answer the question, I don't suppose it is entirely necessary to find a significant other, but there comes a point in most peoples' lives when they have that urge/instinct to "settle down" and have something of a stable relationship, have a family, etc.

Planet_Pluto

Most of the time that happens by accident, what happens for the average person is they don't go looking for love or family sometimes but then they meet a girl (or boy if they are female) and they hit it off really really well and and can't live without that person, then in the heat of passion she get's pregnant and then the guy becomes a dad and that's how families start. Then they get married soon after. It's kind of unconvential and might sound crazy but it's more common then you think.

My advice to TC is first he has to love himself, then when he does he should just get out and meet more girls and he'll find one. People that stay single their whole lives do so because of their own choice, it has nothing to do with anything being wrong about them at all. Beauty is subjecive so there are people that find you attractive, but first you need to believe that you are attractive first. It gives you confidence and that's what it really is all about.

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but ultimately you have to loveyourself first to be truly happy

Spitfirer

Yes, and if you don't before you get into a relationship, it will go to sh!t.

True, but I always find it hard to find a connection with some women. I try to but it doesn't work, I usually the end up in a boring relationship I don't care about, in that case I found it better to be single. When you get that connection though it's great, it's like a drug literally (no I don't do hardcore drugs) but they have shown through science that the brain releases chemicals that make you feel great and it's partly due in part to the scent of the women.

You exchange scents on a unconcious level, and her genes are "compatible" with your genes then the connection might kick in. There are no better gens mind you, but each person's DNA is different and each one is complimented by different DNA types. It's hard to explain and there are many other factors involved, but I found it intersting to say the least.

I am a person who loves having a girlfriend and loves the companionship. Others prefer to be single.

It's all down to the individual. It's necessary for reproduction but it's not necessary for happiness

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My hunch is that being single troubles TC more than he lets on (otherwise it wouldn't have been an issue to make a thread about).

But, to answer the question, I don't suppose it is entirely necessary to find a significant other, but there comes a point in most peoples' lives when they have that urge/instinct to "settle down" and have something of a stable relationship, have a family, etc.

ShadowMoses900

Most of the time that happens by accident, what happens for the average person is they don't go looking for love or family sometimes but then they meet a girl (or boy if they are female) and they hit it off really really well and and can't live without that person, then in the heat of passion she get's pregnant and then the guy becomes a dad and that's how families start. Then they get married soon after. It's kind of unconvential and might sound crazy but it's more common then you think.

My advice to TC is first he has to love himself, then when he does he should just get out and meet more girls and he'll find one. People that stay single their whole lives do so because of their own choice, it has nothing to do with anything being wrong about them at all. Beauty is subjecive so there are people that find you attractive, but first you need to believe that you are attractive first. It gives you confidence and that's what it really is all about.

Huh? the couple become parents and then marry? In the country where I live, its almost like a sin to get involved sexually before marriage, and the people who do that are viewed as criminals.

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but ultimately you have to loveyourself first to be truly happy

ShadowMoses900

Yes, and if you don't before you get into a relationship, it will go to sh!t.

True, but I always find it hard to find a connection with some women. I try to but it doesn't work, I usually the end up in a boring relationship I don't care about, in that case I found it better to be single. When you get that connection though it's great, it's like a drug literally (no I don't do hardcore drugs) but they have shown through science that the brain releases chemicals that make you feel great and it's partly due in part to the scent of the women.

You exchange scents on a unconcious level, and her genes are "compatible" with your genes then the connection might kick in. There are no better gensmind you, but each person's DNA is different and each one is complimented by different DNA types. It's hard to explain and there are many other factors involved, but I found it intersting to say the least.

I think you inhaled too much of that scent dude.

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but ultimately you have to loveyourself first to be truly happy

ShadowMoses900

Yes, and if you don't before you get into a relationship, it will go to sh!t.

True, but I always find it hard to find a connection with some women. I try to but it doesn't work, I usually the end up in a boring relationship I don't care about, in that case I found it better to be single. When you get that connection though it's great, it's like a drug literally (no I don't do hardcore drugs) but they have shown through science that the brain releases chemicals that make you feel great and it's partly due in part to the scent of the women.

You exchange scents on a unconcious level, and her genes are "compatible" with your genes then the connection might kick in. There are no better gens mind you, but each person's DNA is different and each one is complimented by different DNA types. It's hard to explain and there are many other factors involved, but I found it intersting to say the least.

You are overthinking it way too much, you like a girl you have chemistry with her, period. Is not about DNA or scents, at least that's why i think.

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but ultimately you have to loveyourself first to be truly happy

ShadowMoses900

Yes, and if you don't before you get into a relationship, it will go to sh!t.

True, but I always find it hard to find a connection with some women. I try to but it doesn't work, I usually the end up in a boring relationship I don't care about, in that case I found it better to be single. When you get that connection though it's great, it's like a drug literally (no I don't do hardcore drugs) but they have shown through science that the brain releases chemicals that make you feel great and it's partly due in part to the scent of the women.

You exchange scents on a unconcious level, and her genes are "compatible" with your genes then the connection might kick in. There are no better gens mind you, but each person's DNA is different and each one is complimented by different DNA types. It's hard to explain and there are many other factors involved, but I found it intersting to say the least.

My current relationship kind of started off as a drug (I became addicted to her presence and the things we'd do together) but over time it mellowed out into something 'deeper'. It's more based on a "mature" higher level, more appreciation of each other than intense emotions.

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[QUOTE="Spitfirer"]

Yes, and if you don't before you get into a relationship, it will go to sh!t.

madsnakehhh

True, but I always find it hard to find a connection with some women. I try to but it doesn't work, I usually the end up in a boring relationship I don't care about, in that case I found it better to be single. When you get that connection though it's great, it's like a drug literally (no I don't do hardcore drugs) but they have shown through science that the brain releases chemicals that make you feel great and it's partly due in part to the scent of the women.

You exchange scents on a unconcious level, and her genes are "compatible" with your genes then the connection might kick in. There are no better gens mind you, but each person's DNA is different and each one is complimented by different DNA types. It's hard to explain and there are many other factors involved, but I found it intersting to say the least.

You are overthinking it way too much, you like a girl you have chemistry with her, period. Is not about DNA or scents, at least that's why i think.

Not nesseccarily, simply liking a girl and chemistry are too different things. I know from experience where I liked a girl and thought she was attractive or whatever, but didn't have chemsitry nesseccarily. It's a totaly different thing, it's kind of hard to explain unless you expereinced it yourself.

It's a feeling like no other and it does have some odd physical affects like making your pupils larger ect...but like I said, you have to expereince it to understand it and there have been science that have found this.

Of course it isn't the only thing and there are a TON of other factors. Like attraction is very subjective so a girl who you think looks hot while someone else think she could be ugly (it's in the eye of the beholder as they say) and then there is of course confidence ect....

But something interesting though is that we are sort of "programmed" to avoid DNA that isn't compatible with us, like let's say you had a long lost sister and you didn't know she was but you kissed eachother on the mouth, you would then immediately get a disgusting feeling and bad taste because your body would say that is bad DNA so to speak.

It's odd how complex we are as a species, but ya there have been studies to show this and the reason why we kiss is to exchange genetic information with our partner (at least so we think). But again attraction is in the eye of the beholder so who knows, it's all very complex but chemistry does exist.

That being said I should point out that NO one has better genes then anyone else, just that we are more compatible with different ones than others and everyone's is different.

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Yes, and if you don't before you get into a relationship, it will go to sh!t.

Meinhard1

True, but I always find it hard to find a connection with some women. I try to but it doesn't work, I usually the end up in a boring relationship I don't care about, in that case I found it better to be single. When you get that connection though it's great, it's like a drug literally (no I don't do hardcore drugs) but they have shown through science that the brain releases chemicals that make you feel great and it's partly due in part to the scent of the women.

You exchange scents on a unconcious level, and her genes are "compatible" with your genes then the connection might kick in. There are no better gens mind you, but each person's DNA is different and each one is complimented by different DNA types. It's hard to explain and there are many other factors involved, but I found it intersting to say the least.

My current relationship kind of started off as a drug (I became addicted to her presence and the things we'd do together) but over time it mellowed out into something 'deeper'. It's more based on a "mature" higher level, more appreciation of each other than intense emotions.

Indeed, there are far too many other factors involved. It is chemistry but it is also physical attraction (which is subjective) and it can also be built of familarity like starting off as freinds and then it moves into something else or self confindence. There is just too much to it we don't understand and it probably isn't one thing like alot of people believe.

its what humans do usually, atleast most cultures.

to share lifes, bodies,happyiness and food :)

I think everyone has the potential to be happier with another person. hummer700

I'm an aromantic person. My ideal relationship would basically to have a girl who's a good friend, preferably with sexual benefits. We wouldn't have to live together or be married, but I guess we could be because I'm not against the idea.

To me, girlfriend/boyfriend is kind of invalid because of my aromanticism. I don't do hugging. I don't do holding hands. I don't do kissing. I don't feel the "butterflies." I don't do any of that typical romance crap. It doesn't make sense to me. It never did. Whenever I see it in movies, or even real life, I just don't get it.

And I have already found out I'm not the only person in the world who is like this, so I'm going to go ahead and say that relationships like that aren't necessary.

I laugh at monogamy.

I laugh at monogamy.

Austindro

I laugh at monogamy.

Austindro

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I laugh at monogamy.

soulless4now

I joined gamespot to troll sw and my sig matched the holiday seasons. I had a troll sig for Halloween, Thanksgiving, and now Christmas. The new ToU killed the art of trolling so I have not cared to change my sig, don't really post in sw anymore either. The sig has grown on me though, not changing it anytime soon.