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#1 Masinai
Member since 2007 • 466 Posts

Whenever I speak its only when someone asks me a question, and its extremely lowrering my friend rate. I always sit alone at free-time, drawing or singing a little tune, I need tips on how to start conversations so I can get my friends back. I almost always don't know what to say, I am silent all the time, and I think alot before I speak. So, I want to tell one of my classmates I got new shoes. My mouth bites my tongue on its own accord and I end up walking up to them and running away. I follow people alot, as if I am weak, and I never speak, just hold my hands in front of me and follow someone. Any tips to make me not stupid looking and silent? I always think of what I've said in bed that I think is stupid and mean, It's horrible. I don't want to go talk my head off and feel bad about it. If I suddenly start yabbering my head off people will still think I'm weird. I have a very deep voice, and deformed teeth I need braces on. Okey, a girly deep voice. Not that deep though. But deep enough to make me sound odd for my age and my teeth have two layers. I don't like everyone staring at me like I'm a freak, which everyone does. I feel good being silent, I hear alot more. I feel alot more. I can listen and when people are having problems I can solve it with what Ive seen and heard. But I want to have more friends and not just sit there dwiddling my thumbs. Tips?

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#2 kurama2002
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Silent is the way to go IMO. Join a club i guess.
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#3 forgetwatyahear
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say something random like "you have 20 falangees" that should start a nice conversation on the randomness and awkwardness you just caused.
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#4 TongHua
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Well think about it from the other person's perspective. people come up and talk to you about random crap all the time (or so i would assume). And (also, assuming) you almost never get offended or reject them. So why would it be different from the other side? Just start talking about anything, how was your day, did you take the ____ test yet, etc. It sounds corny but it works.