So im 21, im a senior at a university. And never really found my type before until now. But i need someone to tell me what this girl is thinking, help me out. This girl is extremely cute. Not sexy, not a whore. Down to earth tho and friendly. We started talking for like five minute periods before our lab class. And i always liked that she fuels the conversations, they arent one sided. One tme she sat across from me before class, willingly,and we talked about our semester for maybe 30 minutes. Heres the weird thing tho. When i would see her outside of class and wave hello, she would give me the most unenthusiastic response u could imagine. Made no sense! So i knew i had to not give up.... one day when i called her to the side before she ran away, we once again had a great conversation. We emailed to each other school stuff a bit, i gave her my number cus i said "it would be more accomodating than emailing". And she did take my number and text me with enthusiasm, but school stuff still. I went to a review session knowing she was going too, and she sat next to me. We talked again for like 30 minutes. So im confused tho cus we have great conversations when we talk but its lke i gotta go out of my way to get to her, because otherwise she will run away. She wont text me first, she wont start conversations first. And when we talk shes looking down alot. But she is active in conversations, she doesnt mind me following her out of class and talking, and she will laugh and smile and brush her hair. Somebody help me read this girl!
Damn bro. Are you sure she enjoys the conversations and not just being polite? It's also possible that she is shy. As we learned in the other thread girls can be shy too
I think she def does , i mean its weird. If she wasnt interested in talking i dont think she would be so enthusiastic to keep our conversations going. When a girl doesnt wanna talk they say nothing back. But this girl always gives me full undivided attention when we talk, she puts effort into it. And she laughs and smiles.
I think she def does , i mean its weird. If she wasnt interested in talking i dont think she would be so enthusiastic to keep our conversations going. When a girl doesnt wanna talk they say nothing back. But this girl always gives me full undivided attention when we talk, she puts effort into it. And she laughs and smiles. ms555
Dude, seriously, a girl talking to you does not mean she wants you.
Take some initiative, she sees you essentially as an acquaintance so talk to more girls get more confidence and see if you can progress the friendship into something more and take her out. Better to befriend and show your intentions than chasing something you can't get because you obviously want it to be more than friends.
[QUOTE="ms555"]I think she def does , i mean its weird. If she wasnt interested in talking i dont think she would be so enthusiastic to keep our conversations going. When a girl doesnt wanna talk they say nothing back. But this girl always gives me full undivided attention when we talk, she puts effort into it. And she laughs and smiles. Pirate700
Dude, seriously, a girl talking to you does not mean she wants you. Well what would be signs shes just being polite ?
[QUOTE="ms555"]I think she def does , i mean its weird. If she wasnt interested in talking i dont think she would be so enthusiastic to keep our conversations going. When a girl doesnt wanna talk they say nothing back. But this girl always gives me full undivided attention when we talk, she puts effort into it. And she laughs and smiles. ms555
Dude, seriously, a girl talking to you does not mean she wants you. Well what would be signs shes just being polite ?You know a girl can like you and not want to go out with you...right? Is this your first interaction with a girl?
[QUOTE="themajormayor"]I'd say she wants you. Go for it. Nothing to lose. ms555
Idk why people say that haha. Theres def something to lose, cus when u ask a girl out u put ur developing friendship on the line What's the point with being friends with hee?
I just went through that exact same thing not too long ago in my college. The girl you describe sound just like the girl I liked. Look, she is just being nice.... she has no real interest in you and just thinks of you as a friend. Thats wat happened to me, except I actually took her out to eat twice and stuff. She was just being nice and didnt want to say no to me.
[QUOTE="ms555"][QUOTE="Pirate700"]Dude, seriously, a girl talking to you does not mean she wants you.
Pirate700
Well what would be signs shes just being polite ?You know a girl can like you and not want to go out with you...right? Is this your first interaction with a girl? No! Im aware! Lol, i just cant READ girls! Haha
[QUOTE="themajormayor"]I'd say she wants you. Go for it. Nothing to lose. ms555
Idk why people say that haha. Theres def something to lose, cus when u ask a girl out u put ur developing friendship on the line Ask her if you can give her the ol'd lickaroo.
[QUOTE="Nengo_Flow"]I just went through that exact same thing not too long ago in my college. The girl you describe sound just like the girl I liked. Look, she is just being nice.... she has no real interest in you and just thinks of you as a friend. Thats wat happened to me, except I actually took her out to eat twice and stuff. She was just being nice and didnt want to say no to me. It seems thats the general consensus, idk . Mabe i just dont wanna believe it haha
[QUOTE="Nengo_Flow"]I just went through that exact same thing not too long ago in my college. The girl you describe sound just like the girl I liked. Look, she is just being nice.... she has no real interest in you and just thinks of you as a friend. Thats wat happened to me, except I actually took her out to eat twice and stuff. She was just being nice and didnt want to say no to me.ms555
It seems thats the general consensus, idk . Mabe i just dont wanna believe it haha Ask her if she's an archaeologist and tell her you have a large bone that needs to be examined
I think she def does , i mean its weird. If she wasnt interested in talking i dont think she would be so enthusiastic to keep our conversations going. When a girl doesnt wanna talk they say nothing back. But this girl always gives me full undivided attention when we talk, she puts effort into it. And she laughs and smiles. ms555
Kinda seems like you already truly believe she likes you. You shouldnt need to be reaffirmed by us, just go for it dude and ask her to hangout and do something thats not school related
[QUOTE="ms555"]I think she def does , i mean its weird. If she wasnt interested in talking i dont think she would be so enthusiastic to keep our conversations going. When a girl doesnt wanna talk they say nothing back. But this girl always gives me full undivided attention when we talk, she puts effort into it. And she laughs and smiles. gohan_3
Kinda seems like you already truly believe she likes you. You shouldnt need to be reaffirmed by us, just go for it dude and ask her to hangout and do something thats not school related
Also the Archeology line is a good open for this, also the old lickaroo. Go for it OP, post pictures of her response plz
[QUOTE="ms555"]I think she def does , i mean its weird. If she wasnt interested in talking i dont think she would be so enthusiastic to keep our conversations going. When a girl doesnt wanna talk they say nothing back. But this girl always gives me full undivided attention when we talk, she puts effort into it. And she laughs and smiles. gohan_3
Kinda seems like you already truly believe she likes you. You shouldnt need to be reaffirmed by us, just go for it dude and ask her to hangout and do something thats not school related
Its hard sometimes to tell tho if u can feel a girl likes u or ur just seeing what u wanna see, ya know?
[QUOTE="ms555"]I think she def does , i mean its weird. If she wasnt interested in talking i dont think she would be so enthusiastic to keep our conversations going. When a girl doesnt wanna talk they say nothing back. But this girl always gives me full undivided attention when we talk, she puts effort into it. And she laughs and smiles. LLYNCES
Kinda seems like you already truly believe she likes you. You shouldnt need to be reaffirmed by us, just go for it dude and ask her to hangout and do something thats not school related
Also the Archeology line is a good open for this, also the old lickaroo. Go for it OP, post pictures of her response plz
[QUOTE="ms555"][QUOTE="Nengo_Flow"]I just went through that exact same thing not too long ago in my college. The girl you describe sound just like the girl I liked. Look, she is just being nice.... she has no real interest in you and just thinks of you as a friend. Thats wat happened to me, except I actually took her out to eat twice and stuff. She was just being nice and didnt want to say no to me.LLYNCES
It seems thats the general consensus, idk . Mabe i just dont wanna believe it haha Ask her if she's an archaeologist and tell her you have a large bone that needs to be examined
Here's an idea just ask her out. I can never understand why people make it so complicated to the point of trying to notice body language.
She says no, then move on. No big deal..
ms555
Cus then usually not only have u lost the gf oppurtunity, u lose that person as a friend. Then u become " that guy that asked me out one time"
So you have no problem watching her date other guys and talk to you about her relationship stuff? If you feel strongly about a girl I doubt you can be friends,
Just being straight with them has always worked for me.
The only time I've ever been rejected was because the girl heard rumours I was using drugs.
Here's an idea just ask her out. I can never understand why people make it so complicated to the point of trying to notice body language.
She says no, then move on. No big deal..
ms555
Cus then usually not only have u lost the gf oppurtunity, u lose that person as a friend. Then u become " that guy that asked me out one time" Dude, seriously, if you don't ask her out then you really never will get into her pants. She's not going just fall into your arms, you're going to have to show that you have some sack and ask her out. And do it soon, because the Friend Zone is a black hole from which there's no escape.
Well, I'm glad you asked, Edward Cullen! Since you obviously can't read Bella, it means she's the one for you. Just stalk her in her bedroom and tell her you're the most dangerous predator, it'll work out in the end
if you want a proper answer your chance is already gone although it doesnt look like she was interested in the first place but the fact that you are worried about ruining a friendship means nothing with happen so these conversations about school will have to keep you going even though they wont last much longer and before long you wont be friends with her and you'll be thinking to yourself 'i may as well have asked her out' but whatever dude by the looks of these posts it doesnt look like you have it in you anyway
[QUOTE="ms555"][QUOTE="Nengo_Flow"]I just went through that exact same thing not too long ago in my college. The girl you describe sound just like the girl I liked. Look, she is just being nice.... she has no real interest in you and just thinks of you as a friend. Thats wat happened to me, except I actually took her out to eat twice and stuff. She was just being nice and didnt want to say no to me. It seems thats the general consensus, idk . Mabe i just dont wanna believe it haha I didnt want to believe it either, so I ended up going through months and months of bullsh*t and now she avoids me completely everytime i see her in school. Cuz from the very beginning she was just being nice, but I read it as the girl is also interested in me so I was doing the whole lets go on a date thing cuz I thought we had connected. But there was never a connection, it was just her being nice to me. Now she's afraid to talk to me.
[QUOTE="cheese_game619"]if you want a proper answer your chance is already gone although it doesnt look like she was interested in the first place but the fact that you are worried about ruining a friendship means nothing with happen so these conversations about school will have to keep you going even though they wont last much longer and before long you wont be friends with her and you'll be thinking to yourself 'i may as well have asked her out' but whatever dude by the looks of these posts it doesnt look like you have it in you anyway Haha, well hell yea im nervous! If i was that super duper confident i wouldnt be asking for help! But u got a good point on how not even our friendship cn last long ith school related stuff. Thats my issue, i feel like im stuck in a whirlpool here, i cant COMPLETELY leave the school related conversations
[QUOTE="Nengo_Flow"][QUOTE="ms555"][QUOTE="Nengo_Flow"]I just went through that exact same thing not too long ago in my college. The girl you describe sound just like the girl I liked. Look, she is just being nice.... she has no real interest in you and just thinks of you as a friend. Thats wat happened to me, except I actually took her out to eat twice and stuff. She was just being nice and didnt want to say no to me. It seems thats the general consensus, idk . Mabe i just dont wanna believe it haha . Cuz from the very beginning she was just being nice, but I read it as the girl is also interested in me so I was doing the whole lets go on a date thing cuz I thought we had connected. But there was never a connection, it was just her being nice to me. Now she's afraid to talk to me. Jeez now im afraid of the same thing! ....when did u realize that she was just being nice? She started getting creeped out by u?
lol she doesn't look at you while in a conversation? No she doesn't like you.bobaban
Its on and off. Like she will gave eye contact but sometimes she will keep her head bowed. I mean its weird tho, when i talk to her, its the pitch of her voice and her facial expressions and her involvement in the conversation that make me feel like maybe theres a chance she likes me
[QUOTE="bobaban"]lol she doesn't look at you while in a conversation? No she doesn't like you.ms555
Its on and off. Like she will gave eye contact but sometimes she will keep her head bowed. I mean its weird tho, when i talk to her, its the pitch of her voice and her facial expressions and her involvement in the conversation that make me feel like maybe theres a chance she likes me
Just go ask the girl jeez lol, the worst thing that will happen is it gets a little awkward or you lose a friend you probably wont see once classes end. On the flip side you can gain a girlfriend, pros to cons its easy to see what you gotta do, man up.
There is a possibility that she could actually like you and just really shy and don't want to ruin anything. I used to be like that. She probably doesn't want to set herself up for rejection if she acts more interested in you romantically. So I wouldn't rule it out but yeah there is the possibility of her just being nice. Just ask her out for lunch or something and if she says no then there's your answer. Because even if she does like you... she probably won't ask you out.
Judging from the events, I doubt this is a case of friend zone. It sounds more like a "politeness zone". It may very well be that she hardly regards you as a friend and is simply trying to be polite. The masks people choose to wear can often be very deceiving. The only way to move forward is a direct confrontation.
All your speculations are worthless. Whether you have a chance or not cannot be deduced from ambiguous observations. Lay your cards. If you do nothing, then whether or not you have a chance will not change, all you will have are ignorance and wishful thinking. If you act, then the worst you can get is a quick end.
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