Holy **** I am freaking out, HELP!!! (Dating site related)

Ok, some people here may have heard me mention how I have been using okcupid in hopes of maybe finding someone special. While I haven't had any luck yet, things have been going swimmingly untill just now.

I just got home, went to check my homepage and.....saw the only girl I ever "dated" on the update feed. Now I am panicking.

Should I got delete my page? It surely will throw us together as matches and I am a wee bit embarrassed about being on a dating site. At the same time, I feel like it might end up leading to us re-building our friendship and possibly having a real relationship this time.

I really just don't know what to do here. I don't want it to get around that I am on a dating site, yet I don't want to just abandon the site.

HELP!!!

It seems like you were meant to be.

Give her a second chance, it can't hurt you. If it doesn't work out, so be it, move along.

It seems like you were meant to be.

entropyecho

It seems like you were meant to be.

entropyecho

This is what I was thinking lol. Fate may have brought you guys there. You should actually try talking to her! Or you could reject fate and delete your account. Maybe it was meant to be? Unless you broke up in a horrible horrible way...

It seems like you were meant to be.

entropyecho

This is your chance to try get rejected again :Dv13_KiiLtz

stick with the site, and maybe it will match you two up. don't message her or anything before that happens, though.

This is your chance to try get rejected again :Dv13_KiiLtz

Actually, I was young (it was like 7th grade) and was too immature to try any relationship then. We dated and I dumped her. Looking back, I think I was too much of a coward to be in a relationship and take any teasing that came along with it (I got teased for dating her).

After middle school we went to different high schools and just fell out of touch.

I have her as a friend on facebook and everything still and am a bit dissapointed we fell apart, but I don't know if we could ever rebuild our friendship. I still feel a bit guilty for how I was...

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]

It seems like you were meant to be.

cybrcatter

Oops, forgot to add the word "rejected" at the end of that sentence. :oops:

:P

[QUOTE="cybrcatter"]

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]

It seems like you were meant to be.

entropyecho

Oops, forgot to add the word "rejected" at the end of that sentence. :oops:

:P

[QUOTE="v13_KiiLtz"]This is your chance to try get rejected again :DLostProphetFLCL

Actually, I was young (it was like 7th grade) and was too immature to try any relationship then. We dated and I dumped her. Looking back, I think I was too much of a coward to be in a relationship and take any teasing that came along with it (I got teased for dating her).

After middle school we went to different high schools and just fell out of touch.

I have her as a friend on facebook and everything still and am a bit dissapointed we fell apart, but I don't know if we could ever rebuild our friendship. I still feel a bit guilty for how I was...

TC... Were you acting like a jackass while dating her?

Give her a second chance. And I don't see how being on a dating site is embarassing, according to match.com 1 out of 5 relationships start online. And you should be trying eHarmony if you want a pretty good chance of starting anything serious.-Big_Red-

I would give her a second chance in a second but I seriously doubt she wants one.

IDK, that would be working over soo much pride and ego that I have built up there...

I honestly think you should pursue a relationship.

I expect frequent girl help threads from you in the near future.

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"]Give her a second chance. And I don't see how being on a dating site is embarassing, according to match.com 1 out of 5 relationships start online. And you should be trying eHarmony if you want a pretty good chance of starting anything serious.LostProphetFLCL

I would give her a second chance in a second but I seriously doubt she wants one.

IDK, that would be working over soo much pride and ego that I have built up there...

Forget your pride/ego. And did you treat her so bad that she just wants nothing to do with you anymore?

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

[QUOTE="v13_KiiLtz"]This is your chance to try get rejected again :D-Big_Red-

Actually, I was young (it was like 7th grade) and was too immature to try any relationship then. We dated and I dumped her. Looking back, I think I was too much of a coward to be in a relationship and take any teasing that came along with it (I got teased for dating her).

After middle school we went to different high schools and just fell out of touch.

I have her as a friend on facebook and everything still and am a bit dissapointed we fell apart, but I don't know if we could ever rebuild our friendship. I still feel a bit guilty for how I was...

TC... Were you acting like a jackass while dating her?

I mean I feel like an ass for breaking up with her.

I also didn't make much attempt to stay in touch thanks to my anxiety problems and whatnot. I became a complete, loner basket case by the time High School came around and I got so caught up in the idea that everone hated me and I was alone in the world that I never bothered calling or anything...

I honestly think you should pursue a relationship.

I expect frequent girl help threads from you in the near future.

entropyecho

Yes.

There will be the "OMG I GOT A DATE! HELP!!!" thread.

Then the "OMG HOW DO I SET UP THE SECOND DATE???" thread.

And of course the "OMG I AM GOING TO LOSE MY VIRGINITY! HELP!!!" thread.

:lol:

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]

I honestly think you should pursue a relationship.

I expect frequent girl help threads from you in the near future.

LostProphetFLCL

Yes.

There will be the "OMG I GOT A DATE! HELP!!!" thread.

Then the "OMG HOW DO I SET UP THE SECOND DATE???" thread.

And of course the "OMG I AM GOING TO LOSE MY VIRGINITY! HELP!!!" thread.

:lol:

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"]

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

Actually, I was young (it was like 7th grade) and was too immature to try any relationship then. We dated and I dumped her. Looking back, I think I was too much of a coward to be in a relationship and take any teasing that came along with it (I got teased for dating her).

After middle school we went to different high schools and just fell out of touch.

I have her as a friend on facebook and everything still and am a bit dissapointed we fell apart, but I don't know if we could ever rebuild our friendship. I still feel a bit guilty for how I was...

TC... Were you acting like a jackass while dating her?

I mean I feel like an ass for breaking up with her.

I also didn't make much attempt to stay in touch thanks to my anxiety problems and whatnot. I became a complete, loner basket case by the time High School came around and I got so caught up in the idea that everone hated me and I was alone in the world that I never bothered calling or anything...

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]

I honestly think you should pursue a relationship.

I expect frequent girl help threads from you in the near future.

cybrcatter

Yes.

There will be the "OMG I GOT A DATE! HELP!!!" thread.

Then the "OMG HOW DO I SET UP THE SECOND DATE???" thread.

And of course the "OMG I AM GOING TO LOSE MY VIRGINITY! HELP!!!" thread.

:lol:

Yeah that last one is probably a good 20 years ahead there.:lol:

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]

I expect frequent girl help threads from you in the near future.

cybrcatter

And of course the "OMG I AM GOING TO LOSE MY VIRGINITY! HELP!!!" thread.

Don't listen to him. You have vision. You went from seeing someone's profile on a dating website to sex in one step.

Clinton approves.

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"]

TC... Were you acting like a jackass while dating her?

-Big_Red-

I mean I feel like an ass for breaking up with her.

I also didn't make much attempt to stay in touch thanks to my anxiety problems and whatnot. I became a complete, loner basket case by the time High School came around and I got so caught up in the idea that everone hated me and I was alone in the world that I never bothered calling or anything...

That just seems like it would kinf of come out of nowhere there...

It doesn't help that we haven't actually seen eachother in years, and I mentioned hanging out again at one point and nothing ever happened...

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"][QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

I mean I feel like an ass for breaking up with her.

I also didn't make much attempt to stay in touch thanks to my anxiety problems and whatnot. I became a complete, loner basket case by the time High School came around and I got so caught up in the idea that everone hated me and I was alone in the world that I never bothered calling or anything...

That just seems like it would kinf of come out of nowhere there...

It doesn't help that we haven't actually seen eachother in years, and I mentioned hanging out again at one point and nothing ever happened...

[QUOTE="v13_KiiLtz"]This is your chance to try get rejected again :DLostProphetFLCL

Actually, I was young (it was like 7th grade) and was too immature to try any relationship then. We dated and I dumped her. Looking back, I think I was too much of a coward to be in a relationship and take any teasing that came along with it (I got teased for dating her).

After middle school we went to different high schools and just fell out of touch.

I have her as a friend on facebook and everything still and am a bit dissapointed we fell apart, but I don't know if we could ever rebuild our friendship. I still feel a bit guilty for how I was...

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"] IF you can, send her a message telling her that you are sorry for what you did, you regret doing it, and you would like to get together. Also tell her that you completely understand her if she still hates you. Also let her know that it's completely up to her if she lets you take her out. Don't sound desperate, sound apologetic, humble, and confident.-Big_Red-

That just seems like it would kinf of come out of nowhere there...

It doesn't help that we haven't actually seen eachother in years, and I mentioned hanging out again at one point and nothing ever happened...

No no facebook.

We had been talking on there about Shutter Island. It came up that neither of us had seen it and I suggested that maybe we could go see it together as we hadn't seen eachother in forever...

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

[QUOTE="v13_KiiLtz"]This is your chance to try get rejected again :Dneedled24-7

Actually, I was young (it was like 7th grade) and was too immature to try any relationship then. We dated and I dumped her. Looking back, I think I was too much of a coward to be in a relationship and take any teasing that came along with it (I got teased for dating her).

After middle school we went to different high schools and just fell out of touch.

I have her as a friend on facebook and everything still and am a bit dissapointed we fell apart, but I don't know if we could ever rebuild our friendship. I still feel a bit guilty for how I was...

I have changed immensly over the last couple years, mainly through not being such a slave to my anxiety issues.

I never asked a girl out till just two years ago despite NUMEROUS crushes, and I have worked on actually making effort to talk to people.

Thing is I just fear she has alot of resentment towards me and likely would not give me a chance....

[QUOTE="needled24-7"]

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

Actually, I was young (it was like 7th grade) and was too immature to try any relationship then. We dated and I dumped her. Looking back, I think I was too much of a coward to be in a relationship and take any teasing that came along with it (I got teased for dating her).

After middle school we went to different high schools and just fell out of touch.

I have her as a friend on facebook and everything still and am a bit dissapointed we fell apart, but I don't know if we could ever rebuild our friendship. I still feel a bit guilty for how I was...

LostProphetFLCL

I have changed immensly over the last couple years, mainly through not being such a slave to my anxiety issues.

I never asked a girl out till just two years ago despite NUMEROUS crushes, and I have worked on actually making effort to talk to people.

Thing is I just fear she has alot of resentment towards me and likely would not give me a chance....

I think it's destiny man. Seriously. Give it a shot.Agent-Zero

[QUOTE="Agent-Zero"]I think it's destiny man. Seriously. Give it a shot.Darthkaiser

AAAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!

*begins to freak out even more*

[QUOTE="cybrcatter"]

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

And of course the "OMG I AM GOING TO LOSE MY VIRGINITY! HELP!!!" thread.

entropyecho

Don't listen to him. You have vision. You went from seeing someone's profile on a dating website to sex in one step.

Clinton approves.

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"][QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

That just seems like it would kinf of come out of nowhere there...

It doesn't help that we haven't actually seen eachother in years, and I mentioned hanging out again at one point and nothing ever happened...

LostProphetFLCL

No no facebook.

We had been talking on there about Shutter Island. It came up that neither of us had seen it and I suggested that maybe we could go see it together as we hadn't seen eachother in forever...

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"] You mentioned it on the dating site or over the phone in real life?-Big_Red-

No no facebook.

We had been talking on there about Shutter Island. It came up that neither of us had seen it and I suggested that maybe we could go see it together as we hadn't seen eachother in forever...

Yeah...

I mentioned having the weekend off and she didn't respond...

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"][QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

No no facebook.

We had been talking on there about Shutter Island. It came up that neither of us had seen it and I suggested that maybe we could go see it together as we hadn't seen eachother in forever...

LostProphetFLCL

Yeah...

I mentioned having the weekend off and she didn't respond...

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"] And then what was her response? Silence?-Big_Red-

Yeah...

I mentioned having the weekend off and she didn't respond...

I probably should.

IDK if I should just jump straight to apologizing, or just casually message her like "OMG you're on here too?" though.

If you can't tell, this type of thing brings back those anxiety issues I have...

So let me get this straight...the girl you dumped a while ago is now on the same dating site as ya? Sorry, I couldn't seem to follow. :lol:

It must be nice to have really trivial worries in life.

Sorry, I mean no offense. Just....from reading the topic title it seemed like a dire situation. But....you're worried about being embarassed? Why would you be embarassed?

It must be nice to have really trivial worries in life.

Sorry, I mean no offense. Just....from reading the topic title it seemed like a dire situation. But....you're worried about being embarassed? Why would you be embarassed?

Pixel-Pirate

Because I am already known for my complete lack of a love life...

I am 22 and still a virgin here...

Oh and desulated, that is what happened yes.

[QUOTE="Pixel-Pirate"]

It must be nice to have really trivial worries in life.

Sorry, I mean no offense. Just....from reading the topic title it seemed like a dire situation. But....you're worried about being embarassed? Why would you be embarassed?

LostProphetFLCL

Because I am already known for my complete lack of a love life...

I am 22 and still a virgin here...

Oh and desulated, that is what happened yes.

Would you feel better if I said I was 24 and a virgin?

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

[QUOTE="Pixel-Pirate"]

It must be nice to have really trivial worries in life.

Sorry, I mean no offense. Just....from reading the topic title it seemed like a dire situation. But....you're worried about being embarassed? Why would you be embarassed?

Pixel-Pirate

Because I am already known for my complete lack of a love life...

I am 22 and still a virgin here...

Oh and desulated, that is what happened yes.

Would you feel better if I said I was 24 and a virgin?

No because now I feel sad for you too:cry: