How can I make more friends?

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#1 WolverineGS
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I have some friends but hardly any close friends maybe one. I guess I just have no social skills and never really become good friends with anyone I meet and it is starting to scare me. I am afraid I am going to be alone when I'm older so I want to develop social skills while I'm still in high school. Any suggestions?
Edit: I am really active and am in a lot of clubs.

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#2 solid_mario
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Go to a club of some sort. Pick up a new sport. You will meet loads of people there.
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#3 CleanPlayer
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Relax. Be Confident. Never Give Up on Yourself.

maybe play a sport, reach out of your comfort zone, and join a club. Meet as many people as you can.

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#4 branketra
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I guess just be yourself, but don't try to smother others...unless they're into that.

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#5 6_volts
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Make Voodoo dolls of the people you want to be your friends and force them to be your friends.
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#6 auron_16
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I have some friends but hardly any close friends maybe one. I guess I just have no social skills and never really become good friends with anyone I meet and it is starting to scare me. I am afraid I am going to be alone when I'm older so I want to develop social skills while I'm still in high school. Any suggestions?

WolverineGS

i'll add you to my friends list (see sig). :)

as for your problem, some people just like having fewer, yet closer friends, are you one of those kinds of people?

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#7 -TheSecondSign-
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Highschool friends are overrated.

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#8 Dark_Knight6
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I guess just be yourself, but don't try to smother others...unless they're into that.

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It's very important that you don't do this. My one friend is really cool and I like hanging out with him but he smothers me (always calls me, keeps me on the phone for a while, always has to sit where I am/ be where I am, do what I do). It starts to get very annoying.

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#9 solid_mario
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Since you have edited in my suggestion then it must be something to do with you. Are you immature, have poor hygiene, aggressive? Something like that?
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#10 lionheart1981oz
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You need to be more confident with yourself and enjoy life.

Visualise the power of positive thinking - go out there and be urself. If people dont like u, who cares move on. There are billions of people on this planet - theres bound to be someone that likes you. If not there is something wrong with u lol

nah jk mate :P

Throughout life you will find people will like/dislike you for all sorts of reasons and you shouldnt let that get you down.

As the saying goes you cant please everyone on this bloody planet - but hey take it easy ok and enjoy life.

Dont worry 2 much - ur still young. :)

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#11 Renegade_Fury
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Highschool friends are overrated.

-TheSecondSign-

What he said.

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#12 WolverineGS
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You need to be more confident with yourself and enjoy life.

Visualise the power of positive thinking - go out there and be urself. If people dont like u, who cares move on. There are billions of people on this planet - theres bound to be someone that likes you. If not there is something wrong with u lol

nah jk mate :P

Throughout life you will find people will like/dislike you for all sorts of reasons and you shouldnt let that get you down.

As the saying goes you cant please everyone on this bloody planet - but hey take it easy ok and enjoy life.

Dont worry 2 much - ur still young. :)

lionheart1981oz

Thanks :)

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#13 Travo_basic
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You're just gonna have to start initiating some chit chat with other folks.
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#14 branketra
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Oh yeah, random stuff helps.
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#15 GodLovesDead
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Just don't bother people. Seriously. I never make an effort to have friends yet I have dozens. I just relate to people. If you latch onto people, they'll distance themselves from you and will try to avoid you (even if it doesn't seem like it). Just think "Well, since I'm stuck here in class, I might as well be friendly". Don't be silent. But don't be too talkative. It's hard to explain.
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Be friendly. Be unique. Be funny.
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#18 R0cky_Racc00n
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Here's the only advice you need; take chances.
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#19 portej
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I have some friends but hardly any close friends maybe one. I guess I just have no social skills and never really become good friends with anyone I meet and it is starting to scare me. I am afraid I am going to be alone when I'm older so I want to develop social skills while I'm still in high school. Any suggestions?
Edit: I am really active and am in a lot of clubs.

WolverineGS

Smile more. You look much more friendly and approachable if you have a smile on your face. People are also subconsiciously drawn to people who are happy, so if you look like you are happy, people would be naturally inclined to want to meet you/talk to you. Since you are in school, you have a perfect opportunity to give this a try.

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#20 siinn
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Once you leave school you dont see them again anyway so i wouldnt worry

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#21 astiop
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Highschool friends are overrated.

-TheSecondSign-

This. When you get out of high school, it is the really good friends that you will/might still be seing (in most cases).

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#22 WolverineGS
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Once you leave school you dont see them again anyway so i wouldnt worry

siinn


Thats not the point I want to develop social skills for the future.
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#23 battlefront23
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[QUOTE="siinn"]

Once you leave school you dont see them again anyway so i wouldnt worry

WolverineGS



Thats not the point I want to develop social skills for the future.

How old are you?

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#24 WolverineGS
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[QUOTE="WolverineGS"][QUOTE="siinn"]

Once you leave school you dont see them again anyway so i wouldnt worry

battlefront23



Thats not the point I want to develop social skills for the future.

How old are you?


Junior

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#25 battlefront23
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WolverineGS

Oi, well I'm one as well and my social skills have sky-rocketed this year. Is it mainly girls you have social problems with or is it not necessarily anyone in particular?

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#26 WolverineGS
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[QUOTE="WolverineGS"]


Junior

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Oi, well I'm one as well and my social skills have sky-rocketed this year. Is it mainly girls you have social problems with or is it not necessarily anyone in particular?



Well I'm not shy or anything its just that I have a good amount of friends in school I just not close to any of them and never get invited to anything. And its not anyone particular.
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How practical any advice can be? How could anyone say/post something to you that it will directly interfere with your personality to the point where you can actually change? How many of these advices are new information? Be friendly, smile more, got at some club etc...

I take you already knew all of those stuff.

I will also assume that nothing said here is powerful enough to change you objectively. I mean, do you really imagine waking up the next day and be prepared to face life and this social problem with a complete different way? I think you would fall into old habits and see yourself more distant from the idea that you can get away this shyness simply by try to implement a few things that you "know" or lessons that others have taught you. Knowledge doesn't have any practical use in social activity, especially if you are using to fight objectively.

In a subject way, knowledge is all you need, because it will lead you to understand everything around you. And you will see that social activity is in fact, something that is really trivial, and easy to handle. You should use it to see you shouldn't really care

and that is when you will lose your fear, at least, from this problem

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#28 battlefront23
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Well I'm not shy or anything its just that I have a good amount of friends in school I just not close to any of them and never get invited to anything. And its not anyone particular.WolverineGS

Do you know why? Are you annoying? Are they shallow friends?

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#29 astiop
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Observe someone social, try to act accordingly while still maintaining your own charachter. Or observe a group of people, find out more about their character, and chose your next step.

I had the luxury of leaving my country and all my friends behind and meeting new ones at age 8, 10, 12 and once more at 14 and ive remained in the same country from 14-19. It's hard at first, but after a while you start being able to tell what a person is roughly like after having a conversation with them.

Observe their movements, their facial expretions, the way they speak, everything. To me making friends is not about being social, it's about knowing who you want to be friends with (to me, anyway). After you are comfortable arround someone, it's easier to be more open arround them.

The only downside ive had with this aproach is that I find it hard to get attached to anyone. I have plenty of "friends" but I only love 2 of them.

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#30 Tjeremiah1988
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do you have a big nose?
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#31 Tjeremiah1988
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[QUOTE="battlefront23"][QUOTE="WolverineGS"]


Junior

WolverineGS

Oi, well I'm one as well and my social skills have sky-rocketed this year. Is it mainly girls you have social problems with or is it not necessarily anyone in particular?



Well I'm not shy or anything its just that I have a good amount of friends in school I just not close to any of them and never get invited to anything. And its not anyone particular.

this is why http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ukrNYpwpAqE

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#32 WolverineGS
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Thanks guys
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#33 SandvichParty
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Try using Intense Training and put an extra point into Charisma.

Might solve your problem.

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#34 branketra
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QUOTE]

this is why http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ukrNYpwpAqE

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I think those guys who hate others are just 5:23

The truth