How do I get over something and learn to forgive others??

Well I have had problems forgiving others, and I have never forgave anyone actually..

The people who used to bully me a long time ago, I still remember their names, I remember what they exactly look like and I remember what they said to me.
People have threatened me on the internet a few years ago, and I still can't get over it..

I am starting to really get frustrated, all the time I think about getting revenge and I have horrible anger now.
All those years of thinking of what those rude people have said to me, has made me extremely angry and very violent.

Is there anyway to stop thinking about these people and just get over it?
I am starting to worry because I feel like I may do something stupid someday, so please help me OT.
This is the best place I can go for advise, if I told any people this in real life they would think I am crazy, and they wouldn't want to see me.

I can give an answer but I'm not sure how you'd like it. A way I've learned to forgive others is experience forgiveness myself. I'm talking about forgiveness from God. What we do to others is in now way comparable to what we've done to God.

He created us and continually seeks us as stated in Isaiah 65. He deserves nothing but our praise. What we do, however, is sin which is a spit in his face. We can seek forgiveness from that thank goodness through the person of Jesus Christ.

Once we have obtained the forgiveness of so great a dept then our own ability of forgiving others should drastically improve. If not, then I'd recommend you reexamine your faith...

Finding a good outlet for your anger/rage/resentment/etc is my best advice. Preferably something that will get your heart pumping, your body sweating, etc.

You'll be in awesome shape and you'll find the release of energy and endorphines will just make you a happier/better person.

Ofcourse the first step in all of this (which you have taken) is knowing that there is a problem and that you want to fix it. Congrats on that.

Good luck!

I have a similar issue of constantly thinking about violence. If you can help it then I don't think you should dwell on what happened on the internet because that happens all the time and the people who make threats online are almost always the same people who wouldn't do anything in real life if they saw you.

If it's really serious then go see a doctor.

wtf man this is like the 10th thread youve made about being bullied... :?

maybe you can find the guys that bullied you and talk to them about it? or go to a therapist... i dont think anyone here is qualified to give proper advice on the subject.

I can give an answer but I'm not sure how you'd like it. A way I've learned to forgive others is experience forgiveness myself. I'm talking about forgiveness from God. What we do to others is in now way comparable to what we've done to God.

He created us and continually seeks us as stated in Isaiah 65. He deserves nothing but our praise. What we do, however, is sin which is a spit in his face. We can seek forgiveness from that thank goodness through the person of Jesus Christ.

Once we have obtained the forgiveness of so great a dept then our own ability of forgiving others should drastically improve. If not, then I'd recommend you reexamine your faith...

mindstorm

I hate it when people think god is the only way for people to do something good, one can find kindness and the power to forgive others within his/her own self, you know? You don't have to rely on god for every little good deed you wish to do...

I'm not flaming you, I'm not angry, it just kind of gets on my nerves when it's stated or implied the only way for anyone to be good or moral is through a higher power. Sorry about that. :P

To the TC: well, I can't really tell you how to do this step by step or anything, I hardly think there's a guide for this out there, but as for me, I learned to forgive and get over past grudges simply by thinking about it and realising no good could possibly come from it, and all that anger was only harming me. Sure someone is bound to hurt you sooner or later, it's inevitable, but just realising it was pointless holding grudges against people and it was just better for everyone, but specially for me, to just accept this fact, forgive them and move on with my life was enough for me to stop being angry and vengeful.

I guess all I can say is you've got to search within yourself and find a reason to forgive and move on.

I can give an answer but I'm not sure how you'd like it. A way I've learned to forgive others is experience forgiveness myself. I'm talking about forgiveness from God. What we do to others is in now way comparable to what we've done to God.

He created us and continually seeks us as stated in Isaiah 65. He deserves nothing but our praise. What we do, however, is sin which is a spit in his face. We can seek forgiveness from that thank goodness through the person of Jesus Christ.

Once we have obtained the forgiveness of so great a dept then our own ability of forgiving others should drastically improve. If not, then I'd recommend you reexamine your faith...

mindstorm

I do want to have forgiveness from God, but he probably wouldn't forgive me.

I wish God could help me to forgive others, I just feel so much hate for some people, thats what makes it so hard to forgive them.
I just hate them so much, so I always feel like I want revenge, but I know revenge is not the answer.

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I can give an answer but I'm not sure how you'd like it. A way I've learned to forgive others is experience forgiveness myself. I'm talking about forgiveness from God. What we do to others is in now way comparable to what we've done to God.

He created us and continually seeks us as stated in Isaiah 65. He deserves nothing but our praise. What we do, however, is sin which is a spit in his face. We can seek forgiveness from that thank goodness through the person of Jesus Christ.

Once we have obtained the forgiveness of so great a dept then our own ability of forgiving others should drastically improve. If not, then I'd recommend you reexamine your faith...

joshrocks2245

I do want to have forgiveness from God, but he probably wouldn't forgive me.

I wish God could help me to forgive others, I just feel so much hate for some people, thats what makes it so hard to forgive them.
I just hate them so much, so I always feel like I want revenge, but I know revenge is not the answer.

If you're christian then you should know god forgives all mistakes, no matter how great you think they are, and the only way god can help you to forgive is if you actually make an effort to move on and let go of your grudges, god won't do everything for you...

Finding a good outlet for your anger/rage/resentment/etc is my best advice. Preferably something that will get your heart pumping, your body sweating, etc.

You'll be in awesome shape and you'll find the release of energy and endorphines will just make you a happier/better person.

Ofcourse the first step in all of this (which you have taken) is knowing that there is a problem and that you want to fix it. Congrats on that.

Good luck!

Sajedene

I should probably find something to do with my time, since I don't really do much.

But then when I go out and get a job, then I will just make more enemies..

I probably should work out, so that way if I make more enemies then I can take it out on a punching bag :P

Thanks for the advise :)

You should probably get some help. Feeling such resentment for people from years and years ago is not very good, sure its okay to reminise about old times once in a while, but you shouldnt have feelings of revenge, and be worried about possibly doing something stupid in the future.

(I'm not purposely trying to be mean, or demeaning, but... I mean how can you be still upset at people you don't see oftern (if at all) anymore?)

Of course, if your in highschool, and your talking about bullies from elementary school, who you probably see every day or so in highschool, then your feelings of frustration and anger are quite normal. As long as you aren't thinking of getting any kind of revenge or harming anyone.

If your having thoughts of physically harming people, you need to consult a psychiatrist immediately.

At least your admitting you have a problem, thats a start.