When someone is rude to you, do you call them out or keep silent ?
depends on to what degree. I am a pretty easy going guy, a little too easy going actually, I can put up with a lot.
But if the person is really rude, like actively trying to give me or someone around me a hard time, I'll tell them to chill out or ask them why they're being such a dick.
Usually when people are being rude, they really don't have any idea they are acting that way; it's silly but just asking them "hey is everything OK? you're acting strange" or phrasing it in a neutral way is a good way to bring it up.
First response is usually a firm and boisterous "Umm...excuse me?" while looking them in the eye. I want them to know this isn't going away without an apology. If they don't apologize or if they say something else I will escalate the matter. Whether that means telling them off right there in front of everybody or straight-up running them off depends on the situation and where we are.
God forbid if you're an employee somewhere who pisses me off. I'll not just tell the manager, I'll drag him to you and confront you in front of him, and in addition I will ask for the corporate number and we'll have ourselves a multi-party conversation right there, and you'd better believe I'm walking away with something and you a little less.
Depends. What are some examples of rudeness are we talking about? Like one of the guys above said, they may not be aware they're being rude.
If it seems unintentional, I let it go.
But, if someone went out his way to inconvenience us on purpose, I'll have something to say. Back in early February 2009, we were at the mall in Syracuse, NY. As we went to get in line at the food court, a black guy blocked the path of my wife and kids. They tried to go around him. But, he again cut them off. So, I went up and shoved my way past him. We he turned around to face me, I stared back and asked pointblank, "You got a F-ing problem?" He just stared at me and moved off. I hate assholes.
Depends on the situation. Some people are better off left alone. Escalating the situation to prove a point. Rarely accomplishes anything worthwhile. And takes up time/energy, that can be better used elsewhere.
Smiling and having a bit of a laugh, are some good ways to control your temper. Now if its someone close to you. Then private communication is best to settle issues. Before they built up and become a bigger issue.
I don't care most of the time,but if someone is deliberately being an asswhole then I will be rude back.
I don't really care that much. I rarely encounter rudeness except from people I know well. Sometimes I can't even recognize if someone's trying to be an ass to me because I'm a pretty optimistic guy (I'll just assume they're having a bad day). Also I have a tendency to be rude occassionally so I think everyone should be tolerable of a little rudeness here and there.
You don't want things to escalate. I usually don't do anything too hasty. Sleep on it first and try to be the better person. I know it's tough. And I'm not saying you should always let them get away with it. Hey, you're human. If it is something that will eat you up on the inside, it's fine to speak your mind. But if you can do that while staying classy, it'll only feel better in the end.
If it was particularly nasty, do some investigating in the long run to see if it was incidental. Keep in mind the person may have big issues that make him/her uncontrollably cranky. We're all fighting our own fights. If you do anything, it should be to better the situation as a whole, not just to watch it all burn. Sometimes that even means doing something nice to that person instead of something nasty. Not as a 'reward' for doing something bad, but it goes much deeper than that. Ultimately, your goal is to make the best of things, and these situations can make you lose your focus on that. Actually, if you find the root of the issue it is probably something that requires some luv, is my experience.
It's much easier to type this than to do it. Still that would be my advice.
depends on to what degree. I am a pretty easy going guy, a little too easy going actually, I can put up with a lot.
But if the person is really rude, like actively trying to give me or someone around me a hard time, I'll tell them to chill out or ask them why they're being such a dick.
Usually when people are being rude, they really don't have any idea they are acting that way; it's silly but just asking them "hey is everything OK? you're acting strange" or phrasing it in a neutral way is a good way to bring it up.
In all these years seeing you on OT,PC Board, SW. For life of me never seen you being rude to anyone. Seems you are too nice of a person :)
In most cases, rudeness can be diffused by a little diplomacy. But, there are instances when you already sized up the situation and the only way out is to respond in kind.
In my situation earlier, no normal people would have accosted my wife and kids the way that guy did. He clearly was looking for a reaction and he got it. It never happened before and it hasn't happened again since.
It's probably more a case of potential bullying than rudeness. But, sometimes, it's hard to differentiate between the two.
Almost got in a fist fight a month ago because they were rude but we left and think that was best. I'm sexist though with women if she rude I may play with those feelings. Mean girls are sexy.
Depends on the type of rudeness. I'd either give a "Da fucks your problem?" look, raise an eyebrow/shrug a shoulder then move away, flat out ignore them, or if they really crossing boundaries, say a few choice word to them while explaining how they're dickheads....
I don't wait a second before getting into a fist fight because if you're bad, I'm worse -- but always for the right reasons. But that's just me and my stupid idea of standing up for myself. Don't follow it.
I don't wait a second before getting into a fist fight because if you're bad, I'm worse -- but always for the right reasons. But that's just me and my stupid idea of standing up for myself. Don't follow it.
Somehow I don't believe you. If you were telling the truth, I think you'd either be dead or in prison by now.
I don't really care that much. I rarely encounter rudeness except from people I know well. Sometimes I can't even recognize if someone's trying to be an ass to me because I'm a pretty optimistic guy (I'll just assume they're having a bad day). Also I have a tendency to be rude occassionally so I think everyone should be tolerable of a little rudeness here and there.
Being rude when you don't mean to. I've been that several times. So yeah I'll just take it silently. Unless someone is consistently rude over time, I don't bother with it.
I don't wait a second before getting into a fist fight because if you're bad, I'm worse -- but always for the right reasons. But that's just me and my stupid idea of standing up for myself. Don't follow it.
Somehow I don't believe you. If you were telling the truth, I think you'd either be dead or in prison by now.
Consider these:
1. I don't go out often, and if I do, I prefer to remain silent and not get into a conversation with anyone.
2. I steer clear of stupid people as much as I can.
3. I have minimal contact even with my own friends.
Majority of those fights happened in my school life, so those were nothing serious. The other fights were in public and I was always, sort of, justified in instigating it so the bystanders always took my side, and nothing happened again. Overall, those 3 reasons I listed reduce me to about only 1 or 2 encounters with strangers per week. How likely is it that these strangers will be rude, or I'll find myself with them in a heated up situation?
@jun_aka_pekto: " So, I went up and shoved my way past him. "
How rude.
I was hungry. Nobody gets between me and my food. ;) Plus, singling out my wife n kids? That's a big no-no. There's no bigger provocation. If it was me he targeted first, I might've tried to reason things out. But, my family? I saw red. I'm an asshole when I'm pissed off....which is why I try to avoid getting angry.
I don't wait a second before getting into a fist fight because if you're bad, I'm worse -- but always for the right reasons. But that's just me and my stupid idea of standing up for myself. Don't follow it.
Thank you for adding the last line :D
I don't wait a second before getting into a fist fight because if you're bad, I'm worse -- but always for the right reasons. But that's just me and my stupid idea of standing up for myself. Don't follow it.
Thank you for adding the last line :D
I just wanted to render my answer a non-answer because it's more fun when you engage people for some time and then suddenly reveal they wasted their time.
Most of the time rudeness is simply the result of someone being inconsiderate, with strangers I tend to ignore those. Don't have the time or inclination to teach those people what they should have learned from their parents. If it's a coworker or a friend, then I will bring it up and discuss the source of the behavior.
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