[QUOTE="r11011b"]Square one? I'd start with talking to her. Definitely a good strategy. what kind of approach? and what in general is there to talk about?
[QUOTE="aeminjnb2006"][QUOTE="r11011b"]Square one? I'd start with talking to her. Definitely a good strategy. what kind of approach? and what in general is there to talk about?
Who cares? The important thing here is to open up communications, soldier!
But don't be creepy. Don't tell her she smells nice ("You've been smelling me?!) or try too hard to get her attention ("..."). Subtly is key. Just find out what she likes, and don't be shy about speaking with her. Even if she totally rejects you to the point where you cry yourself to sleep every night for the next twenty years, I figure a girl at least respects a guy who takes chances.
[QUOTE="r11011b"][QUOTE="aeminjnb2006"][QUOTE="r11011b"]Square one? I'd start with talking to her. Definitely a good strategy. what kind of approach? and what in general is there to talk about?
Who cares? The important thing here is to open up communications, soldier!
But don't be creepy. Don't tell her she smells nice ("You've been smelling me?!) or try too hard to get her attention ("..."). Subtly is key. Just find out what she likes, and don't be shy about speaking with her. Even if she totally rejects you to the point where you cry yourself to sleep every night for the next twenty years, I figure a girl at least respects a guy who takes chances. lol. i'm jus really scared..i usually don't talk to girls unless they talk to me first. after the usual, "hi"..there really doesn't seem like anything else which leads to an awkward silence..
[QUOTE="aeminjnb2006"] lol. i'm jus really scared..i usually don't talk to girls unless they talk to me first. after the usual, "hi"..there really doesn't seem like anything else which leads to an awkward silence.. Ah, the awkward silence. Like this: --- "Hey there, [insert name]. You want to go out?" "With who?" *awkward silence* --- I've come up against the same problem you're facing, and I'm trying to remember how it played out. Basically, you take any chance you can get, let the girl know you're interested. Become a little more extroverted. Talk about that last test and how much it sucked or any other nonsense small talk that you really don't care about. Again, the main point is to establish some kind of communication, which [hopefully] leads to some kind of friendship. And from that point it's simple. Also...and I must be bored to be typing this much...you have to realize that throughout life you're going to face some tough situations, and that these little things that you feel nervous about won't hold a candle to the problems you'll most likely face in the future. So keep that in mind, and understand that you should be glad that the only thing you're worrying about right now is how best to go about talking to a girl you like. ...just thought that might put it into perspective for ya. ;)
[QUOTE="r11011b"][QUOTE="aeminjnb2006"] lol. i'm jus really scared..i usually don't talk to girls unless they talk to me first. after the usual, "hi"..there really doesn't seem like anything else which leads to an awkward silence.. Ah, the awkward silence. Like this: --- "Hey there, [insert name]. You want to go out?" "With who?" *awkward silence* --- I've come up against the same problem you're facing, and I'm trying to remember how it played out. Basically, you take any chance you can get, let the girl know you're interested. Become a little more extroverted. Talk about that last test and how much it sucked or any other nonsense small talk that you really don't care about. Again, the main point is to establish some kind of communication, which [hopefully] leads to some kind of friendship. And from that point it's simple. Also...and I must be bored to be typing this much...you have to realize that throughout life you're going to face some tough situations, and that these little things that you feel nervous about won't hold a candle to the problems you'll most likely face in the future. So keep that in mind, and understand that you should be glad that the only thing you're worrying about right now is how best to go about talking to a girl you like. ...just thought that might put it into perspective for ya. ;) thanks man, ur the only one that helped me out on this thread
Here is how it does. Here is the first thing you should say: You: Hey. I'm (insert name) Her: Hi, I'm (insert name) You: Well then (her name), you want a loose **** hole?
don't ask her out until you meet her at least twice out of school. Praps see a film, play a sport together. Not beforeGenTom
what if youve known her for 4 years....been to her house multiple times.....met and talked to her parents multiple times....are friends with her older sister....and talk to her on a daily basis....is that good enough to warrant an ask out?
in my situation(i'm topic creator), i've known this girl since the beginning of the second semester(it began jan 29)..i recently added her on myspaceand i have two classes with her. she says hi to me every so often and i say hi back..but there is really nothing else to say in imo..so this is where i need help. i don't want to be remember to her as jus that guy that sat in front on her, if even remembered.
in my situation(i'm topic creator), i've known this girl since the beginning of the second semester(it began jan 29)..i recently added her on myspaceand i have two classes with her. she says hi to me every so often and i say hi back..but there is really nothing else to say in imo..so this is where i need help. i don't want to be remember to her as jus that guy that sat in front on her, if even remembered.aeminjnb2006
I don't know how far this advice would get you...but don't rely too much on the Internet to communicate with her. I mean, anyone can add her on My Space (correct me if I'm wrong here), and instant messaging/e-mails are so impersonal that I cannot recommend it to someone in your situation. You just need to muster up something to say after "Hi." Like, "How's it going?" or "What're you doing this weekend?"
[QUOTE="aeminjnb2006"]in my situation(i'm topic creator), i've known this girl since the beginning of the second semester(it began jan 29)..i recently added her on myspaceand i have two classes with her. she says hi to me every so often and i say hi back..but there is really nothing else to say in imo..so this is where i need help. i don't want to be remember to her as jus that guy that sat in front on her, if even remembered.r11011b
I don't know how far this advice would get you...but don't rely too much on the Internet to communicate with her. I mean, anyone can add her on My Space (correct me if I'm wrong here), and instant messaging/e-mails are so impersonal that I cannot recommend it to someone in your situation. You just need to muster up something to say after "Hi." Like, "How's it going?" or "What're you doing this weekend?" it jus i get nervous when i'm around people i like..i jus want ot say hi and run away from the classroom/hallway. talking to people on myspace helped me get to kno people a bit better, but iono about here. even though i was pretty popular in my old school(i'm a freshmen now), i have always had these kinds of problems
To look in her general direction is a good start, but I recommend doing more than that. We can say 100 stuff to do, but it's all up to your own guts to start a conversation.
To look in her general direction is a good start, but I recommend doing more than that. We can say 100 stuff to do, but it's all up to your own guts to start a conversation.TheTerribleFish
staring scares girls who jus want u to stop looking at them, wanna list a couple of things to do..or break the ice?
[QUOTE="Articuno76"]Just talk and make friends, but ask her out or for her number/IM before you end up being real friends (normally 2-7 days).
As for what approach...how do you normally talk or approach people? In fact don't answer that, you'll end up falling into the forbidden>aeminjnb2006
well, for members of the opposite sex, i don't make the first move if that is what ur thinking. i wait for them to say hi or whatever, first. All you need is a smile and a hello every time, or every other time you see her, she know what's up, and if she doesn't reciprocate at all then you don't have a chance. Some people will never like you like that, no matter what, but if you have a chance you'll see some reciprocation.
[QUOTE="TheTerribleFish"]To look in her general direction is a good start, but I recommend doing more than that. We can say 100 stuff to do, but it's all up to your own guts to start a conversation.aeminjnb2006
staring scares girls who jus want u to stop looking at them, wanna list a couple of things to do..or break the ice? Throw her stuff to the ground. Then, when she goes to pick it up, slap her on the ass. Girls love that.
[QUOTE="aeminjnb2006"][QUOTE="TheTerribleFish"]To look in her general direction is a good start, but I recommend doing more than that. We can say 100 stuff to do, but it's all up to your own guts to start a conversation.southy787
staring scares girls who jus want u to stop looking at them, wanna list a couple of things to do..or break the ice? Throw her stuff to the ground. Then, when she goes to pick it up, slap her on the ass. Girls love that. lmao
[QUOTE="Articuno76"]Just talk and make friends, but ask her out or for her number/IM before you end up being real friends (normally 2-7 days).
As for what approach...how do you normally talk or approach people? In fact don't answer that, you'll end up falling into the forbidden>aeminjnb2006
well, for members of the opposite sex, i don't make the first move if that is what ur thinking. i wait for them to say hi or whatever, first.
Then maybe you should make the first move? You can't sit around forever waiting for someone else to make the first move, then complain that nothing's happening!
Just ask her about herself. Anything. It doesn't really matter. People like to talk about themselves, and feel that someone is listening and cares about what they are saying.
And if you're not capable of holding a conversation with her, why do you think you should be dating her anyway!?
[QUOTE="aeminjnb2006"][QUOTE="TheTerribleFish"]To look in her general direction is a good start, but I recommend doing more than that. We can say 100 stuff to do, but it's all up to your own guts to start a conversation.southy787
staring scares girls who jus want u to stop looking at them, wanna list a couple of things to do..or break the ice? Throw her stuff to the ground. Then, when she goes to pick it up, slap her on the ass. Girls love that. HAHA ! Nice tip dude:D
[QUOTE="aeminjnb2006"][QUOTE="Articuno76"]Just talk and make friends, but ask her out or for her number/IM before you end up being real friends (normally 2-7 days).
As for what approach...how do you normally talk or approach people? In fact don't answer that, you'll end up falling into the forbidden>Snomel
well, for members of the opposite sex, i don't make the first move if that is what ur thinking. i wait for them to say hi or whatever, first.
Then maybe you should make the first move? You can't sit around forever waiting for someone else to make the first move, then complain that nothing's happening!
Just ask her about herself. Anything. It doesn't really matter. People like to talk about themselves, and feel that someone is listening and cares about what they are saying.
And if you're not capable of holding a conversation with her, why do you think you should be dating her anyway!?
oh, and another question..to get to kno someone, u need time. the only real time we can talk(about anything) is jus before class starts..what should i do then?
oh, and another question..to get to kno someone, u need time. the only real time we can talk(about anything) is jus before class starts..what should i do then?aeminjnb2006
Um.... ask her if she wants to meet up after school or something? Then you'll have all the time in the world to talk.
[QUOTE="aeminjnb2006"]oh, and another question..to get to kno someone, u need time. the only real time we can talk(about anything) is jus before class starts..what should i do then?Snomel
Um.... ask her if she wants to meet up after school or something? Then you'll have all the time in the world to talk.
..and if they barely kno u at all, doesn't it seem kinda weird?
[QUOTE="foxhound_fox"]Going up to her. Saying "hi." Asking questions about who she is and what she enjoys. And then asking her out on a date.
Simple. Effective. Just do it. aeminjnb2006
i will get shot down if i say that. i can't live through rejection. as u can notice, i'm 14 and never had a girl friend Then don't try, it's simple, you have to be in the game to win it. If you get rejected it probably has more to do with some issues she has than you anyway, her loss, not yours, plenty more fish in the sea.
i will get shot down if i say that. i can't live through rejection. as u can notice, i'm 14 and never had a girl friendaeminjnb2006
Well... you are going to have to be able to if you want to get anywhere with anyone. I am 20 and never had a gf... I have never even kissed or danced with one... you want to know why? Because I was scared of being rejected and had no confidence in speaking to members of the opposite sex about things like that.
Do you want to spend the next 6 years of your life alone? If not... just ****ing do something about it! You are not going to gain confidence without attempting to learn things. You have to learn what works for you and what does not. I made the mistake of thinking it would just drop out of the sky... just do it. You will thank me later.
[QUOTE="aeminjnb2006"]i will get shot down if i say that. i can't live through rejection. as u can notice, i'm 14 and never had a girl friendfoxhound_fox
Well... you are going to have to be able to if you want to get anywhere with anyone. I am 20 and never had a gf... I have never even kissed or danced with one... you want to know why? Because I was scared of being rejected and had no confidence in speaking to members of the opposite sex about things like that.
Do you want to spend the next 6 years of your life alone? If not... just ****ing do something about it! You are not going to gain confidence without attempting to learn things. You have to learn what works for you and what does not. I made the mistake of thinking it would just drop out of the sky... just do it. You will thank me later. encouraging words, thanks
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