How many times to be blown off before you tell your friend to F off?

I'm getting rather irritated right now. I got a friend, who obviously has a busy life what with raising a daughter and a part time job, so I try to be patient. But I'm always being patient, and my patience can only be worn so thin. The thing is, she NEVER ever bothers to go out of HER way to offer to do something. Before she got pregnant, we did stuff all the time, and that's cool and what not. I understand she can't drop things just because I want to play a game with her or watch a movie. But now, it's like she's using that as an excuse to not do things with me anymore. I know all single mothers aren't like that.

They know these awesome people called babysitters... Anyway, this is what happens... After waiting days, even weeks for her to offer to do something, I'll ask her. Then she'll say, "Ok, that sounds cool. Let's do that." Then two things will always happen. Either she'll use the, "I've had such a bad day and now I don't feel like doing anything" excuse or she'll just flatout not respond to me anymore. OR, she'll try to say, "I GUESS we could do that, but I"m not really interested that much in it" and then I suggest something else, and she ignores me.

Am I overreacting? Consider that it's been at least a couple of months since we got together, and that I only bother to ask one or twice a week.

how old is the daughter?

raising a child can take up a lot of time that used to be free. especially if she is a baby.

sometimes people just want to be left alone, even if it was your best friend

sometimes people just want to be left alone, even if it was your best friend

LegitGamer3212

I agree with this completely. I like having "me" time. A lot.

Also, sometimes I just get so sick of my friends that I make up excuses and try to avoid them.

how old is the daughter?

raising a child can take up a lot of time that used to be free. especially if she is a baby.

Zorgax

If she doesn't wanna hang, she doesn't wanna hang. She'll seek you out when she does.

I say you give her time. Taking care of a kid is very stressfull, and the little free time you have is a slice of paradise.

I say leave the ball in her court. Let her know it's up to her. If she makes no effort then it's no skin off your back.

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sometimes people just want to be left alone, even if it was your best friend

Mega-Mustaine

I agree with this completely. I like having "me" time. A lot.

Also, sometimes I just get so sick of my friends that I make up excuses and try to avoid them.

yeah it's like sometimes you just don't want to watch a movie, or drink, however, you get calls about going. you just make up excuses like, i'm doing homework and whatnot

If she doesn't wanna hang, she doesn't wanna hang. She'll seek you out when she does.

I say you give her time. Taking care of a kid is very stressfull, and the little free time you have is a slice of paradise.

jerk-o-tron2000

I say leave the ball in her court. Let her know it's up to her. If she makes no effort then it's no skin off your back.

DigitalExile

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If she doesn't wanna hang, she doesn't wanna hang. She'll seek you out when she does.

I say you give her time. Taking care of a kid is very stressfull, and the little free time you have is a slice of paradise.

Imagi9ation

I say leave the ball in her court. Let her know it's up to her. If she makes no effort then it's no skin off your back.

DigitalExile

That's the thing.. I don't think she will.. I miss her a lot. I guess I just have to move on..

There's your answer, bud......Odds are that you would have driffed appart anyway.

My guess is that her priorities have just changed. Hanging out just isn't very high up there anymore. It is possible that she doesn't want to lose you as a friend, so she agrees to hang out with you, but in reality she doesn't feel like it. Or even that she has no desire to hang out with you, but doesn't want to make you feel bad.

And babysitters, babysitters often cost money, unless she has family or someone that can watch them.

I would just leave her alone. If she wants to hang out with you, she'll contact you. If not, move on. I know it might be hard, but try to make some new friends.

There's your answer, bud......Odds are that you would have driffed appart anyway.

jerk-o-tron2000

My guess is that her priorities have just changed. Hanging out just isn't very high up there anymore. It is possible that she doesn't want to lose you as a friend, so she agrees to hang out with you, but in reality she doesn't feel like it. Or even that she has no desire to hang out with you, but doesn't want to make you feel bad.

And babysitters, babysitters often cost money, unless she has family or someone that can watch them.

I would just leave her alone. If she wants to hang out with you, she'll contact you. If not, move on. I know it might be hard, but try to make some new friends.

CammiTac

Have you told her it's becoming an issue? A lot of the times if you don't speak up, the other person assumes everything is fine and fails to see what is bothering others.

Have you told her it's becoming an issue? A lot of the times if you don't speak up, the other person assumes everything is fine and fails to see what is bothering others.

Suzy_Q_Kazoo

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Have you told her it's becoming an issue? A lot of the times if you don't speak up, the other person assumes everything is fine and fails to see what is bothering others.

Imagi9ation

I think 2 years is too young for a babysitter. She obviously has different priorities with the baby, and watching movies/playing videogames is not how she feels she should be spending her spare time (which she likely doesn't have). Why not try and involve the baby in your plans, offer to go get lunch or something to catch up.

Then take it as a hint to move on. Like I said, if she doesn't want to take action then she can lose you, don't let it get to a point where you have to lower yourself and beg her to hang out and then just have her constantly say no.

DigitalExile

Then take it as a hint to move on. Like I said, if she doesn't want to take action then she can lose you, don't let it get to a point where you have to lower yourself and beg her to hang out and then just have her constantly say no.

DigitalExile