How to communicate to a girl after the first date?

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#1 -AlbertC
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So I went out with this girl today that I met about a week ago for the first time. I took her to a restaurant and the date overall went pretty well. We talked a lot and there were very little awkward conversations plus we have a lot in common. I dropped her off and of course walked her to her door. I said my farewells right after dinner because she had a lot of homework to do and I have a night class I needed to get to.

Anyways here is the thing. What do I do now? I mean do I text her tonight or wait until tomorrow or wait for her to try to get in touch with me or what? And when we do talk, what am I supposed to talk to her about? Do I automatically ask her out on a second date or just make casual conversation first and then ask her out? I mean this may not sound like such a hard problem but put yourself in my position and it gets kind of tough. I just don't want to make the wrong move to screw up something I might have.

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1.) Don't text her tonight!
2.) wait a day or two, if she texts you before that then thats fine just start having a conversation with her
3.) Start a conversation up and then ask her out. Maybe you will be talking about movies that interest you, and then ask her if she wants to go see the new movie thats coming out.....

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#3 RGDT021
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Casual conversation at first. Mention you had a great time time the other night and would love to do it again some time. See what she responds with and go from there.

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#4 aRE-you-AFraid
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Wait until tomorrow to ask her something funny, like if the food made her sick. And then if a conversation develops out of that, ask her if she'd like to go on another date with you this weekend. And for Pete's sake, do something original. I have been going on dates with this girl recently and we went tree climbing, to investigate a haunted siting, and then putt putt in the pouring rain. This weekend I'm showing her how to go free running. I'm telling you bro, girls like to go on dates that are fun and a little out of their comfort zone in a new and fun way. Feel free to use my ideas if you'd like.
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#5 XaosII
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What do I do now? -AlbertC

Well it sounds like you want to see her again, so aim for that.

I mean do I text her tonight or wait until tomorrow or wait for her to try to get in touch with me or what? -AlbertC

If you're interested in her why wait? Do it tomorrow at the very latest.

And when we do talk, what am I supposed to talk to her about? -AlbertC

If you had alot to talk about during your date, then i dont think it would be too difficult to come up with what to say. Reference or expand upon a previous point made - preferably one she made - and take it from there.

Do I automatically ask her out on a second date or just make casual conversation first and then ask her out? -AlbertC

In my opinion, one of the last things that should have been said before you dropped her off woulda been "I really enjoyed this night; when can we do this again?" and make defnite plans to meet, though not necessarily the specific time and date.

Personally, i'd just text her or tell that exactly. I wouldn't even bother with the small talk. Its very direct and to the point and it shows definite interest in your part as opposed to casual talk and then asking, which might just be masking your nervousness. Some girls might like that though.

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Casual conversation at first. Mention you had a great time time the other night and would love to do it again some time. See what she responds with and go from there.

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this.off topic: man,i can't stop looking at your avatar,i don't know where do you get these,but it's perfect!
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#7 Vader993
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touch her shoulder rule 101 asking dating tips from gamespot

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#8 XilePrincess
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Text or call her whenever the hell you feel like it, don't go by any stupid rules. say "hey I really enjoyed last night/whatever day of the week night it was, want to do it again sometime?". If you really liked her its better to ask sooner rather than later. It baffles girls as to why guys say they like us so much, yet don't bother to call for a week to ask for another date. Makes us wonder if there's somebody else and we're the second choice, or if you're just too stupid to figure out how to work a phone.
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#10 -AlbertC
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Dude, I'm not going to lie. You guys seriously give the best advice. And the best thing is that it comes with suggestions. Gamespot might be a gaming site but the advice given in off topic is probably one of the best and given very fast