I can't take it, its tearing me apart (religious friends vs not religious me)

Around 2006-2007 (a couple years before I was out of high-school), I gave myself closure, and just stopped believing in Christianity. I did not force myself, nor did I do it to be rebellious. I simply came to my own conclusion, and stopped believing; it just didn't do anything for me anymore. My life was indifferent with or without it.

Now fast forward several years later...I still have the same views. But the problem is, I'm not a very vocal person, and I like to avoid conflict and argument.

I have met so many good people these past couple of years, but life has a funny way of kicking you in the ass...most of these people I've made friends with are CHRISTIANS, the rare breed that actually believes, and practices....

CAN SOMEBODY HELP ME, and give me some advice?. I have to pretend...and its tearing me apart, not so much that I don't agree with them, but that I have to pretend...my friend just now (who dropped me off from badminton) was telling me how God was becoming a bigger part in his life, and how his life was becoming clearer....

Anybody in the same situation?

it's simple. stop pretending. if your friends are actually friends, they will understand.

If they can't accept your difference in beliefs, then they are probably not a good bunch of friends. Stop lying to them and yourselfchaoscougar1

I went to a private Christian school, imagine how I felt. Don't pretend you're a Christian, that's disingenuous. Tell them how you really feel, and if they don't like it they can get bent. imaps3fanboy

so did I (for a time). I'm not a believer but they understood that.

I also topped the religious education class, lol

If they can't accept your difference in beliefs, then they are probably not a good bunch of friends. Stop lying to them and yourselfchaoscougar1

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]If they can't accept your difference in beliefs, then they are probably not a good bunch of friends. Stop lying to them and yourselflonewolf604

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]If they can't accept your difference in beliefs, then they are probably not a good bunch of friends. Stop lying to them and yourselflonewolf604

If you wish to sort of... 'come clean' I honestly feel it would be easier on you to tell a half-lie.
Tell them about how you came to the conclusion of god not existing, but try and be vague as to "when" you came to this conclusion.

They will most likely be more concerned of your belief rather than when you came to this conclusion. So I doubt they'll even ask.
Some might feel pretty betrayed and cast you out if you flat-out tell them that you've been lying to them this whole time.

People pretend all the time. It's not hard.

If they can't accept your difference in beliefs, then they are probably not a good bunch of friends. Stop lying to them and yourselfchaoscougar1

Yep this. If you can't be who you are on the inside to people in your circle of friends, then it's not worth it. Just explain the situation to them and they'll either accept your beliefs and move on or or be dicks and reject you. In either case you can say who you are confidently and stand by it.

I'm sorry, but all your title made me think of was this. :lol:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Plz-bhcHryc

I'm sorry, but all your title made me think of was this. :lol:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Plz-bhcHryc

agpickle

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I'm sorry, but all your title made me think of was this. :lol:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Plz-bhcHryc

lonewolf604

Are you sure? I got the results for the test back. I definetly have breast cancer.

...my friend just now (who dropped me off from badminton) was telling me how God was becoming a bigger part in his life, and how his life was becoming clearer....

lonewolf604

Based on this single example, it seems you're getting upset at your friends for doing no more than mentioning their faith. I dunno what to tell you, aside from just to find other friends.

Tell them you don't believe in a Christian god. They should accept you for who you are. Just if they bring it up (like say your friend says that "God" is becoming a bigger part of his life) don't blow it off and be like "Well "God" doesn't exist so who cares?" That's pretty dumb and would paint you like a moron. Just act/be interested since you can understand the meaning that it obviously has to your friend.

Just keep to yourself and listen to what they say when they talk to you about what things they hold close. And if they ask you about your beliefs, just tell them the truth. They would understand and respect your differences if they were your friends.

When your all dead your friends will notice that your not in heaven.

You may as well tell them now.

Since when did believing in religion make you're path in life more clear? Especially Christianity...

Digital_DJ_00

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Since when did believing in religion make you're path in life more clear? Especially Christianity...

Mephers

Just tell them you no longer believe, no real friend would drop someone just because they have differing faiths.

[QUOTE="Mephers"][QUOTE="Digital_DJ_00"]

Since when did believing in religion make you're path in life more clear? Especially Christianity...

Digital_DJ_00

Just tell them you no longer believe, no real friend would drop someone just because they have differing faiths.

Vesica_Prime

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[QUOTE="Mephers"] Since religion started?Mephers

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I'm assuming you take part in a certain religion?

Digital_DJ_00

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[QUOTE="Mephers"] Stop assuming and ask :P. Not really though, Im currently following my own path, not sure where thatll take me. I was raised(lightly) with christian morals and such though. If you count that as taking part then yes.

Mephers

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I just don't understand how people can live thier lives based on an occult/religion that's entirely founded from faith. And when I say "faith", i mean the example "You'll just have to take my word for it.."

Digital_DJ_00

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]If they can't accept your difference in beliefs, then they are probably not a good bunch of friends. Stop lying to them and yourselflonewolf604

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]If they can't accept your difference in beliefs, then they are probably not a good bunch of friends. Stop lying to them and yourselflonewolf604