I did something bad, that I feel regretful about, to a family member

I feel very guilty about what I did, but the family member doesnt even know I did it, they think someone else did it.

I was just very mad at the moment, so I proceeded to do it.

What I did I cant say exactly, but lets just say I broke something important that a family member just recently got, and liked using a lot.

Am I a horrible person? I feel bad

Well that wasn't vague at all. Tell us, we're the internet. we can keep a secret.

OH by the way, I just thought of about 20 different inappropriate things I could make out of your vague post :D

I would say that as long as you really regret it, you have nothing to worry about. I mean, you act as you feel, and learn from your mistakes, right? You can't change the past. The most you can do is apologize for it and try to make it up to them. Or you can just be nicer to them in the future, and prove to yourself that you're not the horrible person you think you are.

i think you answered your own question...you just arent ready to sack up

You are a bad person for what you did come clean or offer to help get a new item or whatever you broke it would only be fair that you at least fix or get a new one of whatever you broke.

Thanks. That lightened me up, I dont know if I will confess or not..because it might mean this person will start hating me, but you're right I did learn from it. I won't do something like that again. And I will be nicer to that person...

ped-

You're not a horrible person if you tell you did it and apologize. In due time, they will forgive you...

Thanks. That lightened me up, I dont know if I will confess or not..because it might mean this person will start hating me, but you're right I did learn from it. I won't do something like that again. And I will be nicer to that person...

digital86

Maybe you should fill us in some more. If it cost more than $200 you might want to lay low for awhile.

I hope you do learn from it by never doing it again to anyone its not right.

Well, as long as it's not a human body part I think you will be able to get their trust back.

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Thanks. That lightened me up, I dont know if I will confess or not..because it might mean this person will start hating me, but you're right I did learn from it. I won't do something like that again. And I will be nicer to that person...

KDIDDY78

I don't think that it's being afraid. It's avoiding all the confusion that comes with admitting it. If you tell someone that you did something to hurt them, they don't care if you changed or learned from the situation, they just see the worst in you. If all you're going to do is cause somebody to think of you as someone you're not, you don't really have to admit anything to them, unless you want to. It's a matter of having the courage to judge yourself... You should only admit it if it's your choice, and you think they'd benefit from knowing you did it.

Maybe you should fill us in some more. If it cost more than $200 you might want to lay low for awhile.

SuperVegeta518

Il just confess, it was my dads 300$ bike. I recently gave him the bike as a present for his birthday.

But very long story short, I dont really like my father because of different issues, and the way he lives his life, and he said something to me that pissed me off, so I snapped and went to the garage when he wasnt home and destroyed the bike. But since we live in an Apt, he doesnt suspect I did it..

Im an idiot, I know. I dont think I am going to confess.. I just wont do something like that again..

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Thanks. That lightened me up, I dont know if I will confess or not..because it might mean this person will start hating me, but you're right I did learn from it. I won't do something like that again. And I will be nicer to that person...

NaiveChild

I don't think that it's being afraid. It's avoiding all the confusion that comes with admitting it. If you tell someone that you did something to hurt them, they don't care if you changed or learned from the situation, they just see the worst in you. If all you're going to do is cause somebody to think of you as someone you're not, you don't really have to admit anything to them, unless you want to. It's a matter of having the courage to judge yourself... You should only admit it if it's your choice, and you think they'd benefit from knowing you did it.

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Maybe you should fill us in some more. If it cost more than $200 you might want to lay low for awhile.

digital86

Il just confess, it was my dads 300$ bike. I recently gave him the bike as a present for his birthday.

But very long story short, I dont really like my father because of different issues, and the way he lives his life, and he said something to me that pissed me off, so I snapped and went to the garage when he wasnt home and destroyed the bike. But since we live in an Apt, he doesnt suspect I did it..

Im an idiot, I know. I dont think I am going to confess.. I just wont do something like that again..

If you dads violent I wouldn't tell him, even more if he was really attached to the bike. I'd just think of a story, cover all the its ands or buts and leave it at that.

[QUOTE="SuperVegeta518"]

Maybe you should fill us in some more. If it cost more than $200 you might want to lay low for awhile.

digital86

Il just confess, it was my dads 300$ bike. I recently gave him the bike as a present for his birthday.

But very long story short, I dont really like my father because of different issues, and the way he lives his life, and he said something to me that pissed me off, so I snapped and went to the garage when he wasnt home and destroyed the bike. But since we live in an Apt, he doesnt suspect I did it..

Im an idiot, I know. I dont think I am going to confess.. I just wont do something like that again..

Maybe you should tell your father what you did he may be pissed but oh well even if you dont tell him its on you and it will follow you untill you come clean if you ever do.

unbelievable!!!!!!!!!!!!! its called being honest people!!!!!!!!this is what he is asking.......should he be honest and everyone is saying NO....this is shocking and sad

KDIDDY78

Well, do you think the person affected would feel better or worse if they knew? If they'd feel worse, get more upset, and judge you for being someone you're not, honesty must mean an awful lot to you for you to still tell them. It's really a personal choice, is all that I'm saying. It's not that you should lie, but it's always nice to just do what you feel you need to do... It's feelings vs. honesty ... Regardless, its nothing to get overly upset about.

[QUOTE="SuperVegeta518"]

Maybe you should fill us in some more. If it cost more than $200 you might want to lay low for awhile.

digital86

Il just confess, it was my dads 300$ bike. I recently gave him the bike as a present for his birthday.

But very long story short, I dont really like my father because of different issues, and the way he lives his life, and he said something to me that pissed me off, so I snapped and went to the garage when he wasnt home and destroyed the bike. But since we live in an Apt, he doesnt suspect I did it..

Im an idiot, I know. I dont think I am going to confess.. I just wont do something like that again..

Even if he were to forever think of you as a felon of sorts, at least he'd think of you as an honest felon. :D

shows a level a maturity to be honest and if you cant be honest than so be it...guess im getting old and now i now how my parents felt with me...i keep forgeting most of you are little kids giving little kid advice

Regardless of what you have done the person you hurt deserves the truth. If you care for them in the way you say you do you should be honest, as they deserve that much from you.

You acted of your own accord, angry or not, and you should ready to face the consequences of your actions, whatever they may be. Imagine if they find out on their own...that would put you up **** creek.

shows a level a maturity to be honest and if you cant be honest than so be it...guess im getting old and now i now how my parents felt with me...i keep forgeting most of you are little kids giving little kid advice

KDIDDY78

If you're talking about what I said, that's not little kid advice. All I said is that you should act as you feel ... It's hardly mature to present a cookie-cutter do-what-my-morals-say viewpoint in any case... People need to choose for themselves what is right, and deserve to see both sides of the issue.

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shows a level a maturity to be honest and if you cant be honest than so be it...guess im getting old and now i now how my parents felt with me...i keep forgeting most of you are little kids giving little kid advice

If you're talking about what I said, that's not little kid advice. All I said is that you should act as you feel ... It's hardly mature to present a cookie-cutter do-what-my-morals-say viewpoint in any case... People need to choose for themselves what is right, and deserve to see both sides of the issue.

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shows a level a maturity to be honest and if you cant be honest than so be it...guess im getting old and now i now how my parents felt with me...i keep forgeting most of you are little kids giving little kid advice

NaiveChild

If you're talking about what I said, that's not little kid advice. All I said is that you should act as you feel ... It's hardly mature to present a cookie-cutter do-what-my-morals-say viewpoint in any case... People need to choose for themselves what is right, and deserve to see both sides of the issue.

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shows a level a maturity to be honest and if you cant be honest than so be it...guess im getting old and now i now how my parents felt with me...i keep forgeting most of you are little kids giving little kid advice

freakbabyblues

If you're talking about what I said, that's not little kid advice. All I said is that you should act as you feel ... It's hardly mature to present a cookie-cutter do-what-my-morals-say viewpoint in any case... People need to choose for themselves what is right, and deserve to see both sides of the issue.

I just don't see the point in doing anything different than what you personally find to be right... that's all I'm trying to say. I mean, I know you can't literally choose what is right ... At the same time, I don't think there's any objective morality, if that's what you're saying. It's all relative to what you hold to be most important, isn't it?

14 or 15? close enough...anyways on topic yeah be a man, own up. feelings are for little girls and democrats...mabey you and your dad can go plant a tree together and smoke a doobie....but when he does find out...he's going to take a switch to your ass

KDIDDY78

Feelings are for humans who seek to be something, namely themselves, in life. If your argument against me amounts to a generalisation about my supposed age and then an insult ... There's nothing more I can say.

Reminds me of my old days, only i didn't had a proper conscience to work with back then.

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14 or 15? close enough...anyways on topic yeah be a man, own up. feelings are for little girls and democrats...mabey you and your dad can go plant a tree together and smoke a doobie....but when he does find out...he's going to take a switch to your ass

NaiveChild

Feelings are for humans who seek to be something, namely themselves, in life. If your argument against me amounts to a generalisation about my supposed age and then an insult ... There's nothing more I can say.

I feel very guilty about what I did, but the family member doesnt even know I did it, they think someone else did it.

I was just very mad at the moment, so I proceeded to do it.

What I did I cant say exactly, but lets just say I broke something important that a family member just recently got, and liked using a lot.

Am I a horrible person? I feel bad

digital86

I've been angry to the point of wanting to physically harm a family member before, and have. It was something I regretted, and I took responsibility for it, and apologized. I never came up with any excuses. I've had other family members damage or destroy some things of mine out of pure rage. I'm not going to lie to you, you did something disgusting. It's not the object in question that matters, it's the lack of respect, self control, and intent that makes it bad. Unless your family member did something particularly harmful to you in return, then they might have deserved it. But if the only thing they did was make you angry, you had absolutely no right to do anything to them.

Tell the truth. There is nothing more pitiful and disgusting than someone who doesn't take responsibility for something bad they did, no matter how big or small. You are not necessarily a bad person, but you will be in the eyes of most people if you don't take responsibility for what you did.

look naive...dont get your FEELINGS hurt...if i was talking to you i would quote you...my last comment was directied at the thread starter

KDIDDY78

That's funny, in the same breath you tell me you weren't talking to me, you mock me in the same way as your last comment. Huh. And you did quote me. Imagine that.

^_^

Ah well, if you'd rather get upset ...

Own up, don't let another person get in trouble for what you did. Come clean and you will be forgiven:)