I found a girl that I like, need advice.

Hi. Yes I went to a stupid dating site. I don't know where to meet girls eccept online. I don't go to classes or even get out much. but that's besides the point.

The thing is im not a paying member of the site. She hasent been online recently and I was wondering if it's worth it to pay that ridiculous ammount just so I can send her an e-mail that she might not respond to...

Im not trying to sound cheap it's just that she would be the only person on there id want to talk to. Should I chance it?

I'd do it if I can afford it.

And tbh, you don't exactly sound like you got a whole lot going on for you either. I'd lower my expectation if I were you and try my luck with more girls than just one. Chances of you getting a reply on dating website is low enough as it is, being picky sure won't get you too far. And if you are paying for it already, why not give it a try with more girls and make it worth your time and money?

I usually don't give advice but...

You should. Good or bad, it's best to get closure even if it is a dating site.

You found a girl that you like, yet you've never met/spoken to her?harashawn

Exactly!

Have you two been talking?

The harsh reality was already spoken. You don't have much going for you. You are going to have to settle. There are plenty of people in this world that have a lot going for them, so the odds are stacked against you. This goes double for a dating site. Point and case:

1. More men will be on there than women. This is just the law of the internet.

2. Girls have a wider range to target, sociologically. They usually go 2 years younger to 10 years older, whereas guys usually choose to go just younger. If you are already young, the floor is hit pretty quickly.

3. Women on the internet are not any less shallow then women you will meet at the local mall in your town. So you aren't really gaining anything.

[QUOTE="harashawn"]You found a girl that you like, yet you've never met/spoken to her?TheHighWind

Exactly!

Find a dating site that doesn't charge you to send emails. That's absurd! :P

3. Women on the internet are not any less shallow then women you will meet at the local mall in your town. So you aren't really gaining anything.

UltimoIce

They may not be any less shallow, but they'd probably be a little more desperate, yes? He should at least have that going for him.

There's probably a reason she's no longer online. She may have found someone or she may have dropped her subscription.psychobrew

meet a girl in real life. if she can't find a guy and is resorting to internet dating sites, she is probably pretty ****ed up in the head, and you don't want that.

[QUOTE="UltimoIce"]3. Women on the internet are not any less shallow then women you will meet at the local mall in your town. So you aren't really gaining anything.

Oleg_Huzwog

They may not be any less shallow, but they'd probably be a little more desperate, yes? He should at least have that going for him.

Not if they are attractive. I don't give a flying fart nugget how desperate a woman is. If she is attractive, she knows it. And there are enough guys on there already sending her messages, that she doesn't have to settle.

[QUOTE="harashawn"]You found a girl that you like, yet you've never met/spoken to her?TheHighWind

Exactly!

[QUOTE="Oleg_Huzwog"]

[QUOTE="UltimoIce"]3. Women on the internet are not any less shallow then women you will meet at the local mall in your town. So you aren't really gaining anything.

UltimoIce

They may not be any less shallow, but they'd probably be a little more desperate, yes? He should at least have that going for him.

Not if they are attractive. I don't give a flying fart nugget how desperate a woman is. If she is attractive, she knows it. And there are enough guys on there already sending her messages, that she doesn't have to settle.

I agree with your flying fart nugget (or lack thereof, or whatever).

its cheaper to just walk outside.weezyfb

The harsh reality was already spoken. You don't have much going for you. You are going to have to settle. There are plenty of people in this world that have a lot going for them, so the odds are stacked against you. This goes double for a dating site. Point and case:

1. More men will be on there than women. This is just the law of the internet.

2. Girls have a wider range to target, sociologically. They usually go 2 years younger to 10 years older, whereas guys usually choose to go just younger. If you are already young, the floor is hit pretty quickly.

3. Women on the internet are not any less shallow then women you will meet at the local mall in your town. So you aren't really gaining anything.

UltimoIce

complete and utter bull****, at least concerning the "not a lot going on" aspect.

Get off the internet, go out. I was a diehard introvert too, but you know that show Dexter? Yup...just fake it, like Dexter. And as Henry, Dexter's dad, said "You might just end up having fun".

Get a job in retail or dealing with customers, that will quickly help you overcome any insecurities you have communicating with strangers.

I am still an introvert; 5 out of 7 days I go to work and come home and sit in my room for the rest of the day lol. But I go out ,and I fake being sociable and it generally works out in my favor. I do not "have a lot going on" for me either; I work, cook, eat, drink beer, and play video games but women like a man's attitude above all else.

is she hot?

[QUOTE="UltimoIce"]

The harsh reality was already spoken. You don't have much going for you. You are going to have to settle. There are plenty of people in this world that have a lot going for them, so the odds are stacked against you. This goes double for a dating site. Point and case:

1. More men will be on there than women. This is just the law of the internet.

2. Girls have a wider range to target, sociologically. They usually go 2 years younger to 10 years older, whereas guys usually choose to go just younger. If you are already young, the floor is hit pretty quickly.

3. Women on the internet are not any less shallow then women you will meet at the local mall in your town. So you aren't really gaining anything.

mrbojangles25

complete and utter bull****, at least concerning the "not a lot going on" aspect.

Get off the internet, go out. I was a diehard introvert too, but you know that show Dexter? Yup...just fake it, like Dexter. And as Henry, Dexter's dad, said "You might just end up having fun".

Get a job in retail or dealing with customers, that will quickly help you overcome any insecurities you have communicating with strangers.

I am still an introvert; 5 out of 7 days I go to work and come home and sit in my room for the rest of the day lol. But I go out ,and I fake being sociable and it generally works out in my favor. I do not "have a lot going on" for me either; I work, cook, eat, drink beer, and play video games but women like a man's attitude above all else.

We aren't talking about real life, though. We are talking about internet dating. And unless he plans on lying...not much going for him. I didn't say anything about real life dating. That is a different ball game. Even the biggest losers can (and usually do) score a lot of women.

[QUOTE="mrbojangles25"]

[QUOTE="UltimoIce"]

The harsh reality was already spoken. You don't have much going for you. You are going to have to settle. There are plenty of people in this world that have a lot going for them, so the odds are stacked against you. This goes double for a dating site. Point and case:

1. More men will be on there than women. This is just the law of the internet.

2. Girls have a wider range to target, sociologically. They usually go 2 years younger to 10 years older, whereas guys usually choose to go just younger. If you are already young, the floor is hit pretty quickly.

3. Women on the internet are not any less shallow then women you will meet at the local mall in your town. So you aren't really gaining anything.

UltimoIce

complete and utter bull****, at least concerning the "not a lot going on" aspect.

Get off the internet, go out. I was a diehard introvert too, but you know that show Dexter? Yup...just fake it, like Dexter. And as Henry, Dexter's dad, said "You might just end up having fun".

Get a job in retail or dealing with customers, that will quickly help you overcome any insecurities you have communicating with strangers.

I am still an introvert; 5 out of 7 days I go to work and come home and sit in my room for the rest of the day lol. But I go out ,and I fake being sociable and it generally works out in my favor. I do not "have a lot going on" for me either; I work, cook, eat, drink beer, and play video games but women like a man's attitude above all else.

We aren't talking about real life, though. We are talking about internet dating. And unless he plans on lying...not much going for him. I didn't say anything about real life dating. That is a different ball game. Even the biggest losers can (and usually do) score a lot of women.

oooooooh ok, my mistake

You should get out dude. If will benefit you in so many ways. ;)

i wish i could help you i remembered when you gave me girl advice

No because what if she doesn't bother responding at all? then you'll have thrown all that money away. Girls on dating sites are usually just looking for an ego boost Lol

I got an interesting solution TC:

If you really want to try online dating, go create a profile on okcupid.com. It is FREE so you dont have to worry about potentially flushing money down the toilet if you are unsuccessful.

I just did this not too long ago and above all it has been a nice distraction while chilling at home. I have even been talking to a girl from on there and HOPEFULLY might end up working something out with her (I have been pleasantly surprised at how well convos have flowed between us).

Just remember to be creative with your profile and expect A TON of rejection. The ladies are just as stuck up/nonsensical on there as they can be in real life (I still get ignored on there even with being near PERFECT matches...).

Cool thing though is the site DOES have a nice feature that tells you how often a person replies, so you can at least be SOMEWHAT PREPARED for the outcome, and it also lets you know who views your profile which is also cool.

But yeah, I would just forget the one girl and go to okcupid if you are truely interested in online dating sites because it is at least free. I really doubt the girl would respond if she hasn't been on in forever anyhow...

I got an interesting solution TC:

If you really want to try online dating, go create a profile on okcupid.com. It is FREE so you dont have to worry about potentially flushing money down the toilet if you are unsuccessful.

I just did this not too long ago and above all it has been a nice distraction while chilling at home. I have even been talking to a girl from on there and HOPEFULLY might end up working something out with her (I have been pleasantly surprised at how well convos have flowed between us).

Just remember to be creative with your profile and expect A TON of rejection. The ladies are just as stuck up/nonsensical on there as they can be in real life (I still get ignored on there even with being near PERFECT matches...).

Cool thing though is the site DOES have a nice feature that tells you how often a person replies, so you can at least be SOMEWHAT PREPARED for the outcome, and it also lets you know who views your profile which is also cool.

But yeah, I would just forget the one girl and go to okcupid if you are truely interested in online dating sites because it is at least free. I really doubt the girl would respond if she hasn't been on in forever anyhow...

LostProphetFLCL

Thanks, I might try that one.

yeah just get out, its the best way to meet people, you never know who the person is behind that computer, they could be using fake pics, or maybe shes hot but you dont know her. she might be a total ya know. Dude, you have to go out meet people, then you work from there

Hi. Yes I went to a stupid dating site. I don't know where to meet girls eccept online. I don't go to classes or even get out much. but that's besides the point.

The thing is im not a paying member of the site. She hasent been online recently and I was wondering if it's worth it to pay that ridiculous ammount just so I can send her an e-mail that she might not respond to...

Im not trying to sound cheap it's just that she would be the only person on there id want to talk to. Should I chance it?

Hi. Yes I went to a stupid dating site. I don't know where to meet girls eccept online. I don't go to classes or even get out much. but that's besides the point.

The thing is im not a paying member of the site. She hasent been online recently and I was wondering if it's worth it to pay that ridiculous ammount just so I can send her an e-mail that she might not respond to...

Im not trying to sound cheap it's just that she would be the only person on there id want to talk to. Should I chance it?

No, that just opens up the chances of rejection. Rejection sucks. Play a game instead.Jandurin

It's cheaper if you go to a bar...or ask people in your class to go with ya.

Hi. Yes I went to a stupid dating site. I don't know where to meet girls eccept online. I don't go to classes or even get out much. but that's besides the point.

The thing is im not a paying member of the site. She hasent been online recently and I was wondering if it's worth it to pay that ridiculous ammount just so I can send her an e-mail that she might not respond to...

Im not trying to sound cheap it's just that she would be the only person on there id want to talk to. Should I chance it?

TheHighWind

No, don't pay for that crap. Instead shave off your pubes and mail them to her. OR send an email to customer service asking them if you could pay them with your pubes. If not ask them if they could do you a real solid and forward your pubes to her.

advice, dont go to the internet for relationship advice