I guess I may seem shallow but...

What's OT's thoughts on obesity and relationships?

I've been trying to wrap my head around this idea. What would happen if I found a girl who was into all sorts of things that I was into and we had good chemistry, but she was a little bigger?

What if she was quite a bit overweight?

I pose this question to the people on this site.

I'm just going to come right out and say this: so long as you aren't unhealthily skinny and you aren't beyond slightly overweight, I can deal with that. I guess saying this kinda makes me shallow, but I try to take care of myself and I feel that like-minded individuals are more attractive. Not to say that heavier women are weak or have no self-control, but that's just how I feel.

My friend is a good example of this. He's gotten much heavier since him and his girlfriend started dating 3 years ago. He takes comments about his weight seriously. Which is fine. I wouldn't want people coming down on me for my weight either. His girlfriend seems to notice it but I don't think she grills him about it. Still, I can tell it depresses him and complicates things at certain points.

If I met a girl who was everything that I wanted and overweight but wanted to change, I could live with that. It's the people who are comfortable with their lifestyle that I don't know if I could be in a relationship with. I can't change a mindset and I don't want to, but if it's something that I feel is damaging, I would treat it much like I would something like a drug addiction or something like cutting yourself. It's unhealthy in the long run and leads to many health risks if left alone.

I really feel bad about starting this topic, but I would like feedback on it. :?

Chubby, I'm ok with.

Overweight.... you don't stand a chance. If it's all in proportion, maybe.

I don't mind a little meat on the bones.. infact I encourage it. Overly skinny is as much a turn off as overweight.. for me at least.

EDIT: First comment was priceless :lol:

Sorry for being off topic and all, but Vader993 made me :lol: so hard. Oh my. :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

Sure.

I'd rather have an overweight bf/gf over an underweight one. And yes, if the fact they don't look like the ideal of hotness is the only reason you would not want them, that is basically the definition of shallow.

I don't care about peoples weight. For some reason society feels it can demand everyone look like an unrealistic super model.

It hasn't stopped me in the past.

*EDIT* I broke up with her because she liked to pretend that she didn't eat much. I wanted some damn food too!

fat girls "....."

Vader993

On-Topic. If the girl is chubby and working on it, sure. If not, then no.

Vader993

Vader993

Thick or chubby Hell Yeah!! Obese...No thank you.

i am a **** sorry ladies

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Vader993

Don't feel bad, its the law

I have no problem with a little chubby but if she's obese and his aiming to raise her level of layers no thank you, I'll pass.

Don't feel bad, its the law

hedden93

Even the cop should be under arrest.

02:34:55

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fat girls make my[...]

ssc0n

wow i feel important for once in my life

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fat girls make my[...]

Vader993

wow i feel important for once in my life

Right now, you are. :P

Obesity denotes a lack of self respect and will power. Sure, some people are genetically prone to obesity, but calling themselves "big-boned" is just a fallacy.

Obesity is often a result of Western cultural norms, but that is not an excuse for being unhealthy.

I prefer chubby/thick women.

I do draw the line at near-anorexic and obese though. I'm a big guy myself, but I don't waddle. I'm not down with the waddle.

Embarassing Accidental A**hole Moment: I met this girl from online and when she showed up she was doin' the waddle. I was like "whatever, she likes Neutral Milk Hotel, I'll give it a shot," but then the night went downhill. We passed this area on campus where there's a big circle on the ground and for some reason I decided to say "anybody wanna sumo wr-" and then glanced at her and stopped talking. *facepalm*

It's ok though. It turned out she was really crazy and religious. That's grosser to me than any weight-type.

I'd rather not, but if it was the only thing I didn't like about them then I'd be alright with it.

there goes my fame

i don't mind a little overweightness. but not too much.

Good feedback. I knew I could count on this careful topic to be given the correct amount of ethical respect in OT.

Edit: it's okay to poke fun so long as its not towards anybody specific. :lol:

Another question: is it shallow to look for women who are more fit over ones that are overweight? :question:

Good feedback. I knew I could count on this careful topic to be given the correct amount of ethical respect in OT.

Edit: it's okay to poke fun so long as its not towards anybody specific. :lol:

Another question: is it shallow to look for women who are more fit over ones that are overweight? :question:

starfox15

Good feedback. I knew I could count on this careful topic to be given the correct amount of ethical respect in OT.

Edit: it's okay to poke fun so long as its not towards anybody specific. :lol:

Another question: is it shallow to look for women who are more fit over ones that are overweight? :question:

there goes my fame

Vader993

And your fortune :P

I prefer chubby/thick women.

I do draw the line at near-anorexic and obese though. I'm a big guy myself, but I don't waddle. I'm not down with the waddle.

Embarassing Accidental A**hole Moment: I met this girl from online and when she showed up she was doin' the waddle. I was like "whatever, she likes Neutral Milk Hotel, I'll give it a shot," but then the night went downhill. We passed this area on campus where there's a big circle on the ground and for some reason I decided to say "anybody wanna sumo wr-" and then glanced at her and stopped talking. *facepalm*

It's ok though. It turned out she was really crazy and religious. That's grosser to me than any weight-type.

Steyrvolt

By medical standards, a chubby/thick woman is likely clinically obese. Yeah, the pale curvy flesh is yummy, but they are still threatening their longevity with their burgers, Twinkies, and driving 50 yards around the corner from where they live to buy more.

[QUOTE="Steyrvolt"]

I prefer chubby/thick women.

I do draw the line at near-anorexic and obese though. I'm a big guy myself, but I don't waddle. I'm not down with the waddle.

Embarassing Accidental A**hole Moment: I met this girl from online and when she showed up she was doin' the waddle. I was like "whatever, she likes Neutral Milk Hotel, I'll give it a shot," but then the night went downhill. We passed this area on campus where there's a big circle on the ground and for some reason I decided to say "anybody wanna sumo wr-" and then glanced at her and stopped talking. *facepalm*

It's ok though. It turned out she was really crazy and religious. That's grosser to me than any weight-type.

Robbler

By medical standards, a chubby/thick woman is likely clinically obese. Yeah, the pale curvy flesh is yummy, but they are still threatening their longevity with their burgers, Twinkies, and driving 50 yards around the corner from where they live to buy more.

[QUOTE="Robbler"]

[QUOTE="Steyrvolt"]

I prefer chubby/thick women.

I do draw the line at near-anorexic and obese though. I'm a big guy myself, but I don't waddle. I'm not down with the waddle.

Embarassing Accidental A**hole Moment: I met this girl from online and when she showed up she was doin' the waddle. I was like "whatever, she likes Neutral Milk Hotel, I'll give it a shot," but then the night went downhill. We passed this area on campus where there's a big circle on the ground and for some reason I decided to say "anybody wanna sumo wr-" and then glanced at her and stopped talking. *facepalm*

It's ok though. It turned out she was really crazy and religious. That's grosser to me than any weight-type.

Steyrvolt

By medical standards, a chubby/thick woman is likely clinically obese. Yeah, the pale curvy flesh is yummy, but they are still threatening their longevity with their burgers, Twinkies, and driving 50 yards around the corner from where they live to buy more.

Sex, drugs, and rock ' roll mentality! "I'll die before it becomes a drag!" Wrong answer. Tell me this when you are retirement age, if you live that long.

There are people in South America and Eastern Asia that live to be 120, because of the simple lives they lead, the pure air they breathe, and the natural food they eat.

That thought must be a million miles away from your life.

I'm good with it. Probably wouldn't last in all honesty. I'm not shallow but at times i can be pretty vain.

Not if their weight was problematic to be honest, or if I didn't find them attractive because of their weight. That's human nature - sorry if shallow but...

[QUOTE="Steyrvolt"][QUOTE="Robbler"]

By medical standards, a chubby/thick woman is likely clinically obese. Yeah, the pale curvy flesh is yummy, but they are still threatening their longevity with their burgers, Twinkies, and driving 50 yards around the corner from where they live to buy more.

Robbler

Sex, drugs, and rock n' roll mentality! "I'll die before it becomes a drag!" Wrong answer. Tell me this when you are retirement age, if you live that long.

There are people in South America and Eastern Asia that live to be 120, because of the simple lives they lead, the pure air they breathe, and the natural food they eat.

That thought must be a million miles away from your life.

Holy ****. Healthy people? Living simply? Pure air? What's that? It's like a geyser of knowledge just erupted in my ignorant face.What is happening to me?!

Stop being an ass to strangers, Mr. Superior. I may not have a fancy high-school education like you do, but that doesn't make me an idiot. The ONLY thing you know about me is that I like curvy figured women (and now I don't like you.)

If the girl is chubby and working it, sure. If not, then no.

KidCudi37

There are people in South America and Eastern Asia that live to be 120, because of the simple lives they lead, the pure air they breathe, and the natural food they eat.Robbler

[QUOTE="Robbler"]There are people in South America and Eastern Asia that live to be 120, because of the simple lives they lead, the pure air they breathe, and the natural food they eat.Jazz_Fan

the amount of stress they are not subjugated to from industrialized societies. This plays the most important role, not the food, or the air.EMOEVOLUTION