I need Girl Help Possible From A person'' Whos been there before''

Hello Dudes!

Well if you fallowed my other (awesome) girl threads you kinda know that i m not good with the ladies :/ If not, you should know that i m not a good with the ladies :(

Anyways heres the deal:

At work i met this wonderful girl, shes cute, brunett beautiful eyes etc. I dont like her for her apperence but i certanly like the way she looks. The thing that makes me so attracted to her is her personality. We have pretty much the same personality, we laugh at anything, we get happy for nothing, we are both kinda sillyl. Anyways i never met someone whos been so alike to me before, i m really falling for this one big time.

Now i know this probably wont work out because, she surely has a boyfriend or probably isnt interested in me. I cant ask her out straight fordward if she has a boyfriend or if she would go out with me because, like i said we work together and i dont want to be awkarness in the job :/

We sat together once ( when we had a break) i made her laugh twice :3, she talks to me and i talk to her in the job, she asked me yesterday what time i finished ( that kinda got me happy for some reasson).

Well the thing is that i dont see us being together and i need to forget her or stop liking her before it gets worse, But how?;( How do i stop liking her???

TL;DR:Like a girl from work, i dont want to try anything and make it all awkard, need to stop liking her, but how? Cant find any flows in her perfect personality/looks

You are Tobias Funke. You are auditioning for the role of confidence man 2. MAN UP, ask her out cold turkey. If she says no, who gives? BFD. It's noly awkward if you make it so.

You are Tobias Funke. You are auditioning for the role of confidence man 2. MAN UP, ask her out cold turkey. If she says no, who gives? BFD. It's noly awkward if you make it so.

smashed_pinata

With girls, it's all or nothing. You can't really be only friends with somebody that you have a crush on... so don't worry about making it awkward. Ask her out. If she says yes, then great. If she says no, then who cares, because it wouldn't be a good friendship anyway if you had feelings and she didn't.

[QUOTE="smashed_pinata"]

You are Tobias Funke. You are auditioning for the role of confidence man 2. MAN UP, ask her out cold turkey. If she says no, who gives? BFD. It's noly awkward if you make it so.

Solid_Tango

With girls, it's all or nothing. You can't really be only friends with somebody that you have a crush on... so don't worry about making it awkward. Ask her out. If she says yes, then great. If she says no, then who cares, because it wouldn't be a good friendship anyway if you had feelings and she didn't.

BMD004

[QUOTE="Solid_Tango"][QUOTE="smashed_pinata"]

You are Tobias Funke. You are auditioning for the role of confidence man 2. MAN UP, ask her out cold turkey. If she says no, who gives? BFD. It's noly awkward if you make it so.

BMD004

[QUOTE="BMD004"][QUOTE="Solid_Tango"] We WORK TOGETHER BRO, it be awkard if she rejects me :( I cant deal with more rejection in my life :(Solid_Tango

Casually means don't care if she says no. "I was wondering if you would like to have dinner with me?" If she says no, its not the end of the world. I did this exact strat with a girl who ALSO WORKS WITH ME. and it went great.

DO IT MAN!!!!! you will regret not asking her out more than if she rejects you, TRUST ME.

I don't know if you remember me, but I made a bunch of posts about this girl I liked a lot. And I did ask her out and she rejected me. I'm not going to lie, it sucked big time, and things were awkward after and never the same. I can't help but feel bad about it. But then I remember the constant race my mind was in before I did anything, it was insanity. And all that thinking just stopped and slowly but surely I am moving on. You have no idea how hard that was for me to ask her, but I did it, and so can you.bertainpp7

Really man up bro, you'll only hurt yourself if you supressed your feelings and desires. Be it short term or long one, it WILL hurt.

[QUOTE="bertainpp7"]I don't know if you remember me, but I made a bunch of posts about this girl I liked a lot. And I did ask her out and she rejected me. I'm not going to lie, it sucked big time, and things were awkward after and never the same. I can't help but feel bad about it. But then I remember the constant race my mind was in before I did anything, it was insanity. And all that thinking just stopped and slowly but surely I am moving on. You have no idea how hard that was for me to ask her, but I did it, and so can you.Solid_Tango

I thought you were turning to dudes.

being rejected > being friend zone'd. i'd say first off,find out whether she's single or not,then go with the "casually asking her out" solution mentioned above.

being rejected > being friend zone'd. i'd say first off,find out whether she's single or not,then go with the "casually asking her out" solution mentioned above.

VaguelyTagged

TL;DR:Like a girl from work, i dont want to try anything and make it all awkard, need to stop liking her, but how? Cant find any flows in her perfect personality/looks

Solid_Tango

Wait, let me get this straight...

So you ASSUME that girl has a boyfriend/doesn't like you and thus you're gonna give up on it before you even tried because you fear rejection ?

[QUOTE="VaguelyTagged"]

being rejected > being friend zone'd. i'd say first off,find out whether she's single or not,then go with the "casually asking her out" solution mentioned above.

CoolSkAGuy

[QUOTE="CoolSkAGuy"][QUOTE="VaguelyTagged"]

being rejected > being friend zone'd. i'd say first off,find out whether she's single or not,then go with the "casually asking her out" solution mentioned above.

VaguelyTagged

You should just keep being yourself.Your personality ought to eventually drive her away. :)NuclearFlower

Tango don't be scared! Over here if I were working with a guy who made me laugh and is silly and I asked him what time he finished... well, that'd be a positive thing. Ask this girl, ask her ASAP, just say 'hey, wanna go out sometime?'

If she says yes - good times, if she says no - don't think into it too much.

TC, the best way to get over a girl is to get rejected actually.

Rejection does suck....for a while. Then you move on and realize that there is plenty of other fish in the sea.

I still don't understand why you feel it will just go so bad here TC. Quite frankly if anything the type of thinking you displayed in your OP is the type of thing that will make you undateable. If there is anything I have learned it's that the biggest turnoff to a girl is a guy who is negative and has no confidence in himself.

And do you seriously think that there is no such thing as a girl worth getting being single? I happen to be close to asking a wonderful girl out myself. How she is single I have no idea, but I ain't gonna argue.

All females worth getting are at some point(s) available and you need to have the balls to jump on such a chance in order to land a quality girl. You will NEVER get a worthwhile girl with an attitude like yours.

TL:DR Grow a pair and ask her out while you can. You will regret it if you don't/

[QUOTE="smashed_pinata"]

You are Tobias Funke. You are auditioning for the role of confidence man 2. MAN UP, ask her out cold turkey. If she says no, who gives? BFD. It's noly awkward if you make it so.

Solid_Tango

Looks like Tango has abandoned this thread, hopefully he went and asked her out.

[spoiler] doubt it though [/spoiler]

he'll just lose her down the road.......

With girls, it's all or nothing. You can't really be only friends with somebody that you have a crush on... so don't worry about making it awkward. Ask her out. If she says yes, then great. If she says no, then who cares, because it wouldn't be a good friendship anyway if you had feelings and she didn't.

I thought you were turning to dudes.

Da_lil_PimP

Do you have any similar likes? Movies, art, theater, inline skating, etc? (Example: you both like action/hero flicks. You (casually) mention that Thor is opening and since you know she likes action flicks perhaps she'd want to go. If she says no, then shrug like it's no big deal and say "some other time maybe.")

Yeah, she turned you down by maybe she didn't like the movie, maybe she didn't have the time, maybe she has a boyfriend - but NO BIG DEAL. You gave it your best shot, it didn't work out, move on.

By the way, speaking as an oldiebutgoodie - you regret MOST the stuff you didn't do or say, not the stuff you did. If you don't ask, you will always wonder "what if".

You do know that you can ask a girl out without actually asking her out right? It doesn't have to be a date. Just ask her if she wants to do something sometime, if not then you know where you stand and you haven't put yourself out there in a vulnerable position.

If she says yes, use that time to gauge your standing with her. Is it something you can pursue further? If so, at what pace? If during this time you find out she is already seeing someone, have you enjoyed her company enough that being friends is desirable?

These are questions that only someone in that situation can answer.

If you are going to spend your days secretly longing for her you might as well spend them finding out if you have a shot or not. As much as you would like to know RIGHT NOW it wont happen tomorrow. Just make a little bit of progress each day without going out on that proverbial limb.

I agree with other posters, handling rejection is not easy but is something that if you can get over, you are more likely to get with girls in general.

Its all in confidence. If you come out confident, it will not be akward. Instead of asking her. "do you want to go to the movies?", try saying it in a sort of command, like: lets go grab a movie sometime. It might sound stupid but this doesnt leave room for interpretation on her part (sensing desperation from you); but instead is a confident way of getting her to go out.

From prevoius experience, it generally does not pay off to date co-workers, co-anything, in the long term. The phrase "dont s*** where you eat" is just funny until after the fact... which is how I realized its more than jsut a catch phrase.

GL dude. go for it if you feel you need to. no regrets!

So you already got over the other girl???

:P

If you don't know wether or not she has a boyfriends its honestly not that hard to find out...

Be creative for once or somethin.

[QUOTE="Solid_Tango"][QUOTE="BMD004"]You're acting like you are going to get on your knees and ask her to marry you and everybody would see. Just casually ask her if she'd want to go to the movies or something. If she says no, it won't be weird at all. bertainpp7

you keep saying your done with women, and then about a week or two later you always create a new topic about a new one. Make up your mind TangoColin1192

This this this, this this this this, this , this this this this

A truer thing has never been spoken

[QUOTE="smashed_pinata"]

You are Tobias Funke. You are auditioning for the role of confidence man 2. MAN UP, ask her out cold turkey. If she says no, who gives? BFD. It's noly awkward if you make it so.

Solid_Tango

Aren't you the person who said they wanted to ask out their professor?

[QUOTE="Solid_Tango"]

TL;DR:Like a girl from work, i dont want to try anything and make it all awkard, need to stop liking her, but how? Cant find any flows in her perfect personality/looks

Sagem28

Wait, let me get this straight...

So you ASSUME that girl has a boyfriend/doesn't like you and thus you're gonna give up on it before you even tried because you fear rejection ?

[QUOTE="Colin1192"]you keep saying your done with women, and then about a week or two later you always create a new topic about a new one. Make up your mind TangoFundai

This this this, this this this this, this , this this this this

A truer thing has never been spoken

just ask her out. but make sure you do it right. don't be like "i really like you, you're so pretty and you have a great personality" don't say any of that. just be like "hey, do you want to go see Thor with me?" something like that