I overanalyze too much. suggestions on how to stop?

usually after the end of a day, i reflect on the people i've talked to and asl myself if i said the right thing or anything to offend them. This constantly makes me paranoid causing me to think people hate me. ideas?

Well remember that nobody thinks about you nearly as much as you think.duxup

this will drive you insane:

This sentence is false

stop overthinking? i mean really its not that hard, just stop doing it. just be you and stop caring if someone in line at the store thought you were a jerk.

usually after the end of a day, i reflect on the people i've talked to and asl myself if i said the right thing or anything to offend them. This constantly makes me paranoid causing me to think people hate me. ideas?

Sonick54

you should actually say things that would definitely make people hate you, that way you don't have to be paranoid about it, you'll know for sure that they do.

you should actually say things that would definitely make people hate you, that way you don't have to be paranoid about it, you'll know for sure that they do.

needled24-7

This is good advice. Works well for me.

haha I am EXACTLY the same way. Hell, I will sometimes be laying in bed at night recalling conversations-gone-wrong from like 10 years ago. Its helpful because I can quote people exactly; works wonders with parents.

In my experience, I have found analyzing them is great, just dont act on it. Like they always say, your best guess is usually the right one, so if your conversation went well dont think of how to change it.

However, if you think you could have done something different or better, then learn from it.

Overanalyzing is good for us socially-awkward people

*oh yea and having a care free attitude helps to deal with the pressure; if you think you offended someone, just tell yourself "Meh, screw 'em"...that helps immensely, especially if theyre strangers.

usually after the end of a day, i reflect on the people i've talked to and asl myself if i said the right thing or anything to offend them. This constantly makes me paranoid causing me to think people hate me. ideas?

Sonick54

i do that all the time it's kinda weird and becuase of that i've developed social anixety and becuase of that i now have pauresis aka (shy bladder) because i care too much about what people think about me i'm working on it through and it's improving take my advice don't think about it at all

think about some dumb stuff other people did that day and how you feel about them. you probably don't care that much right? that's prabably how they feel. most stuff is just forgotten.

You have social anxiety. You can get meds for it, but I strongly recommend you don't. Just acknowledge the fact that these are normal social interactions that everyone does just fine with, and there is really no reason to worry. I have a close friend with this same issue and I help him just by talking honestly and boosting his self-confidence. pis3rch

yea if he only replays the day's conversations I dont think that is so bad. Especially if you do it at the end of the day

if, however, you replay them throughout the day when you have important stuff to do, then you should be concerned