I think the girl I'm with has a boyfriend (18+ people)

spy on her:Dgbleek2

the guy goes to a different college.

i don't know.. try talking to her..jrnhanie0310

she actually looks like the girl in your sig.

The only solution.

But seriously, I'm in a similar situation. Best bet is to just appreciate what you got now or convince her to drop the other guy.

yea start playing some Biz Markie:

Have you ever met a girl that you tried to date
But a year to make love she wanted you to wait
Let me tell ya a story of my situation
I was talkin' to this girl from the U.S. nation
The way that I met her was on tour at a concert
She had long hair and a short miniskirt
I just got onstage drippin', pourin' with sweat
I was walkin' through the crowd and gues who I met
I whispered in her ear, "Come to the picture booth
So I can ask you some questions to see if you are a hundred proof"
I asked her her name, she said blah-blah-blah
She had 9/10 pants and a very big bra
I took a couple of flicks and she was enthused
I said, "How do you like the show?"
she said, "I was very amused"
I started throwin' bass, she started throwin' back mid-range
But when I sprung the question, she acted kind of strange
Then when I asked, "Do ya have a man," she tried to pretend
She said, "No I don't, I only have a friend"
Come on, I'm not even goin' for it
This is what I'm goin' sing

You, you got what I need but you say he's just a friend
And you say he's just a friend, oh baby

Depends, if you really care about her and just want to be with her then I'd say don't push her...

If you're just afraid that she's playing you then try to confront her about this second guy, ask her if you're wasting time... but don't get your hopes up.

*****slap her for giving you blue balls!

But seriously if she's being that shady, she would probably do the same thing to you if you were going out with her.

Drop her ass.

Leave. All girls like that will ever do is screw around. Believe me. You can give them a half dozen chances, but they will just keep doing the same crap.

I mean, she has clearly already demonstrated her unwillingness to stick with one person and that she will mess around behind one person or the other's back, no matter how you slice it.

It's kind of odd that she gave you her MySpace page though, if that's the case, or did you find it via other means?

Just give her the space she needs. Chances are she has a complicated relationship with that other guy and doesn't want to rush into things or add strings. If you want to hang out with her, I'm sure she'd be fine with it but you would have to know your limits._Marisa_

^ She's a woman, I'd listen to her. She's also completely correct.

I guess you could start sleeping with Marisa.MoonSpoon

:o *Sets up lawn chair and grabs popcorn* This should be good.

i just talked to her. she says she doesn't have a boyfriend and she just wants to be friends.... i dont get it. she doesnt want to be in a relationship and yet she kisses me a lot. its not that she wants to just mess around because she wont have sex with me. this is confusing...Zero5000X

In that case, just stop all relationshipy stuff until she figures things out. No kissing, no holding hands, let her decide on her own what is going on. Of course, this is also giving her space.

Why would you want to be with someone, when you have actual evidence that they would cheat on you?LukeAF24

Luke and I agree on something. First time for everything I guess.

i just talked to her. she says she doesn't have a boyfriend and she just wants to be friends.... i dont get it. she doesnt want to be in a relationship and yet she kisses me a lot. its not that she wants to just mess around because she wont have sex with me. this is confusing...Zero5000X

Exactly. Read my post ^ there.

She is a girl, she has no idea what she wants.

And I suggest you do what that other guy said, Don't kiss her anymore.

i just talked to her. she says she doesn't have a boyfriend and she just wants to be friends.... i dont get it. she doesnt want to be in a relationship and yet she kisses me a lot. its not that she wants to just mess around because she wont have sex with me. this is confusing...Zero5000X

You only have have3 realoptions (that werent made up in some idiots fantasy land where everythings happy):

1. leave her ass. self explainatory. she obviously doesnt want a real relationship and its not going further.

2. keep what you have. kissings better than nothing... this is prettty much the same as #3, except its slightly funner for you.

3. stay friends. also self explainatory. she obviously isnt gonna give you anything more, and even if she did theres evidence she'd probably cheat on you anyways. you could always just stay friends...

that's easy sleep with her that'll solve everything.rabidwolf86

*looks at sig*

Is he a jock? Wait, he's posting on GameSpot. Is he a geek?

*head explodes*

I have to get these out there first before my real advice!

Pics or it didn't happen!

Do a barrel roll and keep doing one until you feel better!

Now onto the real advice...

Give her space and continue doing what you two are currently doing in your friendship and no matter what do not mention the other guy, because then you'll have to explain how creepy you've been spying up on her life online. She'll get offended and think your some weirdo and then any chance you had will be gone. Just give her space man, act normal, keep doing what your doing together and things will work out or perhaps they wont. And if they dont work out the way you'd of preferred then dont dispair, thats life so accept it, get over it and move on.

You're done son, you're done. I hate that line..."Don't want to date right now!"

Yeah they would be all over some jock if they were interested.